Just be buddies for a day!

There is so much pressure in a relationship to have it perfect. Being romantic enough, having your finances in order, having the best sex possible, and catering to each other are enough to give you a break down. First thing, stop trying to make your relationship perfect it isn't possible. No relationship is perfect they all have flaws of some sorts.

The next time the two of you have a day just to hang out with each other I want you to just be friends. Treat each other like you would your friends. Joke around do things that you aren't relationship based. Go play golf, go shopping, eat at a place that isn't romantic, do what you do when the two of you are apart. Have fun, be silly, and don't put any pressure on the day by being a couple. This might sound a little silly but it will bring you closer more so than you might think.

One of the biggest problems I hear from couples is they don't have fun together anymore. Their dates seem like chores or things they must do. Break out of that and start being friends again and see how it improves your relationship. When we start dating we obviously have some attraction to each other but we really want someone we can have fun with. So why should that stop once we have this wonderful relationship? You tell me.

Make your partner one of your buddies.

Can you make your partner one of your buddies? You sure can. The first thing you have to do is not act differently when you are with your buddies, if your partner is there. Don't spend all the time with your partner, and talk to your buddies as if they were one of them. All of you go to a ballgame or out for drinks. You can build a special bond with your special someone if you include them in events like this. You partner will feel as if you trust them to hang out with your friends and that you are not embarrassed by this. Sure there are times when you need to be away from each other and you have to set those boundaries. Say for instance a group of women are going on their annual Christmas shopping spree. Bringing your partner along on a tradition you have would be not a good idea. Vice versa if the man and his friends go on a fishing trip once a year, a partner would most likely chance the trip for the people involved. So set these boundaries and be considerate of your partners feelings in these matters. Going to a ballgame or talking in a show are great opportunities to get all the people you care about involved. Have cookouts and invite them over for drinks. Maybe with a little work you can integrate all your friends and have great get together with them. Just know where to draw the line and don't step on any toes.