Love Proverb

"A heart that loves is always young." 

Proverb

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Texting to Break-Up

Times sure have changed haven't they?  

One of our teenage sons has been broken up with and broken up with another

via text messaging.  What happened to doing this in person, or the Dear John letter?

What is next?  Might as well be our elementary kids texting their homework answers.

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The Key to Your Heart & Soul

We can't turn back time and undo the things that we have done or that have been done to us.  But, if we lock the door to our heart and to our soul and throw away the key, we can't continue growing either.

Pick up your key, insert it into the lock, turn it, and slowly and gently open the door.  

Reach out your hand to the world, the future that you have yet to hold.  

If need be, simply peek out the door.  When you are ready take those first few steps and see just what possibilities, what opportunities are waiting for you.

Just opening the door will allow fresh air to flow into your heart and soul.  

Is it frightening?  To some - very much so.

Is it worth it?  YES!

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Pass something back and forth.

Sometimes we need a little something that shows the care our partner has for us. We need this physical thing to touch and enjoy while they are not around. My partner and I have a wonderful little heart shaped rock that we pass back and forth depending on who needs the most love. When I have a big day ahead with lots of things coming at me my partner will make sure I slip our heart rock into my pocket before leaving. On a day when my partner is having a lot of stress or things are bothering her I slip our heart rock into her hand. This simple little gesture makes things so much more right in the world. Holding or touching that heart rock lets both of us know that the other one is with is in our hearts as we are challenged by the day. Yours doesn't have to be a rock it can be anything. A special coin, a trinket from a trip, or a special token the point is that this item carries the love you have for each other and is a reminder of that. You can't be with your partner when they have troubles outside you house all the time but with your own heart rock you love will surround them.

Sometimes you just have to get mad

Sometimes you just have to get mad. Does't matter if you are in traffic or at home. You just have to let it out sometimes. This way you don't explode later for no reason. Direct your anger at what makes you angry and leave your relationship out of it. We tend to dump our problems into our relationship because it is comfortable and easy to do. Our partner tries to understand but sometimes it is just way to hard. Think about that next time you fly off the handle at your partner because work was bad. Did they cause the situation or are you just directing your anger at them? Chew on that next time.

Enjoy time off.

The last thing that we ever want in a relationship is to have changes effect us. Things like losing your job can really test a relationship. Both of you have to be prepared for a change like this and securing a new job is a task in itself. The one thing you need to do to make this time less stressful is to make sure to enjoy the extra time you have together. Take time to do things that you might not be able to once you are back to work. Like day time walks or staying up late to watch a movie. Keep you job search in the for front but take the time to enjoy and rekindle your relationship. The job will come but they time you enjoy together just might be more important.

Change pictures often.

Here is a great way to keep things fresh in your mind and your relationship. Get a few picture frames and set them around the house in specific areas, where they will be viewed often. Then place just a regular picture of in them. Now comes the fun part pick and time frame, be it a month or a week. Then when that time frame is up go around to all the pictures and change them. Put a different picture in each and every frame. The change of scenery if you will, can make you and your partner do a double take. Once you get this in place your partner will soon be watching closely as it near for the time for the picture change. If this might be to much for you to remember every so often, then get one of those digital picture frames. Then load up a memory card with lots of pictures and put that card in the frame. Then all you have to do is go over and switch the picture being shown on the frame. You can set the digital frame to rotate however if you do this then make sure to load some different pictures onto the frame from time to time. Then you can sit back and enjoy the pictures and the memories of things like vacations, your wedding, birthdays, or just times of relaxation.

Take stock in your relationship during trying times.

When the world seems to be weighing down on you and troubles seem to be all around. The one place you can feel safe is in the arms of your love. You can't make the troubles go away, but you can help you feel better. The world will not end because of your troubles and life will continue you just have to take comfort in the fact you have a great relationship and a loving partner. Standing together holding hands is a much better way to face your troubles then by yourself. Take stock in your relationship and let you love guide you.

Let your kids or others kids see you being in love.

One thing that I feel is way to avoided in our society is letting our children see what being in love is about. I am not saying you should sit there and make out in front of them. Let them see the two of you holding hands, and let them know that a quick kiss it okay, and one thing you have to do is let them know that Mommies and Daddies need time alone. With these things you are sitting up the ground work for you children to have great relationships in the future. Our children learn from our examples, so if they see their parents in a relationship that is full of spite and anger that is what they will feel is a normal relationship. It is time to break the mold and let your children understand that you love each other. Tell them how much you love their other parent or your partner, don' think that they cannot handle it. Talk about your lover to them when they are gone, tell them you wished they were home or that you miss them. Children understand a lot more then you realize. If you want your children to have great relationships in the future lead by example and let them see what love is about.

Easter is a time of renewal.

Easter if you are a religious person marks the returning of Jesus. If you are not then easter marks the returning of life in the form of flowers, and plants. Which ever you believe make it a point to renew you love on easter. Get out and enjoy the warm weather and the purity that is nature with each other. Breath in the fresh air and breath fresh life into your relationship. Sit down and think for a minute about why you fell in love with your mate, are those qualities still there. If you say no then you might need to look a little deeper. People do change over time so maybe there is something new that you are thankful for in your partner. Don't let your love slip away from you, it is time to put focus back into your relationship. Things outside are starting to spring back to life and your relationship if not it them best shape should take a note from nature and revive it's self. Show this post your your partner and let them get their own take on it and then together sit down and list the qualities that you love about your partner on a piece of paper. Then exchange them and see what you think about each other. This is a great exercise to keep your relationship strong and vibrant. Do not put down anything negative as we want to focus on the positive. List personalty traits, their physical apprearance, as well as the great things they do for you and the community. What your partner swell with pride as the read the great things that you think about them. Easter again is a time for renewal so take the time to renew your feelings about the person you love the most.

A great place for a date.

When we think about dating we usually think of hitting the hot spots. The night clubs that are jumping or the new fad places that every one is attending. If you in a relationship or really wanting to get to know this person, why would you want to go to a place that has music playing so loud that you can't even hear yourself, let alone the person your with. Sure if you want to go out dancing this is a great place, but if your focus is getting to know someone or spending some quality time with them then this is not the place. What you need to find is a quiet little bar or restaurant where you can sit and have a great conversation. Maybe they might have some televisions on for people to watch, as long as they are not blaring. There are many of these places around that you can just relax and enjoy your conversation and time with your special someone. If a bar is not what you had in mind you could look for places such as coffee shops, book stores, or even internet cafes. All of which give you a chance to hear and be heard. Look for places the two of you can call your own, don't pick a place that has no business, as it might not be there next week. Pick a place that has a steady flow of people but isn't crammed. Think of places that might have out door seating for the warmer times of the year. Remember that you want you partner to focus on you during this time and vice versa so don't pick places with to much going on it will only end up biting you in the end.

The Correct way to get your partner in Shape.

Many of us unfortunately don't take the best care of ourselves. This makes no sense, for starters you need to be in good shape to make yourself feel better and by feeling better you increase the quality of your life. Not to mention you get little extra perks, like your partner thinking your hot as you work out or that you can fit in the small seat the others can't. Now how do you handle the problem if your partner is the one out of shape and you don't want to offend them but you want them to improve their health.

Well here is my suggestion. Encourage them to do any type of physical activity to start out with. Get them to go on walks with you or encourage them to go play golf with the guys. Anything that will get them up and moving is a start. Then start offering suggestions on things you would like to start doing such as bike riding, jogging, and or aerobics. See if you can get them to join in. Offer incentives if they balk, tell them you don't want to do it alone and if they care about you they will reluctantly say yes. Bribe them with sex, or they get to pick the next movie you rent. Once they get up and going you have done your part, now all you have to do is keep it up and don't stop. Set a routine so they get to understand that say Monday is the day we do aerobics together. Don't take no for an answer if they balk keep on them it could be a matter of life or death.