Changing your words can change the mood.

Sometimes the words you speak don't truly tell the story of what you mean to say. Our partners hear different things as we speak because of the words we choose or the tone we use when we say them. For example, I can say "Let's have sex" and it sounds like I just want to get my enjoyment and I don't care about my partner. However if I rephrase that to "Would you like to be intimate tonight?" I have now changed it to a question allowing my partner a chance to respond unlike the order in the first statement. The second statement has also been softened up and sounds more attractive to both partners. Putting things into questions is a great way to avoid conflict because other wise it sounds like an demand and not a caring wonder. You should take this approach in all your manners of dealing with your partner. "Honey, could you please take out the trash" is going to get a much better reaction then "Would it kill you to take out the trash" Make sure you use softer tones when dealing with your love this expresses a compassion for them that everyone loves. Try it by using the same statement but then softening your voice and saying it again. Use for example "Pass the butter" now say it in a more quite tone and softer. See the difference. Sometimes just the tone comes out all wrong. So now start thinking about the words you speak and start putting different words and questions as well as a softer tone into them and see how your partner responds. This could be very good for you.

Keep your Fingernail and Toenails neat and clean.

You hear it so often that after marriage that people start to slip in keeping up their appearance. They fish is caught so why keep using bait is the wrong philosophy to use. One area that you might not think about that often is your fingernails and toenails. There is no bigger turn of then having overgrown and dirty fingernails or toenails. The desire to be touched will be suppressed if the hands that are touching you have dirt under the nails and are jagged and scratchy. Yet this problem can be avoided when you simply sit down to watch television. Keep your nails trimmed neat and make sure to clean out from under them after you come home from work. After you take a shower is the best time to fix your nails as they are softer and easier to work with. Don't think your toes are unimportant either you feet touch in bed all the time and you don't want your partner to think they are sleeping with Freddy Kruger. Not only does neat and trimmed fingernails and toenails help in appearance but it will help in your sex life also. Neat trimmed nails are a plus as you explore you sexuality and your partners. You defiantly don't want to scratch or cut your partner during these times. Ladies paint your nails also it adds a great visual for your man as you touch and please him. Again keeping your nails up isn't a hard chore, but not doing it can find your partner shying away from your touch and that my friend is not a good thing.

Ladies shave those legs before bed.

There are many countries around the world where the women don't shave their legs. This is accepted by their culture and is not thought of as unattractive in these countries. However here in America it is very unusual to see a woman with hair on her legs. Here we usually look at is as someone that doesn't take care of themselves.

Ladies your legs are a valuable asset to you and your relationship. Soft shaven legs are sexy and can make even the most straight laced man melt. Us men love to run our hands across your fresh soft shaven legs and for obvious reasons. With that said ladies you might want to change up your routine a little. For example I shave my face a lot of times before I go to bed, so that just incase my partner wants to get close or intimate, she is not met with the sandpaper my face becomes. Same holds true for you ladies. If you know (and you know when you want to) you are wanting to be a little more then sleeping partners make the effort to shave those sexy legs of yours. That way your partner will drool to get his/her hands all over those soft legs of yours. Not only do your legs help with getting your partner to touch you, but they also make you feel more sexy. Fresh shaved legs are also a must if you like to wear stockings and I will speak for most of the men out there and say, "We love stockings" The nice part about using your sexy legs is that you don't have to be naked to get the feeling. You can put on a nice pair of shorts and get the foreplay started a little before you make it to the bedroom. Other things you might consider is a nice lotion to use on your legs to make them even softer and smell wonderful.

Chime in and let us know what how important legs are in your relationship by sending comments to me at thecouplesspot@gmail.com

Create a great atmosphere

Sometimes when you are updating your house you over look some of the things that might come in handy later. Carpet is one of those things.

When you choose a carpet for your house you need to think about other things than cost.

I know most people try to get the cheaper carpet figuring they might have to replace it later. I want you to look at it from a different perspective. From the ground up, if you will.

How much time are you going to spend on the carpet? Do you and your partner like to lay on the floor and watch TV or talk? Do you have children that just like to roll around on the ground?

These type of questions might make you see why a super, soft, comfortable carpet might just be worth the money. I personally enjoy just laying on the carpet with my sweetheart or my children all snuggled up with me. It also makes a great place to stretch and work out. Sit-ups are a lot better on a great carpet.

Now, if you get new carpet, you know you are not going to wear your shoes on it and this way you will enjoy taking your socks off and feeling the soft feeling on your bare feet. Lastly, what if you and your partner want to get a little frisky on the carpet? Maybe you fall off the bed, think about the feeling of the soft, warm carpet on your bare skin compared to the cheap carpet that is just put in to last so long.

If you can't afford new carpet, you can pick up a nice soft rug to put in the middle of your living room or bedroom. Which ever place you plan on rolling around on the floor. *Wink Wink

--Rob Alex