No matter who you are you have an annoying friend. That is common knowledge but how do you put up with your partners annoying friend? Do you just not be around with they come over or you make faces every time they open their mouth. Knowing that this person is a friend of your partner locks you in a little. Number one never tell you partner they have to stop hanging around said friend. The exceptions are it he or she is hitting on you, then you need to tell your partner. If the fact is they are just annoying, then you have to have a little tolerance. Try to get to know them a little better, a lot of annoying people are that way because they don't know how to act in front of you. Understand this is part of your partner, his or her choice of friends is part of their make up. Since you care about your partner, you need to be the bigger person. Chances are that once this person sees that you are not going to take their friend away they will calm down and most likely stop being so annoying.
Think about your friends I am sure if you look closely at their actions you might see the same thing in one of them. Understand that a protection device is all this annoyance is. Make the effort to reassure the friend that you are both going to be part of their life and you should work together. Use their help to throw a surprise birthday party or pick them out something for Christmas. Friends can add a lot of insight into your partner. So look past their annoying features and look for something good in them. Don't ignore them make them feel as if they are part of your relationship.
Yess it's not easy to compete with your partner's friends, he met them before he met you. So the only way is try to compromise and become their friend too. :)
ReplyDeleteVery nicely put this is not a competion there need to be room enough for both of you in this realtionship. You don't have to be their best buddy but you do have to tolerate them.
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