Drinking In Your Relationship

Alcohol can be a major problem in relationships.  Alcohol can destroy a relationship, and most of us have seen it happen to someone we know.  This post is however is about another way alcohol can affect your relationship, and that is in the bedroom.  Many people believe that alcohol lowers inhibitions and allows you to be more open sexually.  This my friends is not the truth.  Sure a drink or two might help get you in the mood but alcohol is a depressant.  It will eventually do the exact opposite.  To much alcohol will affect your performance in a negative way.  Many people find that they become unable to perform sexually with to much alcohol.  Plus it numbs the entire feeling of the sexual events.  So is is my humble opinion that you should skip the alcohol and actually enjoy the feeling of the sexual experience as it is meant to be.

Just Shut Up

In a relationship some times you just need to let your partner talk.  If they have had a bad day or a bad experience maybe you just need to let them get their feelings out.  Once they get how it made them feel out in the open they will most likely feel better.  However if you keep trying to offer suggestion or your opinion then they might not be able to get it all out.  This is where your listening skills come into play. SO...

Just Shut UP!

Today BE Too Sexy!

The one hit wonders Right Said Fred may not of had a very long career as musicians.  However their song, "I'm Too Sexy" has had a lasting impact.  So today I challenge you to be too sexy, what do you think about that?  Let your fun side out a little today and go a little overboard on acting sexy.  Do a seductive dance, wear something that you know will turn your partners head, or just put on this song and see what happens.

 

It is also a great day to find a Sexy Challenge that you love and perform it with your partner.  This goes right along with this song.  So maybe you are too sexy for your pussy, my pussy cat.  

Find our more about Sexy Challenges by searching for them on iTunes, Amazon, and Barnes & Nobles Nook page. 

Make Shift Sex Toys

When we think of sexy toys in our relationship, we generally think about purchasing them from an adult store of some kind.  Be it the over the internet or a shop in our local community.  However you have many things at home that you can use as sexy toys right now.  There are many things in your house that can enhance your mood for sex.  Think about it that beaded necklace and how it would feel to have it rubbed across areas of your body.   What about those extra pillows you have on your couch, could they help create different angles for amazing love making.  I know you have heard us talk about this but what about that exercise ball, how interesting could that be in your passion tonight.  Even a scarf can be used to restrict the hands of your lover.  If you don't think you have sex toys around your house then you are not being creative enough.

As a word of caution however never insert anything into your body that doesn't have a flared base.  Use items in your lovemaking but be smart about it.  Don't use items that might irritate your body inside or out.  If in doubt don't use it better safe than having to explain at the hospital how that item got where it is at.

Are You Appreciating Your Partner Enough?

ap·pre·ci·a·tion

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noun

1.

gratitude; thankful recognition: They showed their appreciationby giving him a gold watch.

2.

the act of estimating the qualities of things and giving themtheir proper value.

3.

clear perception or recognition, especially of aestheticquality: a course in art appreciation.


Are you giving your partner enough appreciation?  Does your partner work hard, give you support, are they a great lovers, do they bring amazing romance to your relationship, these are just a few of the reasons to appreciate your partner.  In today's society I don't think couples appreciate each other enough, not say they don't love each other but that they don't take the time to realize what their partner does for their relationship.  Today is a great day to start appreciating your partner, sit and think about all the wonderful things he/she does and then make sure to celebrate them tonight.

Something About Chinese Food

There is something romantic for me about eating another cultures food.  Maybe it is because we don't get it very often or maybe because it is a little more mysterious than what we are use to. As a couple I am sure you have your favorite kind of food, that you like to enjoy together.  I think this is wonderful but I encourage you to break out of the mold and try something different.  If you normally look for Mexican food why not try Chinese food on occasion.  I am not for sure but their is something intimate about those little boxes the Chinese food comes in.  I know it took us many years to get up the nerve to try Thai Food and you know what now it is one of my favorites.  

I feel different foods can create a different mood and trying something new in the area of food might just get you to try something new in other areas of your relationship!  Plus while many of us are afraid to try food we have never had because of the way our bodies might react to them.  But, what if our bodies had a positive affect from the food.  Maybe that food you haven't tried is an aphrodisiac for you, wouldn't that be nice to find out.  So make a date night to try something new as soon as possible and keep your fingers crossed that you find the food that makes you feel a little more amours.  

Just Wanna Be Together

Sometimes it is just enough to sit next to each other and stare off across the ocean.  

Just BE together.  

Janelle

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Couples Vacation

Not every couple can get away by themselves for vacation.  If you have kids, this is really hard.  However, if it is possible to get away for just the two of you it can be a wonderful boost for your relationship.  

Sure, it isn't easy to find someone to watch the children while you are gone and yes, you will want to check in and make sure all is okay while you are gone.  Yet, the adult alone time might be just what your relationship needs.  Being able to go out and not worry about getting home and at a certain time or going to a fancy place to eat that doesn't have clowns and french fries are moments the two of you will cherish.  Plus, the time alone where you can make love anytime you wish or just be naked in your hotel room is amazing.  

We all love our kids, but we need to value our relationship also.  If you get two weeks of vacation, my suggestion is to first plan one week for the entire family, doing kids' things and making sure everyone has fun.  Then take the second week and plan a romantic adventure for the two of you where you two as a couple can connect and be the lovers you are.  

--Rob

Scream at Her - Do You Need To?

Does this seem familiar to you?

Do you feel like your partner just stares at you and doesn't really hear you?

Do you feel like you need to get a megaphone to get him/her to listen?

Yes?

Well, let me ask you this..... (are you ready??  this may be tough to answer honestly...)

Do you just look right through your partner or do you really hear him/her?

Does your partner feel like he/she needs to get a megaphone to get you to listen?

Yep, it is true that what we give out is what we get back (more often than not).  Therefore, before getting pissed at your partner take a good look at yourself and see if you can make a change in yourself first.  Then see what happens....it probably won't happen overnight.  Be patient!

What did you say,

Janelle

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Put A Little Huna In Your Relationship

Serge Kahili King, Ph.D. teacher of Huna

There are many great things you can add to your relationship.  However, one that help shaped my feelings on relationships is the ancient Hawaiian wisdom found in Huna.  Huna is based on love and living in the present.  By leaving the past behind and not worrying about the future you can really focus on the now, and for relationships I feel that is huge.  The book that opened this amazing way to live and love for me is, Huna, Ancient Hawaiian Secrets for Modern Living by Serge Kahili King, Ph.D.  I would recommend that both partners in a relationship read this amazing book together and learn that relationships can be a powerful force in this world.