Get some plants around your house.

Tarzan didn't have much problem with his love life so maybe plants might help everyone out. 

           Plants are part of nature and nature is part of your relationship.   So why not get some plants into your bedroom.   The extra oxygen that they produce will help the air quality in your bedroom as well as chance the smell depending on the plants you choose.  You can create a very different setting with the plants you pick and even give your room a more exotic feel with these plants.   Soon you might even have start hearing jungle sounds and drums as you search the vegetation for your partner.  Well it might not go that far but it can be fun to roll play a little with it.  Get up and head out to your local nursery today and start your collection today.  

Being Kids again.

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            Sometimes it is the simplest things that can bring you closer.  Doing something you did when you were kids acting silly or just plain throwing a little caution to the wind.  When is the last time the either of your went sledding?  Getting bundled up for just a few minutes of pure bliss and joy riding down the local hills on your sled.   Get a good sled the two of you can ride together and spend that minute of joy shooting down a snow covered hill with the wind in your face and most everything out of your control.   Hold on to each other and laugh as you sled comes to a crashing holt throwing snow all over the both of you.   Let your heart open and enjoy just pure bliss with your partner.  Now you can trudge up the hill again for another joy ride or spend the rest of the day inside sipping hot chocolate and holding hands.  

Hearing the voice of your love.

A great phone can be a huge blessing when away from home.

          When you have to be apart nothing is more soothing before you drift off to sleep then talking to your partner, you love, your spouse.   When you make plans for your trips make sure to adjust times to be able to say good night.  Maybe you might have to call once they are in bed  but have that understanding before and they will anxiously be waiting for the phone to wake them up to hear your voice.   If time differences are truly an obstacle then make times when you can call and leave a voice message for them to play right before bed time.  This works both ways so both of your get together and figure out the best time and way for you to say good night to each other.  It will be worth the effort. 

Sleep touch!

           Sleep touch is one of my favorite parts about being a couple.  The actual physical contacted between the two of you as you sleep is a magical elixir to keep your love strong.  It lets the energy coarse through both of you as you sleep and relax.  It keeps you close and lets you guard each other in the night.  Think of it as your lovers force field that covers the both of you as you sleep while touching.  You can spoon each other, hold hands or even rub your feet together which ever way works best for the both you.  You might get be able to enter each others dreams in this manner of sleep touch, or astral project with each other depending on your abilities and feelings.  

The power of a couple far exceeds the power of the individual.

          My partner and I have done a lot of talking about the power of the couple recently.   While we both feel the power of the couple can be a super power we both agree that both individuals must have their  own power to bring into the combined power.  We don't feel you just become a couple and bam you are an energy super nova.   It is finding that power that fits together like a puzzle to create this super nova affect.   Once the two of you figure out the best way to work together that is when the amazing part starts working,  taking both your individual powers and putting them to work filling the universe with your desires.  So think about that next time you start something together and find how you both can work the best together and then watch your results you will be amazed.  

The cream always rises to the top

Who is your cream that rises to the top in times of need?

          You know I understand how they got this old statement "The cream always rises to the top" as when they made cream the good stuff floated to the top while the sour stuff remained at the bottom.  You really understand the metaphor of this statement when something goes bad.  You see the true colors of those that love you.  You see how they step up and go out of their way to help you out.   You really see how important you are to them.  You can see it just in the way they look at you.  So next time maybe your sick or something bad happens don't dwell in your own sorrows so much that you can't see the beauty of the love all around you.  Sometimes it is a great place to start rebuilding a relationship or just to see that love that you sometimes take for granted.  Your cream is always there you just have to look for it a little closer sometimes.  

Power Outages and love is the best medicine.

            Sorry for the lack of postings lately but our power went out for a couple of days.  Then a quick trip to take care of the flu I thought turned into a extended stay at a very expensive hotel call the hospital.  Quickly as I was poked and stuck with needles and hooked to many many machines to give readings, and vital signs something was missing.   An important area wasn't there to make me feel better.  My wife at that time was in California at a seminar for her masters degree program.  Upon hearing the news of my problems  she quickly got on the horn and changed the flight to get home earlier.  That first night was cold and lonely as I lay in the hospital and waited to hear news from doctors or nurses.  However all changes the next day when my wife arrived.  It was like sunshine filled the room as she walked in.  Don't get me wrong I wasn't totally cured as she walked through the door but I felt more comfortable and safer with her being there.  For all the things the hospital had given me during my time there to help me feel better none of them compared to that feeling of seeing my wife, holding her, feeling her touch.  I do have to say that love is the best medicine.  

You can't fight all battles for you love.

Sometimes you just have to watch the battle and be ready with the towel and water bottle.

            Sometimes you have to sit back and be support for the wonderful partner in your life.  Maybe they are having a rough time at work, or trouble with a friend.  These are just areas that you can't step in on.  You have to let your partner take care of them on their own.  All you can do is listen and offer your advice.  However they are the one that has to deal with the situation.  Make sure they know you are there for them no matter how the outcome happens.  Good or bad knowing that you are there for them is a big plus in their corner.   

Status Symbols

Volunteering should never be for how good it makes you look.

          One thing that can help your relationship as much as anything is to get involved with something that you both have interest in.  For example helping the homeless, or working with special needs children.  This can give you both so much joy and happiness.  However you have to be dedicated to the cause.  So many people want to do things for the status it brings them.  They want to be able to through it out at parties like "Yes, last weekend I spend two hours at the homeless shelter handing out blankets, those people are so lucky to have me there"  This is what the two of you need to avoid this should be a quite pride that they two of you share.  Several well to do people want to help but just as a way of getting there name out there. When you do it as a couple you will feel a warmth come over both of you as you realize how truly blessed you are.  

When your away nothing beats a phone call.

Making a call is easy and says so much.

           When you are apart from each other sometimes it is hard to call.  Time zones are different and both of you have things still going on.  Texting works great as a quick, "HI I love you alternative"  however there is nothing like hearing you partner tell you that they love you.  Especially when they are many miles away.  So when you find yourself in this situation set up call times and stick to them.  Try to figure out the best time to speak to each other that doesn't interfere with your schedules.  Always make a back up plan for when something comes up so that you just don't leave your partner flat.  You can say well I will either call at 8pm or 11pm in case my meeting runs long.  This will also give you time to get excited over the call.