Start a Change Jar!

As a couple it is hard sometimes to fit things into your budget. Especially those things that are not necessities of life. This is why you need to start a change jar. Simply find a jar that can hold lots of coins and start chucking all your loose change into the jar. Here is the important part, stay out of the jar. Don't get into it for change for the vending machine or for other little things that would deplete your new funds. This money is to be used for frivolous things. Things such as vacations, or date night for the two of you. The moment you give in and start extracting money your special times will go right out the door with it. Plus no one counts on the change that accumulates in your pockets so it seems like free and clear money. This way you won't be feeling guilty about taking that vacation or going to that fancy restaurant on only your change. Make sure you get a big enough jar to hold all the fund and set up a savings account to hold it if your jar gets to full. You have to be tough and refuse to dip into the jar but with a little self discipline you shouldn't have to much trouble and when you are on the beach somewhere you will be glad you didn't get into it.

Just drop it all and go to dinner

Have you ever had a day when the kids are driving you nuts your stuck in the house and you are ready to just loose it? I am sure most of us have had those days. It's not like we don't love our kids or that the stress of life is really that different then any other day. It's just a break down in strength. When this happens you need to fall back on your relationship to pick you up. This is important to get you a babysitter for the evening and go to dinner with your favorite adult, your partner. Go to a place where the two of you can have adult conversation and make sure it never enters into what is going on at home. Talk about politics, investments, movies, or anything else that grown ups talk about. This is specially needed for the man/woman that stays at home and takes care of the children and the house. That is a stressful job in it's self and sometimes you need a few hours off to recharge your batteries. Plan these escapes regularly and you might just see an improvement in the whole cycle. Honor those that take care of the important things at home they are truly a blessing.

Save money together.

Our economy right now has everyone struggling to find ways to cut costs. Doing it together can be beneficial and fun. Get the sunday paper and go through the coupons together. Find the best prices on items by searching the internet and comparing. Make these actions an adventure for the two of you. Do some more research and find fun free things to do for you and your family. These are all great ways to save money and enjoy your time together doing it. Make it a contest to see who can find the best prices or the most fun free thing to do. With a little love and hard work you will not only save a lot of money but build a relationship where two people know how to work as a team.

Making love for good luck!

There is a very special bond between a couple that they don't share with anyone else. That is the bond of intimacy and this is way more powerful then you can imagine. I cannot get into all the details and studies that show why intimacy between a couple are magical because it would take up all the space we have available. Intimacy between a loving couple is a bond that is can bring enlightenment and power to the couple as an unit. Try this the next time you have something big about to happen the next day. Maybe you are going to an interview or have a big presentation at work and you need to be your best. Well simply make mad passionate love the night before. You partner obviously has to be totally on board for this but it can make all the difference in the world. Here are my feelings on why this is good. I use the term luck in the post but I don't believe that it is luck. I believe by being intimate together you form a bond that makes both of you stronger and you take to battle all the qualities of both of you. I think this energy lasts for about 2 days but it is amazing. Your confidence is better, you feel better, you have an aura of success around you. This is the amazing union two people can create. Plus the feeling is unbeatable. Try this next time you need things to go your way and see just how much it makes a difference. I will talk more about this topic later because it is becoming a passion within our relationship.

Use a long drive for deep talks.

Long drives are normally tiring and boring for everyone, especially the one doing the driving. As a couple you can help each other out by saving some deep conversations for your drive. Be it that you are going on vacation or just have a long drive ahead of you. A great conversation not only keeps the driver alert but it also makes the trip seem shorter. If you are the one not driving make sure to bring up subjects that are interesting and fun to talk about for your partner. Ask for their opinion on things and see if you can hit a passionate nerve for them to speak about. The meaning of life, desires for the future, past experiences are just a few things you can start conversations about. As you get into deep conversation the miles seem to pass quite faster and you might even reach your destination a little more refreshed then you would have imagined. If you two are alone in the car it is a great time to talk about your relationship. Don't talk about things that anger you, we don't want a fight on our drive, but the good things in your relationship. Praise your partner as you proceed on your drive. We so often don't tell our partner how good they make us feel and this is a wonderful time to do it. Touch the drivers arm or leg from time to time to give that human touch that is so important and also stimulates their feeling of being loved. Switch drivers when needed but try to keep the conversation going. Nothing makes a drive longer then when everyone is asleep and the driver has nothing to do besides focus on driving. The road becomes longer, and the driver becomes uncomfortable and itching for some human interaction. Music and food can help but it is not near as fun or exciting as that wonderful conversation the two of you could be having.

...and the Holiday is!

Want to have a special day? Why not create your own special holiday. Declare you holiday early in the day so your partner has time to react to the holiday. Send you partner a text or email expressing the holiday and see what kind of reaction you get from them. These self proclaimed holidays can be romantic or even help get chores done. Some examples might be, "National Paint the Garage Day", "Pizza and Movie Night", or "National Try a New Sexual Position Day" Make your holiday crazy and out of the normal. Encourage you partner to make up the next crazy holiday then make it a special event between the two of you. I personally like this one "National Massage Your Partner, Turn the Light Down, and Make Passionate Love Day" I am going to try to get this one through congress.

Couples Sports.

There are lots of things you can enjoy together as a couple. Many of those things involve sports. Participating in a sport together can bring you closer and also be a fun activity to break up the everyday struggles of life. There are lots of sport to choose from, like golf, tennis, or dancing. However you might want to break away from the normal sports that the two of you can participate in and look for something different. Hiking, snorkeling, or weight lifting are sports that you don't do every day but they can build a relationship as you learn and become better at them. Turn it into a passion for the both of you. Research the gear you need compete in your new found love. Once the two of you are comfortable with your new activity you might want to look for other couples to enjoy it with also. Join group functions for you activity and get the big picture of how many others love it also. Not only will you forge new friendships but you will build the one between the two of you.

Dreaming Together

Dream board are simple things that the two of you can put together that will keep you focused on your dreams. You simply put things you want or desire up on the board then hang it up where you can see it every day. Put up pictures of where you want to live, cars you want to have, and places you want to go. Doing this keeps these objects in your mind and seeing them everyday will bring them closer to you then you think. If you want an amazing camera, or a yacht then put it up on your board. Don't worry if you feel that the item is out of your reach because if you believe in yourself you soon will find yourself shopping for that item. Once your board is up, make sure you spend time looking at it everyday and do it as a couple also. Put your arms around each other and talk as if you already have the things in the picture. Say things like I think, "I will take the Cadillac to work today", or "After work lets set out on the deck and listen to the ocean waves" By imagining the things you desire you bring them closer. It might seem silly at first but believe me those desires can become reality you just have to believe.

Yard Work

Yard work is usually something that is dreaded, but as a couple you can take great pride in your landscaping. Plan out a project together, maybe it is putting a rock garden in or putting in some shrubbery. No matter what you do, even if it is just mowing try to make your yard a work of art. As a couple take pride in your yard, make it a point to work at it together. Take turns mowing and weeding the flowers. Make you landscape an extension of your relationship. Let it thrive and grow and be a model for others to follow. Landscaping has many other benefits. It is a form of exercise and is way better than sitting inside watching soap operas. Landscaping and gardening can also be therapeutic for many people. Plus it can make all your property worth a lot more money not only because of your landscaping. Once your neighbors see your yard they will feel the competition and start making their yard a showplace also. This might increase property values in the entire community. Most important, use your landscaping to get closer to your partner. The passion that comes from keeping the immaculate yard might spill over into your relationship.

Can you live without your partner?

As we age we grow more and more dependent on our partner. Once the children are gone and have their own lives we find ourselves returning to a place that we were at during the early stages of our relationship. We now have time for each other again, time to date, time to ourselves anything we want to do. It is like a second honeymoon. What happens when the that all changes and one of you passes away? In so many cases you see the other partner stop functioning or unable to function as they once did. How many times have you witnessed an older person passing and not long after their partner passes. Losing that love doesn't have to be a downward turn for the other partner. There are things to live for like grandchildren and you can enjoy those things knowing the other partner would have wanted you to. Understand at some point and time one of you will pass before the other, that is the usual way it happens.

My suggestion for couples are to be a couple but be able to function as an individual. Know how to handle all things around your house from the bills to the laundry. Know where the life insurance policies are, and the list of how to get a hold of all the people you both know. Find things to enjoy by yourself, don't stop sharing with your partner but have something for yourself. That thing might be what you need in the event you lose your partner. With all this you need to live each day thankful of the wonderful person your in a relationship with. Get past all those little things that bug you but don't really mean anything in the scope of life. Be strong have your own identity but enjoy your partner all you can.

The Ego of a couple

This couple only looks like their relationship is cold. However their couples ego is warm as could be.

We all have an ego all of our own. Be it arrogant or not we all have to deal with it from time to time. My question is however do we have a ego as a couple? Do we see our relationship as different from other peoples be it better or worse. If we do have an ego on our relationship, how do we handle it together. Is it one specific ego that forms from our union or is it a combination of both of our personal egos? We all have the image of a perfect relationship and sometimes we pick a couple that we feel is the ideal couple to base that feeling on. Have you ever left a place and said to each other "Wow they are a great couple" thinking that they have it all together. However we don't know how the respond to each other when they are alone. On the surface they might seem like the couple of amazing relationships but it could all be a front. Their couples ego might be that they have to act like the most amazing couple in front of others. But, when they get behind closed doors it might be quite the opposite. I am sure that you have had contact with a couple that seems like out of the blue they are getting divorced. It shocks you and you think, "Wow they were a really happy couple" but maybe you were just baffled by their couples ego or the image it put forth. I guess what I am trying to tell you is to not let your relationship ego get disillusioned by what you view as the great relationship. Work from the stand point of making your relationship the best it can be for the two of you and let the other relationship egos fend for themselves.

What to do when things are going bad!

Never discuss problems in the bedroom, they should never enter your thoughts when you in this area that is designated for love.

What do you do as a couple when things are going bad in your life. These things can make it tense in your relationship and can even cause problems, which is the last things the two of you need. When things get tough the one thing you need to do as a couple is pull together. Make your relationship the rock in your rocky world right now. No matter what is going on in your life, being able to come home and be comforted and able to leave all the stress at the door is a big plus. No matter if it's problems at work, troubles with your parents, or even financial troubles. Make it a point to talk about them outside of the house and leave them their when you come back in through the door. Go out to eat and discuss your troubles over a meal,or go to the park and find a bench somewhere, or you can even just take a drive to discuss the situation. No matter what it is get it all out and talk about it before you come back home. Once home put your focus into being the couple that you are, support each other and make sure to layer on the love and affection for each other. Make your home the safe haven it should be for the two of you.

Make a savings goal.

As a couple one of the most important things you can do is make a savings goal. Maybe you want to take an awesome vacation, or purchase new patio furniture. Anything that is not a normal purchase would be a great thing to save for. You can put money in a jug or dedicate so much from each pay check to reach the goal. Keep a tote board up in your house to show how close you are to reaching your goal. Make sure to keep the money safe and in a hard to get place so that you don't just get into it anytime you desire something. Once you finally reach your goal then you can celebrate by purchasing the thing that both of your desire. When picking your treasure make sure to pick something the both of you can use. Don't pick a big screen tv for him to watch the games on and don't pick a new vanity table for her to get ready in the morning. Sharing is one of the secrets to staying healthy as a couple. Not to mention the rewards are so much sweeter when you have someone to enjoy them with. Start stocking back the change now I think I hear Hawaii calling the two of you.

Wine Glasses.

Something every couple should have is a good set of wine glasses. You don't have to have a whole bar full and they don't have to be the most expensive glasses. When the two of you get a chance to sit down and share a bottle of wine you don't want to be putting it into the last glasses the McDonald's sold. Nor do you want to pour wine into two totally different glasses that makes you feel like they are are the only ones you can find. There is some symbolic meaning in the fact that the two of you share the exact same glass for the purpose of the drink. This is that it shows you are equals and share in the responsibility of building your relationship. It shows that you are equals and that your love flows from one another like the wine flows across your lips. I don't care if you purchase the cheapest wine in the store you need to make sure you have matching glasses for your toast of love. Once you pour the wine and wait for each other to sip of it's delight you will understand what I am saying.

An easy way to keep love alive.

There is a simple way to make your relationship the most important thing in your life. Simply put you need to love your partner everyday like it might be the last time. Now we are not suggesting that you should hope anything bad would befall your partner. What we are saying is that you should appreciate them daily for all they do. What if they were not in your life how much harder would it be? What do they do to make your life easier? Do they get the kids ready in the morning, to they get up early to take a shower so you can sleep longer, do they do the dishes even if it is not their turn, or maybe they give you time to relax. Whatever the reason you should love them for all they do because it is not guaranteed that it will always be there. People that lose someone suddenly always say the same thing, "If I knew this was going to happen I would have done this differently (speaking about the last time they were together)" We don't want you to think about bad things happening to your partner but we want you to appreciate all they do while they are hear with you. Once they are gone you cannot make up the past, plus when you appreciate them they will most likely respond with more of what you are appreciating them for. Life is way to short not to make love a priority, and if you are not you are short changing yourself and the people you love.

Sharing your dreams!

Now that you are a couple one thing you are going to have to share is your dreams. What ever your passion or desire in life you are going to have to share that with the person that is going to be with you the whole time. With all this comes great responsibility, as you must take just as much care with your partners dream as with your own. The last thing you want to do is squash something your partner feels passion for. Even if you feel that the dream is out of the question you need to still be an active figure in helping them. If you partner does have a passion that is very attainable then you need to be the rock to help them reach the level they need to reach that dream. Support, concern, and a helping hand can bring your bond so much closer as they achieve their dream. Do all you can to help out and become the team that all great relationships become. On the other side make sure to show appreciation for your partner when they help you in trying to reach your dreams. Don't take them for granted and always return their help with a heart felt gesture. Achieving your dreams are great but they are even more special with someone who loves you.

Come on it's Valentine's Day wear some lingerie

Lingerie has long been a part of Valentine's Day, it's sexy and sends a direct message to your partner. That message is I love you and want you to desire me. Now while lingerie is sexy and hot you have to bring a little attitude with it to really pull the sexy part of it off. Someone shy in lingerie is cute but their is something special about someone that is aggressive in their pursuit of you. Victoria's Secret is obviously a great place to purchase your lingerie they have some amazing and wonderful products. However, they are a bit on the high side of the cost scale not that their items aren't worth it. If you need a little more budget conscience lingerie don't be afraid to search the internet to get a less expensive items. Don't stop with just lingerie but oils and toys can make a delightful Valentine's day. The beauty of lingerie is that it is a present for both partners the one who receives it obviously but it is also a great present for the person you are wearing it for. Think sexy this Valentine's day and show your partner how much they mean to you, by showing them the time of their life.

Picture from Victoria's Secret online Catalog.

A vibrator for Him?????

When you in a spot to focus on intimacy there are several things that you just assume are the normal and don't question them. One of those such subjects is that vibrators are just for women and while they are great for women, they can be used on your gentlemen friends also. Think for a minute, a vibrator is designed to stimulate your senses no where does it say that it can only be used by a woman or on a woman. Vibrators can be used for simple massage if nothing else. It just so happens that they are great for stimulating the clitoris of a woman. Have you ever thought about using it on the taint of a man? This area seems to get forgotten in most intimate settings but using a vibrator on it can push your man over the edge. A vibrator can also be used on a man's penis, his scrotum, or even his anus to add pleasure to your foreplay. Ladies it is time to share you pleasure instruments with you male partners, you can even us it at the same time by putting it between both of you in areas that would be touching. One couple will insert the man's erect penis into the woman and then use the vibrator on the part of his shaft on the outside of her and not only does he get the good vibes but she feels them also as they are transferred from his penis to her vagina. Do a little experimenting and see what works best for the two of you, make sure to email me with anything that you find really works well and we will pass it along to the other readers.

"A relationship without passion is like a sword without a handle" - Zob

The quote in the title of this post bears a lot of weight into how you should be thinking about your relationship. Way to often in life we become comfortable and forget to work at one of the most treasured thing in our life, our relationships. We put them to the side for later or move them to the back burner hoping to get around to them sooner or later. Well this is the wrong way to keep a relationship healthy and active. You should do just the opposite, and let me tell you why. Your relationship dictates all your actions, you might think this is crazy but when you really think about it you know that it is true. After watching the movie The Secret, I soon realized that the power starts with you and those that are immediately involved in your life. This passion, if you will is like a snow ball and gains as it rolls down hill, and without passion you are at the bottom of the hill. How much harder is it to push that enlarging snowball up the hill? Chew on that for a minute. Try it out the next time you get a chance and really put some wonderful effort into your relationship, from every angle. Be loving, be caring, be sexual and be attentive and see what happens. I think you will find that your relationship will grow like a flower that gets all it needs to blossom in the warm summer sun. I am curious to hear from our audience as to how they feel on the subject so drop me a line at thecouplesspot@gmail.com Look forward to your comments.

Valentines Day is Coming!

If you are unaware, it is only about 2 weeks until Valentine's Day is here. This is one of the most important days in as far as a relationship goes. It is a day you are suppose to show your partner how much they mean to you. The last thing you want to do is forget and have to pick up some lame gift on the spur of the moment. So today is the day you need to start figuring out your Valentine's Day gift. If money is no object to you then a trip, jewelry, or tickets to a great event are a wonderful idea. However, just because you don't have much money to spare doesn't mean your off the hook. Low on cash, just means that you have to be more creative in your pursuits of the perfect Valentine's Day gift. You could writer you love a poem, or create a fantastic meal for them. Silly things like planting love notes all over the house or decorating your bedroom really show that you are into your partner. Set up a romantic night for your partner will all of the things mentioned above. Make it a scavenger hunt have them run all over town picking up things you would need for your surprise, then when they get home with the goodies have them relax while you get everything ready.

Valentine's Day is a day that is high on the intimacy charts. Don't forget to plan some special love making into your special day. Wear something sexy or lay out something sexy for your partner to wear, put cologne or perfume on and make sure they get a good smell of you. Lastly be provocative make sure they know your intentions, then get wild and crazy when you hit the bedroom. Try something different or something you don't normally do, but your partner loves. The special feeling you get form giving your Valentine their special gift will be one of the greatest feelings you can have. Get your paper out now and start creating your special and memorable Valentine's Day.