Put your feelings in a journal for each other to read.

Here is a great way to let your partner know how you are feeling. Start a feelings journal that you can keep by your bed. What is a feelings journal?, you might ask. Well it is a little book where you write anything you would like your partner to know. It can be things that bother you, or the way they make you feel great, to even things you would like to discover or try. The subject matter can range between bills to sex. The point is the journal is a way to communicate things to each other. The way it works is you both set a time for you to write your feelings in the journal. Make these different time I would suggest a time where the two of you are apart and not only do you write your feeling in your feelings journal you read what you partner has wrote. A feelings journal is a great way to express to each other feelings that you might not be comfortable with just talking during your normal conversations. Now here is the kicker you don't ever confront you partner on what they wrote! You take it in put it in your mind, you can act on it later but you, never ever read their statement and go right out to confront them about it. I think once you get in the habit of writing and reading a feelings journal you will become closer. One last word of advise this is not a bashing journal if all you are going to do is write down things that upset you then you might as well throw the journal out the window now. Sure sometimes you will want to address something negative but most of the time it should be positive and build your relationship. Try it out I am sure you will enjoy it and it only takes a couple of minutes a day. Time well spent.

Keep a couples diary

Have you ever been sitting around together and wondering what you were doing last year at this time? Maybe you are sitting here right now going I hope that you both remember this a year from now. Well why not keep a journal of what is going on in your life. Right down the happy and sad events, your feelings and where you think the future will be going and then in a year read that entry to see how you felt or see how close you are to getting to the place you wanted to a year ago. Once you get past the first year you will have entries to read each and everyday as you enter your newest thoughts and feelings. If you don't want the hassle of keeping a journal lying around then create a blog for the two of you. You don't even have to publish it keep it in a word document you can add pictures or what ever floats you boat. One of the biggest reasons for doing this is to show you how problems get solved or just go away. Sometimes we stress way to much about our troubles not realizing that they will pass in time. No matter which way you decide to keep your couples diary start it today and you will be one day closer to be able to answer that question: What were we doing a year ago?

Be prepared for Valentine's Day next year.

Here is a wonderful idea, the only downfall to it is that you have to wait until next year at Valentine's Day to enjoy it. Basically all you do is start writing down all the sweet and wonderful things your partner does for you in a journal. You do this day in and day out for an entire year, then next year at Valentine's Day you present this journal to your partner with a card attached that says here are some of the reasons this past year that you made me feel special. Now you can't just have one or two things written down in this journal. Make it a point to fill the journal up. Your partner will have a great time reading through the little notes on things that they did the past year to make you feel special. In fact, by writing these things down you to will gain more appreciation for your partner and all they do for you. Have a great Valentine's Day tomorrow and show you love how important they are to you.

Document major achievements in your relationship.

We all make sure to document times like anniversaries and birthdays but do you remember in important times in your relationship? The first date, the first kiss, your first vacation together, the list can go on and on but do we really document these things? Well you could really surprise your mate by making a big deal over any of them. For instance my partner and I attended a movie on our first date and on our first year anniversary I had the ticket stubs framed for us to put on our wall. Now that may seem like a lame gift but it had such sentimental value that really you couldn't put a price on it. Later on in our relationship I gave her a note that she passed to me on one of our dates, she was shocked and amazed that I had kept that note. In return she has impressed me with her documenting things in our relationship. She could tell me the exact clothes I was wearing on our first date, and the song that was playing the first time we kissed. If you haven't yet start a journal of all these wonderful memories and firsts, then when ever you want to create a sentimental memory all you have to do is look back in the journal to find them. D0n't be afraid to do this if you have been in your relationship for a long time, the things you do today might be important in another ten years. So don't delay start your memory journal today.

Sexual Journal

I believe something every couple should do is keep track of their sexual activity. I hear what you are saying that it will take away from the spontaneity of your sex life, if we jump up every time we have sex and mark the calendar. I see the positive of it however. If both of you keep one you can record things you like or things your partner liked each time you were intimate. You can also keep track of what positions you used and what type of sexual acts you performed on each other, so that you can mix it up the next time. People who do this and keep a accurate account of their sexual activity will be more apt to have more sex. They will look at the calendar and say "Wow I didn't know it's been 4 days since we made love" It also helps keep it in your mind and maybe will help you organize your sexual ideas and motives. You can purchase a little calendar at the local discount store, your put it on your computer, even the applications for the iPhone and iPod touch have an intimacy counter.

Get in touch with all your sexual activities by keeping track of them. You might be amazed at how it will improve the frequency of sex for you and your partner. Both partners need to do this to make it truly work properly and you must enter every time you have sexual activities, yes even when you masturbate.