Oh, My Aching Feet…I Wanna Foot Massage

You are on your feet all day.  Those boots weren't made for walking ;) or maybe it was those dress shoes.  Ugh.  You walk in the door and so wish that there was someone just waiting there with a foot bath and ready to massage your feet!  

Well, if you can't have that, you can have the next best thing.  I remember a few years back when we borrowed an electric foot massager for a "spa day" that some of us created for our kids' school teachers.  I must admit I really enjoyed having it.  It was freaking awesome!  I am thinking maybe it is time to check out some new ones :)

Oh, here is an awesome idea.  Would you love to create a special evening for your sweetheart - one he/she will never forget?  How about getting a foot massager…there are so many different kinds (check out relaxingfoot.com to compare)…you could then light some candles, run a hot bath, offer a full body massage (after the initial foot massage), have food delivered, play some soft music or a favorite movie and make your lover feel super special. Do you wish your partner would do this for you?  Well, maybe you should share this post on your FB wall or his/hers?  :)  **Hint hint.

Off to relax,
Janelle and Rob

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A morning massage just might be what the doctor ordered.

On those days that you get to snuggle together in the mornings you might take advantage of the time to start your partners day out right. A morning massage no matter how small might just kick start your partners day. Gently start rubbing you partners shoulders to see if they are receptive to the morning massage. One sure way to know is if you hear the moan of pleasure. That is the tell tell sign that you should continue. A massage not only gets the blood flowing but it also stimulates the nerves in that area and really will give your partner a wonderful sensation. When you wake in the morning you might be a little more relaxed so that the massage has a bigger impact on your partner. Plus it just plain feels good to have the person you love's hands touching you the first thing in the morning. Some of the great places to focus on are the shoulders, the arms, the legs and a big one is the feet. A massage can be a wonderful feeling but it is much more than that can be a wonderful way to build closeness in your relationship. The feeling that you partner is thinking about your well being right from the start of the day, should grace your face with a smile.

Don't forget to say thanks.

Thanks for cleaning the kitchen honey, let me show you how much I appreciate it.

Being in a relationship is great for the simple fact that there are two of you to get things done. You partner can do things for you when you are unable and vice versa. You can even ask them to do things when they have time and they are usually going to do them for you. Love is funny in that manner. The problem arises when these helpful things go unnoticed or unappreciated. That is when chores or helpfulness seems more like orders then helping out. Appreciate the things your partner does and don't always take the easy way out and say "Thank You" Do something special for that person and in return you are going to get a lot more help when you need it. Take your partner out to a wonderful dinner after a day of them running errands for the two of you. Pick up the book they have been wanting to read as a token of your appreciation. Offer up a massage at the end of the day and express your appreciation while you make them feel good. My favorite however is to slip into something sexy or fill your bedroom with candle light and find a way orgasmically to thank them. Love is such a special thing and the last thing you want is your partner feeling unappreciated, so make sure to whisper softly in their ear, "Thank You"

Pulling Hair isn't just a form of fighting

When you hear the words "Pulling Hair", if you are like me you immediately think of a fight. Maybe you think of someone so frustrated they are pulling their hair out. However pulling hair is actually a great newer form of massage. Using the senses in you scalp you can relax and improve the health of your partner. Now we are not talking about pulling hair out of the scalp or pulling hard. What you do is get close to the scalp and gently tug on the hair. You want to use the tug and release technique all over your partners scalp. They will start to feel the relaxation filling their whole body. I must admit I am very impressed with the feeling it gives me. So next time you partner is stress simply pull their hair!

Below is a more detailed account of what happens to help you understand why this is important and healthy. And if you click the title of this post you can see a video on how to do a hair pull massage.

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Hair Pulling Scalp Massage

Linda Tellington, a world-renowned animal trainer, developed hair pulling scalp massage. During her work with animals, called Tellington Touch or simply TTouch, Linda discovered that these techniques were also very effective on humans.

Gentle but firm pressure is used to glide from your scalp to the ends of each small section of hair. The resulting pressure at and beneath your scalp is both pleasurable and beneficial. Hair pulling scalp massage causes a release of tension in the micro muscles surrounding each hair follicle, restoring pliability to your scalp, and causing the relaxation response in your entire body. The relaxation response lowers your heart rate and blood pressure, slows respiration, neutralizes stress chemicals, and counteracts the “fight or flight” response.

Seventy percent (70%) of your nervous system is in your head. Hair pulling scalp massage activates neural pathways to the brain, stimulating unused brain cells, and awakening cellular intelligence. This awakened cellular intelligence reorganizes the nervous system, enlivening nerves reminding the cells of their function, and creating cell to cell communication.

Beta brain waves are the normal waking state where logic, thinking, and problem solving takes place. Alpha waves produce a detached awareness and profound relaxation. Theta waves occur in the dream state, and when the subconscious supplies the answer to a problem without a step by step process. Delta waves are seen in deep sleep, in healers, while the body heals, and in persons with psychic/intuitive abilities.

Beta, alpha, theta, and delta waves emerge in both hemispheres of the brain in a pattern known as the optimum brain wave state. This state is creative, healing, and peaceful. Successful people utilize this brain wave patter naturally and more often. Hair pulling scalp massage helps develop and strengthen this pattern.

Because hair pulling scalp massage releases endorphins, your body’s own natural pain killers, it is effective for:

• Headaches (including migraines and sinus)
• Whiplash
• Neck and shoulder tension
• TMJ dysfunction syndrome
• Neurological trauma
• Nerve injury
• Body aches and stiffness
• Mental tension
• Emotional upset

Gift certificates are available in our office, or you can now order a Gift Certificate from our web site. Massage does not replace the need for appropriate medical and prenatal care. Consult your primary health care provider before receiving prenatal massage.

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Afterplay?

We have all heard of foreplay as it is essential to our sex life. Have you ever thought about afterplay? Sex shouldn't just end after climax you need to cool down just like you need to warm up. Afterplay can be as simple as holding each other or caressing the skin lightly. Afterplay is something that could defiantly benefit your relationship, forming a strong bond at a time when you are accepting of it. I suggest being a little more hands on during afterplay everyone is a little sensitive in their genital region after they orgasm but give it a little time then caress that area, also. Don't be afraid of the fluids that you have expelled during your love making it is safe and okay to play in it. Massaging the outer parts of your partners genitals can be relaxing when there is not the need to become aroused. Heck with a little luck and a willing partner afterplay could become foreplay all over again.

Other things you might consider as afterplay bonding is getting a snack to replenish both of you, fruits work wonderful here. A shower together is a wonderful form of afterplay that not only makes you closer but also gets you clean. Afterplay could even be important if you partner might want to have another orgasm and you just can't. Always remember that sex isn't just over once the deed is done because this time is when you love can become so much stronger.

Hair / Head Massage.

When you partners runs their fingers though you hair, do you get a wonderful sensation that you wish wouldn't stop. Maybe your sitting home reading together when your partner starts scratching your head. You want to be like a dog and start moving your leg with the scratching. My point with all this is that we sometimes forget what wonderful sensations that touching can have on our head and hair. Take about ten minutes and give your partner a massage on their head, making sure to pay attention to the hair. Move the hair around, tussle it a little bit and get those nerves in your head and follicles singing with feeling. You might be amazed at how wonderful and exciting this massage can feel. Get online and find some great technique and tonight surprise your lover with a little head massage to get them relaxed. What happens after that is totally up to you and the sensation your head massage gives.

Hand Massage

A great way to show your partner you are thinking about them in a less then sexual way is to give them a hand massage. We don't realize how much we use our hands. If your partner spends any time at the computer or typing then their hands might need it more then they realize. Hand massages are easier then other areas of massage because you can sit together. You don't have to be over the top of them or sitting with their back towards you. Get some massage oil or even baby oil and gently work the meaty parts of the hand. Most likely you will be meet with a moan of delight as we just don't get our hands worked on very often. Then make sure to work each finger individually. Make sure not to pull to hard or creating pain in any way. Make sure to follow up with the other hand and really work out the kinks that are most likely there but unknown to the receiver. This romantic massage can be preformed anywhere and you can even do it while the two of you are watching television. Touch is such a relationship builder that you should take advantage of any way possible to touch the one you love, and a hand massage is a great way to do that.

Experiment with your toes a little

Toes, toes, toes, they never get the recognition they deserve. Unless you have a foot fetish or a toe fetish they pretty much go unnoticed. However, toes can be wonderfully sexy. Freshly painted toenails can add an excitement to your love making. Using your toes as a sensual tool can be a challenge that most couples will find a little exciting. You can do so much with your toes that are sexy. Think about massaging your partner with you toes. Using your toes like your fingers you can run them across your partners genitals to get them aroused and feeling vital with a new sensation. Rubbing your partners toes can be a turn on for both partners with the use of oil and technique you can turn your toes into a erogenous zone very quickly. Kissing and sucking on clean toes gives another sensual dimension to your love making. Toes may not be the first thing you think about when you become aroused but they can definitely add to the adventure of intimacy.

Butt Massage!

A great way to make your partner feel good and maybe warm them up for some sexual activity, is a butt or glute massage. I have attached a video on the massaging the rear end. Massaging this area can be quite erotic for both the giver and receiver. Set the tone for the massage even before you get your subject in the room. Light some candles, have nice full towels scattered around and pick up some wonderful massage oil. Massage oil is important because it allows your hands to be forceful yet glide over the areas without resistance. Don't be to ready for sex afterwards because this technique might work so well at relaxing your partner that they might fall asleep. Remember touching is a wonderful tool in building relationship so don't shy away from it.

Financial Troubles

One of the biggest problems in relationships today is financial troubles. Not only do they weigh on the individual but they can really put a stress on your relationship. However, there is no time like the present to do something about your financial crisis before it ends up hurting your relationship. Most people will get angry at their partner when discussing this matters as you feel it is all the other persons fault. If you look at it however if you are in a committed relationship it is the couples fault. Once you get past that hurdle you can both sit down and start to hash out a plan to get you out of this mess. You might need to get more help and hire a financial consultant that can give you insight into how to address situations. Set a budget and stick to it make it a game you can even reward your partner with things such as massages, special dinners or even sex if they help to get the two of you out of debt. Most couples have gone through tough time you are not the first and will not be the last, you focus should be one correcting the situation instead of blaming anything. Amazon has a wide selection of books on the topic of getting finances back in order and you can click on the bar at the side to take you there in a hurry.

Massage Technique : Focus on the Sacrum

Most of us love a great massage and massage has been the focus of several of our posts here at The Couples Spot. This post however, I want to focus on one specific area of the back. The sacrum is the triangular bone at the base of your spine, your tail bone sits just above your butt crack. The sacrum is located just above the tailbone. This area contains the sacral nerve, which connects straight to the genitals. The sacrum can with stand some pretty heavy massaging just make sure not to venture to far down towards the tail bone. Massaging the sacrum can give a tingling in the genitals and in some men can even result in an erection. Not only can this stir up feelings in the genitals it has also been know to help with back pain and with headaches. Most massages help with stress also and it is just nice to feel you partners hands against your skin. Next time your giving your mate a massage make sure to pay attention to this area, ask for feedback and listen to what feels good. If you do it correctly you might just be rewarded for your efforts.

His or Her stress? In a relationship you both share the stress.

Does your partner seem to get stressed rather easily? How does it effect your relationship, are you unable to do things because your partner is to stressed, does it effect their mood and or their demeanor. Does the stress level your partner feels mirror into your relationship? Well simply put their is no way to avoid the stress of your significant other, you are the person that will get the brunt of it. Hopefully you understand this even though it is tough to stomach at times.

When people are stressed they tend to dwell on the object or situation that causes them the stress. As their partner anything that you can do to help them avoid thinking out this item the better. There are several web sites out there with suggestions on how to combat stress and I would suggest you reading up on it. If you are the partner that seems to handle stress better then you might be able to help them out by diverting their attention away from the stress. Things such as taking walks, getting outside on beautiful days are great ideas. Find some activities to enjoy and make sure they participate. Starting an exercise program is not only beneficial in the reduction of stress but it is also great for your health. Looking at what you eat can also help in the battle with stress. Massages are a wonderful way to help the person you love cope with their issues. Sex is another great option as it brings you closer and burns stress away quickly. Many people say that they get to stressed for sex and yet sex is a great way to let go of stress, so fight through that initial urge to pass and realize that it might just be the best way for your partner to help you battle the stress monster.

Making the stress disappear completely is most likely not an option in most cases. We can only do so much and usually the stress isn't something you can just defuse quickly. Helping them cope with the problems and getting it out of their minds is the next best thing you can do if you love them. Help them breath in the fresh air, and see that all this will pass.

Click on the title of this post to view a list of stress reducers.

The Lingham Massage

Ladies if you are in a serious relationship you need to do your part to keep your man happy in this relationship. Just like it is his responsibility to do the same for you. What I want you to do is work on your massage technique for his penis. Nothing makes a man feel better then having the person he adores play with his manhood. If of all you have to understand that massaging of the penis is not like your normal massage. You are not trying to relax the muscle or work out any kinks. You are basically getting your man worked up and ready to make love to you. With that said you shouldn't just perform the massage until his penis is hard. You need to take your time and work your magic on a soft and erect penis. Feel all the ridges and places on his penis, use different techniques (click on the title of this post to go to a massage technique page), use any part of your body you wish, your breast and mouth are two of the most common. Don't settle for the normal however, use your feet or your hair anything that gives a different sensation would be greatly appreciated. Lastly you need to make sure he is satisfied, you can either have great sex with him, give him oral sex, or if you are not in the mood a hand job is fine. I think a lot of women don't understand that most men want to be with their partner anyway they can. If a hand job is all your up for tonight that will be fine with your gentleman partner. We all know the old standby that the woman gets a headache and doesn't want sex. Well it is okay if the woman doesn't feel like it but she needs to know that it is still okay for the man to get excited and get off. If you can understand this feeling in your man, women you relationship will improve greatly, sex is important to your relationship. Even if your not in the mood, remember there are two people in this relationship.

Isn't it nice to have someone in your life to watch your back.

Okay this might be a little bit of a silly post, but I want you to realize the importance of having a partner when you need something done with your back. Whether it be sipping up a dress, getting a bug off you, to just a good old scratching. You know that everyone, except a contortionist, has a spot on their back that they cannot reach. Who better to scratch it then the person you love. Or maybe you just want a massage on your back it feel so much better when the person you love gets their hands all over you, then when you do it yourself. Like today I just came in from mowing and realized I had just got stung by a insect. Little to my dismay the insect was still on my back. Like a trooper my partner whisked me to our porch and knocked the insect off my back. Their was no way I could have reached it but my love saved me from getting stung again. So the next time you have a itch you can't scratch be thankful for the love in your life.

Many Uses for Vibrators

Most of you that use a vibrator use it to stimulate the clitoris. That is a wonderful and great use for the vibrator. However if that is all you are using it for you need to listen up. Vibrators can be used to stimulate so many areas on the body. Think of all your erogenous zones and how it might feel to have a little vibration on them. Another thing you need to realize is that vibrators are not just for women either. Running a vibrator up and down your man's private parts can be a real turn on. You can also use your machine as a massager you know how they show the women in the magazines using them. Neck muscles, hips, feet can all benefit from the movements a vibrator puts out. So don't be so shy with your gadget and get it out of the drawer a little bit earlier during you time together. I have heard that some people can even get turned on by the sound alone. If you get a powerful enough on you might even be able to mix your drinks with it. Just kidding, don't put anything on your vibrator if you are going to use it inside your partner. The sugar from your drink is not good to be inserted in any one's body that way. However do use your vibrator for fun and excitement, take turns at turning each other on with it. Find a way to place it between the two of you for double the excitement.

Post Number 100 - Get between their toes.

Ladies and Gentlemen I would like to thank you for following me enought to get my 100th Post.

In this post I am going to encourage you to work a little magic on your partner. I am sure you all read my earlier post on foot massages and reflexology. Well today I want you to expore this a little more and venture between you partners fingers and toes. Very seldom do we touch each otehr here. We mostly avoid these areas. Why? I don't know. Everyone I talk to says they are very erogenous land they effect other areas that you might not think they would. One reflexology reserch I read suggests that if you massage the area between the big toe and the one right beside it you will send triggers to the sexual organs and will encrease you orgasm. So tonight try this before you begin your love making retuial and help me celebrate my 100th episode.

Oh, but don't think about me while your getting in one, unless it helps you enjoy yourself then fire away.

Feet!

As a couple you might think your feet are that important. Yeah they are there but what other purpose could they have in your relationship. I am sure you have heard of people having a foot fetish. Not everyone has to be over the top with it, but feet are sexy. Plus they can be a great starting point for foreplay. Think about it how relaxed would you be if your partner gave you a nice foot massage today? Throw in some oil and really kneed out those tired feet. I can almost feel the pleasure now. Research has shown that massage is a great starting point. Use different type and scents of oils to add effectiveness. If nothing more you will feel good even if you are the one being massaged or the one getting the massage.

There are also many nerve endings in your feet and you can relive pressure to other areas of the body by finding this points (below is a chart for you viewing) I have also included a link to a reflexology site in the title of this post. Maybe with a little knowledge and some foot work you will be able to end some of the pain in your partner. That should get a big thank you from them.

Think about it who else would you want touching your feet besides your partner. Isn't that in itself a turn on. So ladies touch up your toenails with polish and men wash those feet good in the shower. Cause tonight we are going to start from the bottom with a good foot massage.

Wash each others hair. (Click her to learn more about sensual hair washing)

Next time your partner is taking a shower slip in with them and wash their hair. Take turns and return the favor after getting your washed. There is something about someone else running their fingers through your hair. It is accentuated when your hair is wet and soapy. Make sure you naked wet bodies stay up against each other for that added effect. Let the person whom is getting their hair washed enjoy the moment. Take a little longer then when you wash your hair. This is not a "Just get it Done" job, it is meant to be savored and romantic. Make sure you know their routine also. If they use conditioner make sure you use it also. When it is your turn make sure to enjoy the total sensation of getting your hair washed. The scalp massage, the magical fingers playing with your hair, and the rinsing of running water over your entire head.

Thing of this as a cleansing washing all the troubles and concerns out of your partners head. Maybe then some better thoughts will pop into their head (wink, wink). Watch below to get some tips from the Zohan!!