Grow Herbs to help your health and your relationship.

Gardening can be on of the most relaxing hobbies you can have.  It is therapeutic as well as it can benefit your health by using natural herbs instead of processed ones.  It is also an enjoyment you both can share.  Pick out several herbs that the two of you like and get some pots and plant them together.  If you have children, it can also be a family project you can do together.  I would suggest even picking up some different herbs you have never tried before and giving them a chance.  Once your herbs grow and flourish you can start using them to cook in your foods.  You cannot believe the extra taste it can give your food.  Again this not only helps build your relationship by doing something together, but it also helps your health.  Find out what herbs help what health problems and construct your herb garden to help issues the two of you might have.  

Never Too Old

You are never too old to make changes.  Sometimes after so many years of stress and strain, years of ignoring or forgetting our true selves, so many years of shutting off the voice inside one can come to believe that it is too late to reconnect and make a difference.  That is just not true.  The sooner you are open to recovering your true self the better.  Too many people do not find their true selves again until they are weak and feeble with age.  If you are already there, so be it – it is still important to reach into your soul.  Yet, if you have the opportunity to make these connections before you grow old (and I mean really old - not just older), then take that opportunity and run with it (or sit quietly and cradle it to your chest).  I only ask that you do not turn your back on the opportunities to grow and expand spiritually and to find your true self – not just for you, but for those around you and for the World at large.
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Here is a little trick to get your partner in the mood while doing laundry.

Next time your partner is doing laundry, use this little trick to suggest a little fun after the laundry is done.  Go to your lovers intimate draw or yours if you lover doesn't have any sexy sleepwear.  Pick out something that really turns them or you on.  While your partner is not looking throw this item in the dryer with a finished load.  Image what will be running through your partners mind as they pull out this sexy little piece of clothing from the normal everyday items.  For added effect you might put a note at the bottom of the dryer saying "Did you find my sexy outfit?  I would love to wear it for you" or "That sexy little number you found, I would love for you to wear that for me tonight!"  You might just find your partner doing the laundry a little more often this way.  

A Different Perspective

Sometimes we think we know it all. Other times we think we don’t know anything. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could find the balance and just hang out there in the middle somewhere? Even once we learn to stay in the middle more often we still lean one way or the other at times. Our ego just jumps into action and without thinking or feeling starts running headlong in that one direction. When we know it all, we become arrogant and have less compassion and/or patience for others. When we feel completely unsure, we may suffer from self-doubt, low self-esteem, and even for some--self-loathing.


When our ego tips the scale and we realize it, we just need to take a deep breath, quiet the mind, and consciously request the tension to leave our bodies. We want to open to possibilities and be open to other’s perspectives. We will, hopefully, learn a great deal from looking at things from a different perspective.
 
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What is a lover

"A lover is a friend you can be naked with and either make love or have a great conversation... Or both"

-Rob Alex-

Laugh & Lose Weight??

No matter whether you laugh your way to weight loss or not it is proven that laughter is wonderful in so many ways.  It relieves stress, helps patients heal faster, and it brings partners closer together.

This video clip will probably make you laugh whether you are "serious" and try it or whether you just sit and watch it.

Take a Car Trip and let your Conversations Hit the Road.

Find Conversations Hit the Road on iTunes.

One thing we have found is that a car trip can become an opportunity to converse.  Sometimes if you have children it might even be nice to get out on a drive so you can talk to each other with out having to be interrupted several times.  We started doing this and even turned it into a podcast called Conversations Hit The Road that you can get on iTunes.  We love it so much that we find ourselves asking each other if the other wants to go on a drive quite often.  Set back and enjoy a sample of our podcast below and then tell all you friends about it.  We hope soon that couples all over the world will take us on a drive with them to get their conversations rolling.

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Spend a few quite moments together

The Yab Yum Postions is great for connecting with your partner. 

You know we spend so much time worrying about the conversations in our relationships that sometimes we forget about the silence.  It is a good practice to also be quite with your partner.  Be it a meditation, yoga, or just time to hold hands and nothing more.   In my opinion right before you head off to sleep is a great time to spend this quite time together.  Find a positions that is comfortable to you, the yab yum position is one of my favorites.  This is where one partner sits in the others lap, it allows for maximum connected ways to touch each other.  Then spend several moments, whatever is comfortable to the two of you, in this position in silence.  Use your touch to communicate to your partner you can stroke their back, run you fingers through their hair, or just embrace each other during this silence.  Let this be a time to quiet all the chatter from the day and relax within each other.  Enjoy the breathing of your partner and just be present with each other.  If you are like many you will find this practice to become a staple in your relationship.  

What is Spiritual Practice?

Spiritual practices may be quite different than you think.  Prayer, yoga, and meditation are all spiritual practices, but have you ever considered how spiritual gardening or bicycling or keeping a dream journal or painting can be?  There are an infinite number of spiritual practices.  It truly is about what makes you feel connected, open, peaceful and filled with joy.

You might choose to spend time in nature, make love with your partner, light a candle, spend time with your pet, read a book to your child, or keep fresh flowers on the table everyday.  It doesn't matter what they are.  What matters is that you invite spiritual practice into your life and into your heart - your soul and spirit will thank you.  You are loved by us, by everything, by ALL.

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Saving Money as a Couple.

Here is a little tip for the two of you to save a little money.

Go out and purchase some storage containers that you would consider the size of an individual portion.

Now find things that you can make that you can divide into these containers and freeze to be eat later.  This is a great way to avoid all those nasty processed meals you either take for lunch or that you eat at home when time is short.  We personally make a Mexican soup that works out great for this.  We use natural ingredients and then have a wonderful meal at our disposal at any time.  By doing this you will not believe how much money you can save.  So instead of giving you money to those big corporations that give us unhealthy meals we can same some money and eat healthy.  What a wonderful concept.  Below is my recipe for Mexican Soup try it out change ingredients if you like and see how much money it can save you.

Rob's Mexican Soup

Ingredients : Black Beans (1 Can), Kidney Beans (1 Can), Chili Beans (1 Can), Corn (1 cup), Green Pepper (1 Diced), Jalapeno (2 sliced), Celery (2 stalks sliced), Rice, Cumin (to taste), Cilantro (to taste)

Directions : Put all ingredients in crock pot or slow cooker, except for rice, on low for about 5 hours.  Make your rice separately and add after the 5 hours is up.

Divide your portions out and place in your storage containers.  You might also like to top your soup with shredded cheese or tortilla chips.