What to talk about.

One great thing about being in a special relationship is that you always have someone to talk to. What happens when you just don't have anything to talk about. Maybe you have been together so much that you just can't think of anything interesting to say. You can talk about work or the children, but maybe you want a little deeper conversation. You want to tap into your partner deeper feeling about life in general, but how? What we do when we need to find some interesting conversation is get out some of our old board games and use the questions. Any trivia style game or situation game will do. Just take the cards and find a comfortable place to fire questions back and forth to each other. One of my favorites for this is a game called "Loaded Questions" it is basically just simple questions to ask each other there are not right or wrong answers but they let you know where your partner stands. Another game very similar is Table Conversations, or What Would you Do. Actually I have through out all the boards and spinners to these games and just have kept the questions. I have them quickly on hand for times when we have alone time so that we have plenty to talk about always.

Keep your Fingernail and Toenails neat and clean.

You hear it so often that after marriage that people start to slip in keeping up their appearance. They fish is caught so why keep using bait is the wrong philosophy to use. One area that you might not think about that often is your fingernails and toenails. There is no bigger turn of then having overgrown and dirty fingernails or toenails. The desire to be touched will be suppressed if the hands that are touching you have dirt under the nails and are jagged and scratchy. Yet this problem can be avoided when you simply sit down to watch television. Keep your nails trimmed neat and make sure to clean out from under them after you come home from work. After you take a shower is the best time to fix your nails as they are softer and easier to work with. Don't think your toes are unimportant either you feet touch in bed all the time and you don't want your partner to think they are sleeping with Freddy Kruger. Not only does neat and trimmed fingernails and toenails help in appearance but it will help in your sex life also. Neat trimmed nails are a plus as you explore you sexuality and your partners. You defiantly don't want to scratch or cut your partner during these times. Ladies paint your nails also it adds a great visual for your man as you touch and please him. Again keeping your nails up isn't a hard chore, but not doing it can find your partner shying away from your touch and that my friend is not a good thing.

Speaking Kind words will be out soon for all to enjoy

Our first book "Speaking Kind Words" will be out in March sometime. We are very excited and hope that all our fans will pick up a copy. The books focus is on ways you can improve your relationship with way you say things to each other. Turning things that would be considered complaining into a way that helps build your relationship instead of tearing it apart. If you have anything nice that you say to your partner to build them up we would love to hear it so drop your suggestions to us at thecouplesspot@gmail.com We would love to hear your ideas and might even use them in the book giving you credit of coarse. Understand that anything you send us is viewed by us as permission for us to use your idea in the book. Thanks and keep improving your relationship each and every day.

The nice slutty girl.

Ladies until you are in a relationship you have the been forced to decide what type of woman you wanted to be. Unfortunately the male gender has such a narrow mind of classifications for you. Two categories stick out in my mind nice and slutty. There were the types of girls you took home to meet mom and they type that you went out with for only one reason. First of all let me apologies for the male gender, and next let me say that with the open sexual attitudes today this thinking is breaking down fast. Onto my point for to days post, if you are viewing my blog then you are most likely in a relationship or married. Now you can combine all these things into one to create that best relationship you ever had. You can be super sweet, the girl next door while you are out in public and then when you get home you can put on your stiletto heels and make your bedroom a play room. If you have a great partner you no longer have to worry about them telling buddies in the locker room about what the two of you are doing. This gives you the freedom to explore your sexual desires and that make your painters life even better. I don't think you will find anyone that doesn't want a little more excitement in the bedroom . Plus being able to explore your own sexuality can be a real boost for you, too. Being the object of a persons affection is a great way to build confidence and it will bring the two of you closer also.

Liquid Sounds.

To me nothing sounds more romantic the the sounds of liquid. It can be anything from ocean waves, to waterfalls, even a babbling brook sounds wonderful. Rain can be several different romantic sounds based on the way it is coming down. Storms are exciting and a light drizzle is relaxing. You can find recordings of these types of sounds anywhere music is sold. Do you and your partner a treat tonight and pick up the sounds of some water and relax the night away.

Don't let grumpy people bring you down.

Have you ever been out with your partner, having a great time. When someone grumpy brings you down. It never fails, either someone is jealous or they just hate seeing people happy. How do you handle those situations? You first response might be to get mad at them in return. That only gets you hot under the collar. The thing to do in my opinion is to smile and say something polite to them and walk away. You don't want to ruin your time together and you definitely don't want to let this grumpy person get the best of you. By saying something nice to them you will throw them off their game. Try it out the next time you run into this grumpy person. Smile and say "I hope you are having a wonderful day" or "Do you need a hug" most likely they will walk away and not say anything. Maybe just maybe by doing this and not ruining your day you might just improve their day. Being nice in contagious so try it out today.

Saying something nice...

Okay here is your assignment for the day. I want you to say something nice about your partner. Simply enough I am sure you all have tons of things you like to tell your partner about why they are so special. Now here is the catch. You have to say this to another person, not your partner, and I want it to be where your partner can hear you. The assignment just got a little tougher. Social settings make it easier to perform this assignment as you have many people to talk with. With a little thinking I am sure you will be able to find away to accomplish this.

Heck call someone and talk within ear shot of your partner. I think you will see a big smile on their face as you talk about them to someone else. You can add bonus points to your assignment if you can talk about how great they are at intimacy or romance. Heck just pretend you are talking to your buddy or girlfriend on the phone and give some juicy details just not to juicy. For an added touch have someone call you on the phone then tell them to hang up, tell them you just want to test your phone.

We all love to hear good things about ourselves. I make them so much better when you are telling those things to someone else. We know they are true then. You can tell us one thing to our face to be nice but you tell your friends the truth. Now I aspect this assignment to be turned in on time and I hope you put enough effort into it to get an A. Don't forget about the bonus points.

Keep Lovin'

Rob