Christmas List

           You might think that making a Christmas list is for children.  However making a Christmas list for your partner might just help them find the perfect gift for you.  Your list can include things you would like to have that might no buy for yourself.  When you are writing your list don't just put on it material things.  You can include things on your list that don't cost a thing.  Things like a kiss, or a massage, you could even ask for a romantic Christmas eve dinner with wine and candles.   This is a great idea if you don't have much money for presents.  Giving feelings of love and special favors is just the perfect gift.  Make up little coupons for things like kisses or back massages and wrap them up.  You still get the excitement of Christmas and your partner will love his/her gifts.  This way you don't have to wait in line to return them.  

Don't let lack destroy your relationship.

          Lack of anything is not good.  For example lack of food leads to hunger, lack of exercise leads to being fat, and lack of love leads to feeling lonely.  We need to take a good hard look at what our relationship is lacking.  Is affection missing? then you need to find a way to get more affection in your relationship.  Is trust missing?  Then trust is what you need to make your relationship special.  Is passion missing?  Them the two of you need to find a way to make passion a part of your relationship.  What happens is that when you lack something in your relationship you will seek it out somewhere else.  That is why I feel there are so many relationship doomed.  Instead of searching for a way to find it within our relationship with communication and working together, we look else where when you are not getting what we need.  So today take a good hard look at your relationship and find what is missing.  Go to your partner and express you feelings, ask for their help, ask for what they feel it lacking and work together to build a wonderful combination of a relationship.  You have to give and take to balance your relationship, don't be the one that upsets this balance.  

The best gift you can give your partner is your time.

          Have you ever found yourself at the end of the day with no energy or time left for your relationship.  You worked all day or ran the kids around to practices, school, and all other activities.  Maybe you have done housework all day and it gets to the end of the night the kids are in bed and you just want to go to sleep yourself and get rested for the same thing tomorrow.   This is so common for many couples as the struggle to find time to fit their relationship into the mix.  I bet however if you really look at what you do during the day you will find time bandits that could spare you a lot of time.   Start looking around and save time for your partner and your relationship this way.  Do you watch television or play online games during the day?  Then cut them out and save that time for your partner, do you run multiple times around town?  Maybe you could combine your trips to save time.   How about even saving time with the housework by giving the kids incentive to help out by giving them special favors at a later time.  If you relationship is important it is worth finding ways to make time for it.  A dinner out can take as little as an hour, a hour snuggling can be more relaxing then making sure the house is straight and being intimate can help you find a deeper sleep and recharge you batteries not only for your relationship but for the next days hustle and bustle.  Use your time for your relationship as a reward and you will find the time you need.  

Effort is what a relationship takes.

          Effort is the main ingredient to making a relationship work.  All the other things are lost without the effort behind them.  Think about it how much better does anything turn out when you put a little more effort into it. Why should your relationship be any different.  So do your partner and you a favor today and put a little extra effort into your relationship.  You will both be glad you did.  

Stressed? It is a good time to focus on your partner then.

           Has life got you down, thing seem to be going bad, or you just don't feel the best.   This is most likely stress.  That stupid little thing that effects us in such a negative way, that it causes problems the other parts of our life.  When we feel stressed we get upset with the ones we love easily, every little problem seems like a major issue, and we actually feel bad.  As hard as it might seem this is the time you need to fall into the arms of your lover.  Let them bring you up, tell them you are stressed and need their help.  Instead of battling this problem by yourself let them give you encouraging words, or help with the problems.  Sometimes just talking about your stress can make it seem less, or just spreading it out and letting your partner hold some of it up will help.  When you feel stressed most people want to shy away from intimacy and yet this is one of the best stress relievers.  So when you feel stressed through some passion at your partner and enjoy something that is pure and natural.  Put yourself into the love making and feel the connection and let the stress be gone.  Sure the problems will still be there but your mind will look at them differently when you have the love and passion of your partner within you.  Don't go it alone use your partners energy to help you, put your pride aside and feel the love.  

Shake the ill feelings.

Being sick is no fun, but this is the time most people will catch a bug or two.  One of the best ways to help each other avoid colds, the flue, and all the other little problems that pop up is to take care of each other.  If one of you gets one of these conditions, the other one needs to be come the doctor.  Make sure to do all you can to make your partner feel comfortable.  Fluff their pillows, make them soup, bring them tissues or rub their back anything you can do will help them get better faster.  These little acts of love are the best medicine for these days when you partner doesn't feel that great.  As the patient however it is your responsibility to pay for these services when you feel better.  So make sure you partner understands how much you appreciate their efforts to make you feel better and comfortable.  

Time, find ways to share it.

          These busy lives we lead consume a lot of time.  Yet our relationship is the one thing we tend not to spend enough of our time on.  We hustle and bustle from work, to activities and find time for our relationships.  We end up at the end of our day tired and putting our relationship off.  This is where we need to take a look at what we are doing during the day to find the time to spend in our relationships.  Do you really need to go to that non profit meeting after work or is spending time with your friends taking up to much of your time.  You need to evaluate these activities and see which ones you can avoid to save time for your relationship.  Why would we want to short change our partner?  Sure we are going to spend the rest of our lives together but do you really want to have to get to know your partner when retirement comes?  Today is the day to start getting to know each other and become the best of friends.  

Leave your underclothes on for a little excitement.

          I think on of the lost arts in an intimate relationship is petting.  Most of the time we shuck the clothes and jump into bed and start our foreplay or intimacy.  There is some excitement however to old fashioned petting.  Petting in rubbing your partners genitals or erogenous areas while they are still clothed.  You can think of it as foreplay but I like to think of it as pre foreplay.  It has a wonderful way of giving a different feel to your normal touch.  Depending on the type of fabric the clothing is made of can change the feel from time to time.  See how excited you can get your partner while they still have on their clothes.  It will be very obvious as they become aroused.  This will also extend your intimacy and build anticipation for the final act.  If nothing else leave your undergarments on and fondle each other as if they were not there.  Touch, lick, or kiss like you would if the undergarments were not there.  Soon you will sense the enjoyment of your partner.  Try it tonight and see how far a little petting will take your intimacy.  

Don't always put on cologne or perfume.

           Smelling nice is a wonderful and alluring thing to do for your partner.  A good cologne or perfume can really transform the evening into something magical for the sense of smell.  However you don't always have to hide behind these wonderful smells.  Each and everyone of us have a unique smell to our bodies and I am not talking about body odor.  I am taking about the wonderful smell that makes you, YOU.  Have you ever smelled your partners hair or enjoyed the scent of there fresh showered body.  Not to mention the scent that comes from being sexually aroused.  Our bodies produce these scents as an attraction so that we are more desirable.  Sure they are not as obvious as a good cologne or perfume but they are yours and your partner and you should enjoy them just as much.  I love to smell my partners hair as we snuggle int bed it is a calming sensation to breath her in.  So next time you start to put on that expensive cologne or perfume remember the one you already have naturally.

Make a date out of Christmas shopping.

          If you celebrate Christmas and you are dreading the crowds of Christmas shopping, there is a simple way to make it better.  Make it a date!  Don't think of it as a chore make it a chance for the two of you to get out and have a fun time together.  Make it a laid back experience and take your time together.  Look at the decorations, the lights, and have a wonderful lunch or dinner together while you pick up the gifts for family and loved ones.  If you shopping for little ones make sure to take time to test out all the toys that are on display and don't forget to pick up a game or two for the both of you to play together.  Christmas is a time to rejoice and have fun so don't let shopping come between the two of you enjoying the time together.