Lift your man up!

Ladies if you haven't learned this by now you might not ever. Men think about sex a lot. This is our nature we desire it, we fantasize about it, and we want it all the time. Back up a bit that last little part isn't quite true. Men want sex all the time isn't exactly true we want it until we can have it. Our mind it focused on it until we reach that golden ring. I did a little experiment recently and found that once I had sex I was able to focus more on other tasks be it at work or home more easily for about two days. Once that third day hit my mind started telling me to think about sex again. Which got me thinking, it we had sex every three days my wife would never be able to tell me that all I think about is sex! I read somewhere that most really successful men have a lot it common but one of those things is that they never had to worry about was sex. They said their partner was always there for them in that capacity. Then in another article I read it said that couples that have more sex are happier and live longer. Are you starting to see the trend like I am. Ladies here is my feeling after I read these two articles. If you want your man to be successful, happy and healthy all you have to do is have sex with him on a normal basis so that it doesn't preoccupy his mind. Without having to worry about when he is going to have sex again, or what he can do to get more sex he will be free to think about things like improving his career, fixing up things around the house, and even doing more non-sexual romantic things.

This epic battle of men and women over sex, shouldn't be a battle at all it should be a compromise to benefit your relationship. Men I suggest trying you own little experiment and see how long sex releases it's grip from you mind after you have it. Be honest with yourself and your partner as to when that craving for sex starts to creep back in. Sex everyday is a wonderful thought but it isn't the compromise that most couples make and frankly I don't know if I would actually like to have sex everyday. That might become boring and I never want my sex to become boring. Talk with your partner about this and let them know you are trying to find the compromise that will make you both happy, if they get mad about that then they aren't really putting the effort into your relationship that you both really need.

What questions are you asking?

Relationships are give and take and they will always be that way. However I see many couples that don't want to explore each others worlds. We want to tell them about the wonderful or awful things that happen to us but how often do we ask them about things? What is your first course of actions in the morning? Do you ask your partner if they slept well or if they had any exciting dreams? When you get home from work what are your first words? The should be, "How was your day?" or "Anything exciting happen today" Demand that your partner tell you about their excitement and their happenings even if they are boring. Hopefully then they will return the favor, this sparks so much conversation in your relationship and it shows that you really care about them. Resist the urge to jump in and start telling your story until they ask about it and if you can't wait just make sure to ask about their day after you are finished. We want to know that our beloved want to know about what we are doing it makes us know that they are thinking about us during the day.

Gifts?

I had a reader respond that they were a little miffed with their husband and the gifts they he purchases for her for their anniversary, birthday, and Christmas. Her concern was that she got things that were useful instead of things that were sentimental. I hate to generalize because everyone is different but most men like getting things that they will use such as sports equipment, tools, or electronic devices. This flows over into their own gift giving ideas, while you think a sweeper would be a horrible gift, in the typical man's mind a new sweeper would be great as it would help get things done better and faster. Men don't on the surface think about how sentimental gifts can be. Plus they don't listen very well when you are dropping hints. If you say "Oh I like that" as you pass something in the mall, he thinks you just kinda like the item and doesn't store it into his memory bank. Women if you want your man to really know what you like you need to be very straight forward. Lead them over to the item and make them look at it with you for a while, then say "That would make a lovely gift, I would love to have it someday" Now you man will store that as a direct gift to give you. Ladies watch how your man looks at things he wants to have, it is very clear when he wants something, you have to be that straight forward with him. Once you get him thinking about getting you presents that don't have a purpose then you might begin to see him branch out and start doing a better job of pick out presents on his own. One last note, when you do get something that you truly want, make a big deal about it, cry, jump up and down, hug and kiss him with passion because those are images he wants you to do when he gives you a gift. This will make sure the next time he goes out to get you a present, he will be looking for one that gets the same reaction. If a vacuum is what you really want however try to contain yourself when you open it because if you go crazy, you might just get a new model of vacuum every year.

Get your Game on for after the Unwrapping on Christmas.

Now is the time to think of what the two of you are going to do after all the presents are unwrapped and the food has been digested. Go out and pick up some games that will be fun, whether it is just the two of you or the whole family. Pick some games that can get everyone involved find one that has questions that you can ask each other or other members of your family that are still hanging around. Board games are nice but they don't allow you to get comfortable as you have to sit around a table so you have room for the board. I would suggest just taking the cards and go around the room asking questions to each other. One of my favorite game of all time is the Loaded Questions line. The questions really get you thinking as you have to explain your answer and their are no right or wrong answers it really helps you to get to know someone better by playing. Not only is it fun but it is a great conversation starter for times when everyone is being quiet. Click on the title of this post to go to the Loaded Questions Game Site, they even have an adult version that you can play after you kick everyone out of the house.

Sexual Good Luck

Some people believe that sex is a deterrent and that it keeps you from focusing on your goals. I remember hearing about one soccer coach that wouldn't let his players have sex during the World Cup. Needless to say they didn't win. My feelings on this subject are a little different. I believe that sex can be a distraction from your goals, if your not getting any. Let me put it this way, we are going to think about sex and want sex that is human nature (especially for us men). The longer we go without having satisfying sex the more our mind searches out sex (or thinks about it) this is why we can't focus on our goals. I feel that if your sex life is very satisfying and you don't have to wonder when and if you are ever going to get it, it frees your mind up to concentrate on the other things important in your life. Try it out make sure to have adequate sex for the next few months and see how much more you get done. You might be amazed. Once we remove the distractions (in this case the yearning for sex) the goal line seem clear and easy to reach. Plus the sex is a great feeling in it's self!!!! With this principal in place great sex will bring your so much good luck!!

Kiss your partner from behind.

Next time your partner is sitting at a desk or table this is what you need to do. Walk up behind them and before they get a chance to turn around. Wrap your arms around them and give them a kiss on the neck or cheek. This jesture says, "I don't want to interput you but, I love you" These types of jestures are important in a realtionship and they keep fires buring. Now you partner is thinking of you and keeping you in their mind even though he/she is working.

Shared Thinking

Sometimes in your relationship you have to find common ground. Why not start this out from the beginning by sharing your thinking. Anything that you might want to accomplish will benefit from the two of you putting your heads together to find the best ideas. Even something as simple as finding a place to eat. If both of your offer your ideas maybe you can find a place that caters to both. Say she wants seafood and he wants steak, I am sure you can find a place to eat that offers both. Same thing for all the things you do. Painting your house, remodeling, finding the right house. If you share your thinking you can usually satisfy both partners in a relationship.