Intimacy Retreats

Richard and Diana Daffner from Intimacy Retreats.
 Click here to view their site.  

          I would like to share with you a wonderful couple that we have had the pleasure of enjoying listening to via a webcast and tantric sex.  Diana and Richard Daffner are a wonderful couple that help other couples connect and build their relationships.  They run seminars and retreats through their website Intimacy Retreats.  They have a very laid back approach to their work and with a little humor mixed in.  After we listened to their webcast the other day my partner and I spent another hour talking about their message.  We definitely got some great information out of the webcast and I wanted to share their site with all you that enjoy The Couples Spot.  They also have a wonderful book out titled Tantric Sex for the Busy Couple that you can pick up on Amazon.  Do yourselves a favor and checkout Intimacy Retreats, we are ready to attend on of the Daffner's retreats as we know it will be great fun.  

A little perfume or cologne before bed?

          We all don't waste any time when we are getting ready to go out with our partner to put on our best cologne or perfume.  I find it kind of funny that we put it on when we are going to most likely be sitting across from each other.  Sure we might get a quick smell of that wonderful scent from time to time but do we really get to enjoy that sensation.   I think the best time to put on your cologne or perfume is when you are getting ready for bed.  Put just a touch of this wonderful scent from a bottle on as part of your night time routine.  Then as you get in bed to snuggle up with each other your partner gets to enjoy your cologne or perfume to the fullest extent.  If you have different colognes or perfumes mix them up to give your partner a little variety.  The use of these scents might also act as a stimulant to start a little intimate reaction in your partner.  

         On a side note I don't suggest doing this every night.  Sometimes your partner loves to smell your personal scent.  Plus as with everything if you do it all the time it will become expected and that makes it boring.  

Stay upbeat for each other

Having a bad day?  Who you going to call?

          When you partner is having a bad day who is the one person that can turn that around?  You, of course.  Maybe they are having a bad day at work or thing just are not going right for them in their day.  You can be the source of light that helps make the bad day a little better.  There are many tools you can use to help them with their bad day.  Kisses and hugs are huge when the spirits of your partner are down.  If you are not near them you can use text messages or phone calls with encouraging words.  You can send flowers or set up a wonderful dinner for when they come home.  You might just be surprised at how you can turn your partners bad day around.  You never know you might be the one having a bad day the next time that needs a little boost from your partner.  

Share with your partner.

Photo from Creative Commons.

          My partner is currently writing a novel.  That may not seem too romantic to the couples out there.  However, the fact that she is sharing it with me as she writes it.  It is an honor that I must admit humbles me.   For her to share something that she holds deep inside her is truly a joy of the heart.  Now I am sure not everyone out there is writing a novel but I am sure you are being creative in some way.  Maybe you're building a deck or restoring a car.  Maybe you are making crafts to sell or planning an event for the school.  It doesn't matter what it is; share the process with your partner.  Keep him/her updated on what you are doing and how it is going.  Sure he/she might not seem interested but then again your partner could be your biggest support.  He/she will be there when you hit a snag or need a little input.  Most importantly he/she will be there to share it with you!

Find Romance in all you do.

Toothbrushes can be romantic.

          Romance is all around you if you just take the time to look.  Think about it do you touch each other out of habit?  Do you think of your partner when something happens you want to share?  When you think of something fun to do who is it that you want to share it with?  There is so much romance around you all the time and sometimes we just overlook it.  So next time you see something that might seem like it's not important, think again.  The fact there are two toothbrushes in the cup might not register with everyone as being romantic but if it makes you think of your partner, then it is romantic.  

Make a list

          Do the two of you have a list of things you want to do as a couple?  The bucket list as they call it can be any experience the two of you want to share in your lifetime.  Maybe it is going to see great works of art, or helping out in a third world country but you need to jot them down on a piece of paper and get your list started.  You both might want to bike across Europe, or volunteer in a soup kitchen but they all need to be written down on your list.  Think of the excitement when you get to cross one off.  That is when you know you are living.  

Love Quote

"Kisses are post it notes for your lips, and they all say I love you."

Rob Alex

Find a interesting book on sex.

Pick up Sexy Challenges a fun way to put some adventure in your intimacy (click here to get it).

          Surprise your partner/lover tonight by going out and picking up a sexy book.  There are plenty of books out there that have a positive sexual message in them to choose from.  Once you get your book start reading it making sure that your partner sees that you are reading it.  Their curiosity should take over and want to know what you are reading.  Then you have a great opening for discussing the subject matter.  Next thing you know you might just be adding something different to your intimacy.  

When work gets in the way of your relationship.

Photo taken from Creative Commons.

          Most of the time our relationship is build around our work schedule.  Designed by us so we get the most out of our relationship working around our schedule.  Sometimes however work will creep up and foil our plans.  Maybe it is mandatory overtime, or a problem that demands your attention.  These things happen and we can get mad about them and stomp and curse our bosses and our companies for taking our precious and valuable relationship time away.  However, for starters most couples need the job that you are having to work.  You can look at it angry or you can see that this little road bump is showing you how important your relationship really is.  Sure it isn't going to be fun working when you could be with your family and partner.  It will show you the next time though how important it is to plan and experience all the time together you can.  So go do your work and return knowing your relationship can grow from this.  

Make your bed an altar.

Create a mood with your decorating.

           We all know that our bed is a special place for the two of you.  It is where you make love, lay and talk, maybe massage each other plus many many more things you do.  However why not make it more of an actual altar?  Add candles (flames ones work great for safety), special statues or flowers around it, or anything that makes you feel special and alive.  Make it a place that takes you away from your daily life.  Get mood music to play or scents to entice you.  However you do it make your bed a place for the two of you to get away.  It can be your little slice of heaven here on earth.