The Exchange

Just like in the spy movies we sometimes in a relationship have to have a little exchange. In the movies they put items in a briefcase then switch the cases then they are done. The go on their way, well maybe the get chased or shot at. In a relationship our briefcase is imaginary and the baggage we put it in is a lot more important. The exchange happens quite quickly and you have to keep your eyes peeled to see it. Just like in the movies it is a switching of items that one party had that the other one wants. In a relationship it happens like this. You might ask your partner for a neck massage and they might reply "I will massage your neck, if we get to watch the movie I want tonight" BAM the exchange is made and both parties get what they want. Sometimes this exchange might take a little more debt or bargaining. With a little practice and time you will quickly be doing this without even thinking about it. Now your relationship has become a game of espionage. That sounds a lot more sexy then just saying will you trade for this.

The Barter System

Sometimes we would love for our partner to do something for us but hate to ask them. You know if you have asked them massage your back a hundred times. You still want them to massage you but you feel like your taking advantage of them by asking. Well if you find yourself in this situation I suggest you use the barter system.

The barter system is a very old way people use to exchange goods and services. Farmers might need something from the local store but had no money to pay with. The farmer would then offer some of his products from his farm for the goods, things such as eggs, milk, or grain. So this is the system I want you to use.

Next time you want that massage, offer something up in return. Offer to cook them their favorite meal if they give you a 30 minute massage. Always set times or goals on the barters so that no one feels cheated. Because just saying give me a massage might mean a hour massage to you but might only mean a 15 minute one to him. Sometimes you might have to sweeten the offer to get what you want, but the nice part is you both win in this type of bartering.

Sexual favors works wonders in getting things you would like. So don't be shy ask for what you want and express what you will to give up. I am sure you will both feel great after the trade. You can extend your trades over days if need be based on the time you have available. Just make sure you always keep your end of the deal or the next time you barter you partner might balk a little.