Eat, Pray, Love

           About a year ago my partner told me that her and a bunch of friends went as saw Eat, Pray, Love.  My initial reaction was one of excitement as I thought that it sounded like a chick flick and now I didn't have to see it.  However, my wife added that she wanted me to see it some time.  Well it took about a year but we finally rented the movie.  While it wasn't a movie that demanded your attention or made you fall on the floor laughing like the movies I normally watch.  It was a very heart felt movie, great for anyone that has ever struggled with finding themselves within their relationship of without any relationship at all.  If you have ever felt like you were caught up in your life that was spinning out of control this movie will hit home with you.  The best part of the movie is that it will show you what one person can do to make their life the experience they want.  So go Eat, Pray, Love the movie will give you plenty to think about and to love about.  

OSHO's view on relationships

OSHO

           "Intimacy with one woman or one man is better than having many superficial relationships. Love is not a seasonal flower, it takes years to grow. And only when it grows does it go beyond biology, and start having something of the spiritual in it. Just being with many women or many men will keep you superficial — entertained maybe, but superficial; occupied certainly, but that occupation is not going to help in inward growth. But a one-to-one relationship, a sustained relationship so that you can understand each other more closely, is tremendously beneficial" - OSHO

Good Morning Touch.

Touching is so romantic.

           Nothing says, "Good morning, I love you" more than a little touch.  Reaching across the bed to touch your partners chest or to slip your hand into the small of their back, speaks volumes.  What a way to wake, to your partners warms hands finding warmth on your body.  I am one of those people that believe touch is as important as air and water to our bodies.   It is so important in a relationship that you shouldn't even let your partner get out of bed without touching them somewhere.  Even if you are half asleep you can touch feet or  brush against their arm.  It is a simple thing that carries a lot of weight.  

What does this song mean to you?

What does this song mean to you?

          Here is a fun thing for the two of you to do.  Listen to a song then tell each other what it means to you.  Analyze it if you will and then share it with your partner.  See if you come up with similar things or if you feel totally different about the song.  Understand there are no right or wrong answers so don't get upset if your partners view doesn't match yours.  This is just a fun exercise is expressing feelings and communication.  Plus you can do this at home or on those long car rides.  Just turn up the volume listen and then express your feelings.  

Love Guru

Mike Myers as the Love Guru.

         If you want a light hearted movie that has an important message about love, then The Love Guru is what you are looking for.  Combining humor with a great message about how to love each other The Love Guru really hits the mark.  Yes it pokes a little fun at eastern ways and takes them to an almost silly level.  With that I feel like, unless we can laugh at ourselves we cannot laugh at anything.  So laugh it up and learn a little it might peak your curiosity about eastern ways and that isn't a bad thing.  

Happy Birthday my Beloved.

Honor your love on birthdays.

          Today is a special day, it is my beloveds birthday.  I will honor her in many ways today, however it is truly me that is honored.  To be graced with her presence and love is an honor that I feel lifts my spirit and soul.  Think about that on your partners next birthday and as you honor them appreciate the honor that they bestow upon you.  

How will you tend your garden?

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"Your relationship is a plant, and the two of you are the gardeners who have to figure the best way to make it grow.  Will it blossom?  Will it wilt?  That depends on how well the two gardeners work together." - Rob

Read a relationship improvement book.

Speaking Kind Words can improve your relationship no matter what state it is in. Pick up your copy by clicking here.  

            Maybe your relationship is in good standing and you love each other more than you have ever loved each other or another.  This is great and we are all glad for you, but it is not the time to become lazy with your relationship.  Nothing is permanent; therefore, relationships change and grow or they change and die.  I suggest about twice a year picking up a relationship help book. The worst that could happen is you get nothing from it.  However, what if you find one great idea to put into your relationship - or maybe two.  Now, not only is your relationship good, but it's getting better.  You are avoiding problems with a little preventative maintenance.   Throwing new ideas and interests into a relationship before things get boring is a wonderful plan to keep your love fresh and alive.  A relationship is a journey, and sometimes you have to be ready to change directions.  It is much easier to change directions before you have an emergency.  Consider your relationship as its own living breathing thing and take care of it that way.  Feed and water it and make sure to play with it lots and it will be a dear friend. 

Listen with more than your ears.

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            Sometimes we listen, but don't really absorb the information we are given.  You know how it works - you hear the words, but they become “blah blah blah” once you process them into your mind.  The words are there.  We hear them, but maybe because we are cooking supper or the kids are interrupting we don't hear the true meaning behind the words.  I want to suggest a time to listen.  Pick a time at the end of the day to share or discuss things that are important.  This way you have no interruptions and you can listen with not only your ears, but also your eyes, mind, and heart.   You can hear the true meaning of what is being said not just the words. You can feel how the words are spoken and the passion with them.   During this time put away your cell phone, turn off the computer, and take you iPod earbuds out of your ears.  The time has come to listen and only if you listen with your entire body will you understand the importance and the feeling behind what is being said.   Listening is more than just hearing it; it is understanding, feeling and sharing those words with your partner. 

Together we are one.

          Today, I would like to introduce you to a new part of The Couples Spot.  Inward Oasis is a new faction of our process of becoming better individuals and thus becoming better couples.  I encourage you to take a peak at the Inward Oasis pages listed on the left and check out some of our articles and blog posts.  Inward Oasis helps us look inside to see that more that is in all of us.  If you feel that there is more to life then just going to work everyday coming home watching television then Inward Oasis might just be something that can help you out.  At Inward Oasis we want you to come learn with us and experience new and interesting things.  Yes this all goes into being a healthy and happy couple that is why we attaching the sites to each other.  We feel the connection is important to not only the individual but the couples also.