Don't put your passion on auto pilot.

We get into routines when we crave the passion we want. The same activities happen in the same order every time we get a chance to be intimate. This isn't a bad thing as we find out what works and stick with it. However this can be the boredom that can haunt our bedroom. The answer is for starters to start being intimate more often. This will allow you more chances to switch things up without the fear of having a bad sexual encounter. Next find some reading material on sexual instructions and try something a little different. You woman will always need a little warming up with foreplay so that is a wonderful time to try different and exciting things. Lastly and this one usually affects the men the most, but slow down. Take your time play with your partner make them feel special when you try something new on them. By taking your passion off auto pilot you allow your course to chance and while you might hit some bumps you will still get to your destination.

Change your scent to help excitement a little.

I love to breath in my partner. The freshness of her coming into my body is an amazing feeling. However it is nice from time to time when she puts on lotion or perfume to get a different scent from her. It can be an erotic experience, say for instance when she uses her vanilla lotion. This change of scent peaks my interest. My nose becomes aware that something is different and that while it is not her essence I am soaking in, it is a pleasurable one. Try out different scents and see how your partner reacts to them. This goes for the men as well as the women. Purchase several different types of body wash or lotions and keep track of which ones your partner likes the best. You might even find that you get certain reactions from certain scents. Real estate agents have long used the trick of filling a house with a scent to help make it more attractive for sale. Now you can use the same tactic to help tantalise your lover.

Ring of Fire

Want a little something to spice up your sex life but not something that cost a bundle? You don't want to dress up and you aren't into the bondage thing. You just want a little something to make it a tad different. Well that is when you need to check into a cock ring. The premiss of the cock ring is to contain the blood flow inside the penis for a more extended period of time. The hope in this is to allow the woman time to satisfy her needs as the penis stays hard longer. Ejaculation is usually delayed a bit and the veins of the penis add a little more ridges to stimulate the sexual parts it comes in contact with. Now cock rings can be dangerous so always read the instructions and don't push the time limit after all you don't want to damage your penis. The added size of the penis while it might seem small is just what the doctor ordered to bring a different light into your sex life. While like anything cock rings can get quite expensive but the basic models will fit into anyone's budget. Try one out today and see how just a little variation in your love making can add lots of excitement.

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Find new recipes!

As a couple we get into the patter of cooking the same things over and over. Remember the days where each day had a title as to what you were going to eat. Meatloaf Monday, Taco Tuesday, ...

Well just as you need spice in your relationship you need it in your diet also. Nowadays new and exciting dishes are just a click away using the internet. Find a website that you both like that has a variety of recipes for several different types of cuisine. Take turns picking out something that sounds wonderful to you and make a list of six new dishes. Then make it a point to try these dishes our during the next month. After 6 months of doing this you will have tried 36 new dishes. They don't have to be ones that take all day to cook find websites that have simple meals that busy people can prepare in no time. Now it becomes a challenge to find new and exciting recipes to out do each other. Grade each recipe after you have consumed the meal and anything with a low score toss out. Ones you give high marks you can store or put into your meal rotation. Now forget about boring Meatloaf Mondays and starting thinking of your meals as an adventure in taste.

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Dinner routines are great but every once in a while break from the norm.

Having dinner at the table with great conversation is a wonderful thing. It can bring us closer and set a time for sharing. However, every once in a while you need to break from the ridged time and make it a party. Yes, make your dinner a party. Weather you order a pizza and eat it sitting on the living room floor or eat standing up in the kitchen. This variety every once in a while can help to explore different things. Maybe it is a new chinese dish that you want to eat while sitting on the floor to get the feel for the way the chinese eat. Make dinner like a family gathering and sit all the food on the table and let you family wander around while eating. You can even make it dinner and a movie where you combine eating dinner with watching a new release movie. Whatever you choice might be just break away from the normal every once in a while at dinner and see what it might spark.

Don't feel like sex, then be a fan.

You know not all the times do our libidos match up. Sometimes one of us is in the mood while the other isn't. It is not wrong if you don't want to have sex and your partner does. In the same way it is not wrong to want sex if you partner doesn't. Well what can you do to keep you both happy. If you are the person that doesn't want to have sex at this time, encourage them to masturbate in front of you so you can watch. This might sound a little unusual but it is a way for you to both get what you want. With different libidos we have to get creative so that neither one of you feel left out or pressured. Masturbation isn't cheating as some people would believe but it can be a very intimate act if you enjoy it together. Make sure to touch and watch to show your partner you care as the pleasure themselves. Afterwards you can cuddle as if you have both just had sex which will satisfy both of your desires. We have to be creative to overcome differences in libidos but with a little effort it can take on a life of it's own.

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Time for some change

Sometimes in even in a relationship we need some change. No I am not talking about looking for a new partner, I am talking about breathing some life into your relationship. Do things a little differently then you have been doing them for the past years. Switch sides that you sleep on in bed, or change chores at the house, these types of little things can make your relationship seem fresh and new. Get a new hair style, pick up a new way to exercise, or rearrange the house all of these little differences can make a world of difference in your life. Go through all you clutter and clean it out make room for new and exciting things. Get all those old pictures out of storage go through them and make a scrapbook or put them on the computer. Buy new sheets for the bed, or switch all the cabinets around not only does this make your relationship better but it will help your mind also. New positions during sex and trying new toys can bring that thrill back to your sex life. So, you see change is a very good thing it keeps our relationship fresh and exciting. Look around today and see what you can change you might just get that little spark you've been looking for.

Different Bed Times.

If you are like most couples you most likely don't go to bed at the same time as your mate. One of you will retire earlier than the other, while the other sits up and completes a tasks or maybe even just watches a game. This is not as bad as it sound, it gives time for one of you to get a jump on sleeping if you need it and it gives the other person some time to themselves. Both very valid reasons for having different bedtimes. However, my take on this is that those first few minutes when you lay down together are important for your relationship. It is a time to relax and unwind with each other and reconnect. It is my opinion that even though you both might not got to sleep you should snuggle down in bed together for a few minutes each night. I would suggest 15 minutes of time together with nothing but the silence and the two of you touching. Breath in each other for these 15 minutes. I say 15 minutes because that lets the person not wanting to retire yet not get to tired just relaxing and it doesn't take much of the time away from the person wanting to enter slumber. Kiss each other lightly and say I love you as the person exits the bed. Don't be offended by them not staying in bed with you, but be thankful that they love you enough to take the time to hold you as you get ready for your slumber.

Standing in your partners shoes.

Have you ever wondered how your partner is thinking? Wondering how they are viewing what you are saying or how they are truly feeling about a subject. Well there is a form of meditation where you try to place yourself in this other persons position to try and feel how they view the subject you are wondering about. Two people can view the same thing in many different was. You need to listen to your partners feelings then try to meditate and put yourself in their positions knowing how they feel. You might get a better understanding of how they are viewing the subject. This doesn't say that the way you are viewing it is wrong it is just that they have a different perspective. Until you can step out of your feelings you might not ever understand theirs. Maybe you don't have to get into a deep meditation to see this? Maybe you can be objective without getting into a zen like state, if so more power to you. I suggest sitting alone in a quite space, relax yourself with breathing and motionlessness. Then visualize the person you want to understand better, then become them in your mind and look at yourself. Knowing how they tell you they feel, visualize it from their perspective while you are looking at yourself. Have them do they same if they are open to it and maybe you both will realize that neither of your is wrong and both of you are right. Funny that is how opinions work, yet without stepping out of our own shoes sometimes it is hard to swallow.

Being There

Sad or bad times are guaranteed to hit your relationship at some time or another. I am not talking about relationship troubles but the ones that come in from the outside of your relationship. How do you handle it when something happens to upset your partner or upset the both of your? How do you comfort you partner to make them feel better? There is no formula you can follow, because everyone is different. While some people need space others need comfort. You cannot judge your partner by what they need. If they need space as hard as it might be you need to give it to them. However if they need the physical comfort you should be there for them in that manner also. You need to find that specific way that you can make your partner feel good. Some people might want to get away and take a trip, while others might want to just hunker down a home. What ever you find that works just make sure you are there as a means of support. This is one of the greatest gifts you can give to your partner and your relationship.

You don't have to fit a type.

One thing people believe is that you have to fit a specific sexual type. The thing that if you are into bondage you always do that or that if you are into role play you constantly have to dress into character. Well this is crazy, I know that couples can hit several different moods that will change their sexual desires and fantasies as they love and grow together. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be tied up one time and wanting to be passionate and slow the next. This is the spice of life. You can keep your relationship moving forward by understanding this important issue. Say you partner likes you to dress in leather, that doesn't mean that every time you have sex you have to be the leather person. I personally have several different tastes and think that it makes me love sex even more by switching them up. I don't want to get into a pattern where it is the same constantly. Mix it up a bit, not only does this make things interesting but it allows you to try new things that might become high on your favorites list. Sex is the glue that hold all the other important parts of a relationship together. It is the basic nature of our attraction, so put it high on your list. Try different and fun things your partner and you will be glad you did.

Valentines Day is Coming!

If you are unaware, it is only about 2 weeks until Valentine's Day is here. This is one of the most important days in as far as a relationship goes. It is a day you are suppose to show your partner how much they mean to you. The last thing you want to do is forget and have to pick up some lame gift on the spur of the moment. So today is the day you need to start figuring out your Valentine's Day gift. If money is no object to you then a trip, jewelry, or tickets to a great event are a wonderful idea. However, just because you don't have much money to spare doesn't mean your off the hook. Low on cash, just means that you have to be more creative in your pursuits of the perfect Valentine's Day gift. You could writer you love a poem, or create a fantastic meal for them. Silly things like planting love notes all over the house or decorating your bedroom really show that you are into your partner. Set up a romantic night for your partner will all of the things mentioned above. Make it a scavenger hunt have them run all over town picking up things you would need for your surprise, then when they get home with the goodies have them relax while you get everything ready.

Valentine's Day is a day that is high on the intimacy charts. Don't forget to plan some special love making into your special day. Wear something sexy or lay out something sexy for your partner to wear, put cologne or perfume on and make sure they get a good smell of you. Lastly be provocative make sure they know your intentions, then get wild and crazy when you hit the bedroom. Try something different or something you don't normally do, but your partner loves. The special feeling you get form giving your Valentine their special gift will be one of the greatest feelings you can have. Get your paper out now and start creating your special and memorable Valentine's Day.

Mix things up a bit.

It is so easy to get into a routine way of doing things. We eat lunch at the same time, our alarm goes off at the same time every morning, and we go to bed at a certain time each day just to mention a few of the ways we fall into a routine. Now some thing you are not going to be able to adjust like what time you have to be at work, and other things that have certain times attached to them. However you can mix things up within your home life. Stay up late and sleep in every once in a while. By mixing up the way we do things we get our brains out of their routine, which is good for our overall health. Do things in different orders then you usually do. Have a late lunch, or an early dinner so that you can do something different during the day. Mix up the times you make love, don't fall into the trap that the only time you can make love is right before you go to bed, chance it up and do it when you wake up one day, or when the mood hits you in the afternoon. If you feel really adventurous make a lunch date to make love. Other things you can do is change the times you normally go on date, check out a movie during the day, or meet in the morning for a nice walk. Anything that you do that has a normal time of day attached to it can be moved around or altered to keep you fresh and exciting. For instance you could cook breakfast items for dinner sometime, or record your favorite shows and watch them at a more opportune time during the day. Keeping things in a more chaotic order might make everything seem different and more exciting, if you stay up late to do laundry while watching your favorite movie might make this chore exciting.

Different Views

Have you ever noticed how people perceive things in different ways? Like one person finds sweaty people sexy while another things that when you sweat it is just gross. It makes you wonder why we can be so different. How can one person love to see women in stockings and another say they look like a street walker. This different view flow into our live at every angle. Art is a great example, some paintings appeal to me and some that I find not very good at all sale for hundreds of thousands of dollars. This makes me think am I missing something, is my perception off kilter. I think these is something you need to consider in your relationship. So when you partner asks you to wear something sexy for them or doesn't like the drapes you have picked out we don't become lost in our perspective. You will never be able to see through your partners perspective but understand it is okay for them to have a different perspective then you do. So next time your partner asks you to wear that nightie that you hate or to get really sweaty before you make love, you might have a little more insight and understanding. This doesn't mean it will change your perspective but it might help you please your partner. Understanding that they just have a different perspective is okay and that you don't have to always cater to their perspective but every once it a while is okay. Who knows you might like their perspective a little better if you try it.

A simple touch can mean so much!

Have you ever stopped to thing about how a simple touch can mean so many different things. Where you touch your partner at, how you touch them, the pressure you put into the touch, and your location can all mean different things. Light touches seem to mean soft things like I would like to kiss you, while grabs and hard hugs tend to mean I would like to get a little more physical with your. When you are out to dinner a lite caress on the arm could mean "I am having a really good time" Do you touch your partner in different places depending on what you are looking for? If you partner is cooking supper and you come up behind them and hug them while they are cooking. Could mean a simple, thank you for cooking supper. Rolling over and laying on your partners chest could mean, take me now big boy. Think about it each and every time you touch your partner. What message are you trying to send them, really.

Afternoon Delight

Most of us thing about making love in the evening or in the morning when we wake up. We are missing an important time frame however. The Afternoon is one of those times that we don't think about as often as being a romantic time. One time I think the afternoon ends up being sexy is during vacations, if the two of you are alone on vacation it seems like a great time to get naked, maybe you have been to the beach all day and before you get ready to go to dinner, you have, well, a little afternoon delight. Then you get up and get yourself ready for dinner. Obviously work schedules have a great effect on doing anything during the afternoon. Let alone having a little wind ding. Make yourself a promise to get busy some afternoon with your sweety it changes up your whole day and gives you a little spontaneity to your love life. If you need to imagine you are on vacation.

Charting the Monthly Cycle

Most of the ladies out there whether you are on the pill or not, have a way to track their monthly cycle. They are prepared for the event before it happens. Men, you need to take some examples from them. We need to be prepared for the monthly event also. Make your own chart and see if you can find trends that might help you out as that time of month rolls around. Track if your partner gets upset easily, or angry for no reason. Sometimes little things will set women off at this time of month. Some women might get really emotional and cry at anything and everything. By tracking this you will be much more prepared to deal with the changes then most men. Understand that it is out of their control, and that it is part of the make up of women. Once you get the cycle down and are pretty comfortable with it, you will find yourself knowing when your partner might get a little more emotional or when not to ask if you can have the guys over for a poker party. Being a couple requires that you are sensitive to each others needs and most women's make up changes a little during her period. Find things to do during her period that might make her a little more relaxed. It might be a good time to give her a massage or rub her feet, make her feel special and most importantly understand that this might be an uncomfortable and painful time for them.

Many Uses for Vibrators

Most of you that use a vibrator use it to stimulate the clitoris. That is a wonderful and great use for the vibrator. However if that is all you are using it for you need to listen up. Vibrators can be used to stimulate so many areas on the body. Think of all your erogenous zones and how it might feel to have a little vibration on them. Another thing you need to realize is that vibrators are not just for women either. Running a vibrator up and down your man's private parts can be a real turn on. You can also use your machine as a massager you know how they show the women in the magazines using them. Neck muscles, hips, feet can all benefit from the movements a vibrator puts out. So don't be so shy with your gadget and get it out of the drawer a little bit earlier during you time together. I have heard that some people can even get turned on by the sound alone. If you get a powerful enough on you might even be able to mix your drinks with it. Just kidding, don't put anything on your vibrator if you are going to use it inside your partner. The sugar from your drink is not good to be inserted in any one's body that way. However do use your vibrator for fun and excitement, take turns at turning each other on with it. Find a way to place it between the two of you for double the excitement.

Role play may just be a name chage away!

Are you happy with your name? I hear so many people say I hate my name. Well my suggestion is to change it for a day. Pick a day when you and your partner are going out of town shopping or to eat, this helps avoid confusion with people that might know you. Then on your way to your destination decide on a name you would think you enjoy having. If your partner is game pick a name for them also. Then the rest of the day you have to call each other by that name. Yes it's silly but it might just help you step out of your normal personality and allow you to act differently then you usually act. The best part about it is, unless you run into people you know, no one knows the little secret the two of you have.

You could even make it your first date, between the two new people you have become. This is where a little role play might come in to the day. Make up information about you new identity and your background. Be outrageous as you tell your new partner about silly jobs you have had or dramatic events that have shaped your life. You might just find out some wishes your partner might have but be to embarrassed to say when they are their normal self. Who knows the names might even become pet names you use for each other.

Our life's are so busy and jammed with events, sometimes it is good to step outside of ourselves and see the world through someone else's eyes. Even if they are our eyes with just a different name attached.