Don't forget to set time aside for your love.

Do you have those days where you just collapse into bed? You have spent all day taking and running the kids around, working, doing laundry, etc, etc, etc. Yet the one thing you have forgotten is one of the most important things in your life. That is your relationship! You have spent all you energy doing the other things in life and now you have no time or energy for your relationship. This is when you have to dig deep and find the energy to give to your partner. They deserve it and you know it but it is hard when you are ready to just relax. I suggest that you start thinking about saving some energy through out the day to save for your partner. Think of yourself as having a battery and just sit down and store away some charge for your partner later. Your relationship will benefit greatly if you have time to converse under the stars or talk while laying in bed, or even have a little physical encounter that lets you both sleep with a smile on your face. Don't wait until it is convenient for put time into your relationship you need to do it every single day. Take 15 minutes or so and just sit and store some of your energy up and tell yourself, "That is for my relationship later"

Take advantage of time apart.

There are times when you and your partner will have to spend some nights apart. Be it work, children commitments, or just functions they are attending you will have to break apart. This might not be hard for some couples. However, some people have trouble sleeping when their partner is not in bed with them, or they seem lost and don't know what to do for sure. If you are one of these people that your life revolves around your relationship then you need to prepare for nights apart. Save things you need to get done for you times apart, rent movies you have wanted to watch that your partner might not enjoy, catch up with some old friends, anything you can think of to keep your mind off the time. By doing this you will soon find that the time has passed and you are ready for bed. Another thing you might do is stay up later than normal so that you are really tired when you got to bed. This way you don't lay in bed and think about that special person that is not beside you. Remember the time will pass and use it to your advantage. Get things done so that you have time with your partner when they return. Clean the house if you have nothing else to do that will occupy a lot of time.

Can your relationship be spontaneous in this day and age.

Most people want their relationship to just fall in their lap. You want a magical fairy tale that is happy all the time and just happens. Spontaneous relationships are a fairy tale, the truth is relationships take work and lot of it. The rewards are amazing but without putting the effort into them you will be left, just waiting for things to happen. Sure their are some people that are so in tune with each other that they seem to think the same but believe me they have issues just like everyone else. Spontaneous happens when you are not thinking about what you want. I don't know anyone that doesn't think about a relationship if they want one. I think the word spontaneous should be taken out of any association with a relationship. Think about this. People always say that they want spontaneous sex and when it happens the passion and love are great. However, you end up waiting and waiting and waiting for the spontaneous to happen. It's frustrating to wait for passion and love, taking the initiative to bring those feelings on is how you grow a relationship. If you have to wait for spontaneous to show your partner how much you care about them they might get the feeling you don't care. Stop waiting for things to just happen in your relationship. Take them by the balls and make what you want happen. Go as far as to schedule things like dates, getaways, walks, talks and even sex. Quite waiting on spontaneous because it never shows up when you need it to. Take charge and take action today.