Speak my name!

Let me ask you this question how many times to you say your partners name? If you are like most couples you use pet names like babe, honey, sweetheart, etc to address the love of your life. For the next couple of days I want you to try speaking your partners name when you talk to them. For starters it will mix things up a bit and get them aroused that you are using their name. Do this even during any intimate or passion you might have between the two of you. When you climax call out their name, when you want to ask them a question use their name, or even when you are just talking to them use their name in the conversation. Their brain will pick up on this change and it will make them feel good knowing that your thoughts and speaking is directed at them and not just anyone. This might help keep your relationship in that beginning state before you were comfortable enough to use pet names. Mix it up a bit, because it might be a bit much to only use their name all the time, but the fun part will be to watch their reactions the first few times you do this.

Get yourself a little something this year.

This may sound a little zany but go out and purchase yourself a little something this year. When you get home wrap it up and on the name take put that the present is to you and from your partner. Don't speak a word of the present and only put it under the tree when you have lots of other things under it also. When it comes your turn to unwrap it you have to put on a good act and pretend like you don't have any idea what it is. Go overboard thanking your partner for getting you such a wonderful present and see how they react. Maybe right away they will say, "I didn't get you that" or "Where did that come from". After seeing your reaction they might just take the glory on picking out the wonderful present. Just watch the look on their face it will be priceless.

Role play may just be a name chage away!

Are you happy with your name? I hear so many people say I hate my name. Well my suggestion is to change it for a day. Pick a day when you and your partner are going out of town shopping or to eat, this helps avoid confusion with people that might know you. Then on your way to your destination decide on a name you would think you enjoy having. If your partner is game pick a name for them also. Then the rest of the day you have to call each other by that name. Yes it's silly but it might just help you step out of your normal personality and allow you to act differently then you usually act. The best part about it is, unless you run into people you know, no one knows the little secret the two of you have.

You could even make it your first date, between the two new people you have become. This is where a little role play might come in to the day. Make up information about you new identity and your background. Be outrageous as you tell your new partner about silly jobs you have had or dramatic events that have shaped your life. You might just find out some wishes your partner might have but be to embarrassed to say when they are their normal self. Who knows the names might even become pet names you use for each other.

Our life's are so busy and jammed with events, sometimes it is good to step outside of ourselves and see the world through someone else's eyes. Even if they are our eyes with just a different name attached.

Name that Tune? (Click here to download iTunes for Help on this topic)

Here's is a great game to play with you partner. The classic name that tune. I have several ways to play. I got the idea from my sister who everyday post song lyrics on her facebook profile and asks friend to name that tune. This is a great game between the two of you however. If you are apart during the day, text song lyrics to your partner, then see how long it takes them to figure out the song. When they get the song right they get to text you song lyrics back and you have to guess. See if you can stump them or if they will stump you. You can also do this by recording a song on their voice mail, while they are at work and have them check it on lunch.

If you happen to be a home together with nothing to do. This just get on itunes and take turns picking songs for the other to guess. Make the person guessing turn away from the computer screen and then you search for you song. Click on it for a sample and have them try to name that tune. I have put a link for itunes in the title message of this post. So what are you waiting for I can name that song in 5 notes can you do better.