Are You Sorry?

We are all wrong sometimes.  At some point or another every one of us will hurt our partners - intentionally or not.  The key is knowing how to admit we were wrong and how to say we are sorry.

Apologizing can be one of the hardest things to do for some people.  In fact, even admitting to yourself that you are wrong may be very difficult and then actually being able to say that may be exceptionally difficult.  Yet, when we make a mistake we need to be able to own up to it for our partner's sake as well as for ourselves.  

So, if you realize you are wrong, say you are sorry .... come from the heart and admit it to yourself and to your love.

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Creating a Mood or Changing a Mood

When you take the time to create a mood in a room, that action can change the mood of your partner.  Say for example your partner has had a hard day at work and is coming home carrying anger from the day.  If he/she walks in and sees a setting like the above photo his/her mood might just change instantly.  The warm lights accompanied by the vision of items that insure that there will be a lot of touch and passion later can break that hard exterior your partner is carrying home.

Creating these moods is easy.  Make sure the lighting is soft, the objects are sensual and your demeanor is one of comfort and love.  To stay on top of when you need to create or change a mood stay in contact with your partner during the day.  Text or call each other and express what is going on during the day if possible.  Having a jump on a bad mood is essential to being able to change it.

-Rob

Today's radio show was a bit off topic, but we had a lot of laughs.  Listen now (only 15 minutes) and hopefully, you will get a laugh too :)

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Enjoy a Shock with Your Love

If you know anything about us at all, you know we are not big supporters of horror films.  Yet, watching a movie together that will surprise you or give you a little scare is not all bad.  Of course, it could just be that you are watching a favorite show and you are shocked at the outcome.  One example, could be a show that is currently on - The Voice.  Are you shocked at who gets kicked off?  Another example, could be watching a sporting event together.  Does your popcorn go flying when your team scores again?

And, if sitting around watching television doesn't fit into your idea of fun, then take your love to a live event somewhere....grab some popcorn and be ready to cheer and shout for your team.

Now, moving back to the idea of watching a movie or show at home let me suggest that you turn your living room into a theatre.  Transform the room - dim the lights, buy those little popcorn containers like in the photo above and do whatever else you can think of to make it feel more like a real theatre than just sitting at home.

This idea may not be a new one, but the picture above clearly shows you that just maybe this idea could be shocking, surprising or at least change things up a little bit for you and your sweetheart :)

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April Fools, My Love

April Fools day is here!  How can you play a good April Fools' joke on your partner without being too mean or making him/her feel silly?  Well, why not reverse the situation and make yourself the silly one.  Maybe you could do a little role play.  If you are a guy, dress up as a nerd and if you're a woman, dress up as a biker dude and see if your lover can see past the April fool part to get to the sexy part.  

Other ideas could be to give your partner tickets to something really out of his/her comfort zone and then switch the tickets later for an event he/she might actually like to attend.  Another fun thing to do is to make a meal for your love that you know he/she will detest.  Or you could just make the food taste terrible with the goal of going out to dinner later after you release those words "April Fools"  I could go on and one with ideas, but the important thing is to put a little laughter into your relationship.

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Fake It Til You Make It...With Laughter

Watch this segment with funny man John Cleese as he experiences Laughter Yoga and it's benefits.  I think that this could benefit every relationship.  From your intimate relationship to those with your friends and family.  Laughter is a beautiful gift we have been given and in my opinion is one way to connect with higher powers.

-Rob

Shhh...Its a Secret!

When was the last time you shared a secret with your lover?  

When we are first dating we share little things that no one else knows.  Do you still do that?  No. Why not?

It is important that our romantic relationships feel very special - more important, safer, closer and intimate than other relationships we have. 

Share something secretive and special between just the two of you.  It can be something serious or it can be something totally silly.  If it is silly, when you lean over and whisper something about it to your partner he/she may burst out laughing -- others will look at your with wonder and in awe of the closeness you share. 

Shhhh....(No wait!  Don't be quiet about where you heard about this.  Join us on Facebook and share it with your friends.  Help us spread the word and awaken other couples to the blended spirit of their relationship.)

Janelle

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Ask Your Partner Out For A Date

As a couples, we so often just decide together what we are going to do when we spend time together.  Why not take a step back and plan out an event and then ask your partner to enjoy it with you?  Plan out an entire date and then let that feeling come back to the first time you asked your partner out as you ask him/her again.  You might remember the nerves or the excitement of those early days and you just might bring those feelings back up in your partner also.  The best part is you most likely won't worry too much about getting turned down this time. 

-Rob

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Don't Regret Past Relationships

Past relationships offered you a chance to learn something.  Even if you didn't feel that you learned anything then, you can take a look back.  If you are honest about both sides and consider why you reacted the way that you did as well as imagining why your former partner behaved the way he/she did, you have a good chance of learning something new.  In no way, does this mean that you were wrong nor am I saying that you were right ;)  It is simply a chance to reflect and see what lessons may have been right there for you.

It is absolutely true that numerous relationships are not meant to last for your entire life.  Instead, people come into our lives and we come into other people's lives to teach lessons - though we may have no inkling that this is the case.  

So, what is the lesson?  Well, that is for us to figure out.  We may not be able to figure it out when it is occurring.  It may take a few months or even a few years before we are ready to look back and have a possibility of better understanding.  The point is that we will grow and change from every relationship we are in.  It is key to be open to such growth instead of shutting down though.  These experiences offer us amazing chances to expand and further develop mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

Don't regret the past.  Appreciate it and be grateful for it -- even the worst relationships.  They were learning opportunities.  You would not be the person you are had you not experienced them.  Yet, always be willing to continue the expansion of your consciousness and become more fully awake to your experiences.

With love,

Janelle

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In Touch

Here is an interesting thing for the two of you to do.  Go out today and find something very old and just touch it.  It could be a tree, a building or even an antique radio.  Set there with your hands on the item, close your eyes and see if you can feel the energy and experience from that item.  Understand that maybe 100 years ago someone was touching this item in the exact same way you are today.  

Imagine that this antique you are touching today in amazement was once being touched by someone as a brand new item.  Then think of all other hands in time that have touched that item and that you are one of those lucky ones to experience this item.  Now with your eyes closed and still touching this item imagine you are all the people that have touched this item and be thankful you are part of that.  

Do this together as a couple and see if you can both feel the energy at the same time.  Then explain to each other what you felt or witnessed.  You might be amazed at how similar your experiences were. 

-Rob 

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Cheap Dates? Can Be a Great Idea!

In today’s economy, money is tight for many couples.  Those who are just dating as well as those who are in a committed relationship may struggle to find things to do that do not cost a lot of money.  But, even more a lot of couples that are no longer in those early dating stages may have forgotten what those days were like.  In fact, when a couple hits a point where they realize they need to schedule regular dates back into their relationship, they often recall their dating stage as expensive.   And, this stops them in their tracks. 

Well, you know what?  There are actually a number of cheap date ideas out there.  You may need a couple of hints in figuring out what those might be, but I promise you can find things to do with your love that would make for a cheap date.  And, let me remind you that spending time with your partner, experiencing something new together or even doing something you used to do, and having a great time together will bring a freshness to your relationship. 

Cheap date ideas can rejuvenate your relationship moving it from the monotonous, ho-hum state that it can fall into when you just go through the daily activities of life – the ones that we have to do to survive - to the exciting state you had when first dating.  So, bring dating back into your love life, but don’t put a stress on your budget.  Sit down together and make a list of cheap dates you can share.  Then schedule a time to actually have these dates.  Relax and have a blast.  You might just be amazed at what will transpire between you and your partner!

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