Listen with more than your ears.

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            Sometimes we listen, but don't really absorb the information we are given.  You know how it works - you hear the words, but they become “blah blah blah” once you process them into your mind.  The words are there.  We hear them, but maybe because we are cooking supper or the kids are interrupting we don't hear the true meaning behind the words.  I want to suggest a time to listen.  Pick a time at the end of the day to share or discuss things that are important.  This way you have no interruptions and you can listen with not only your ears, but also your eyes, mind, and heart.   You can hear the true meaning of what is being said not just the words. You can feel how the words are spoken and the passion with them.   During this time put away your cell phone, turn off the computer, and take you iPod earbuds out of your ears.  The time has come to listen and only if you listen with your entire body will you understand the importance and the feeling behind what is being said.   Listening is more than just hearing it; it is understanding, feeling and sharing those words with your partner. 

Together we are one.

          Today, I would like to introduce you to a new part of The Couples Spot.  Inward Oasis is a new faction of our process of becoming better individuals and thus becoming better couples.  I encourage you to take a peak at the Inward Oasis pages listed on the left and check out some of our articles and blog posts.  Inward Oasis helps us look inside to see that more that is in all of us.  If you feel that there is more to life then just going to work everyday coming home watching television then Inward Oasis might just be something that can help you out.  At Inward Oasis we want you to come learn with us and experience new and interesting things.  Yes this all goes into being a healthy and happy couple that is why we attaching the sites to each other.  We feel the connection is important to not only the individual but the couples also.  

Share things

Sharing is caring.

           You can do so many different things to help out your relationship but sharing is one of those that helps in so many ways.   For example share a drink use the same cup.  Your lips are on each others all the time so why should it be so hard to share a drink?  This uses one less glass which means less dishes.  Less dishes to clean means less water wasted and that helps the environment.  You can do the same thing with plates or with bowls you use for popcorn watching movies.  Not only will this help all the things mentioned above but it will also help the two of you get closer.  You will have to sit closer to each other to share that glass, plate or bowl.  How many others ways can you think of to not only help the two of you get closer but to help you both help the environment and have less chores to do?  See this sharing thing is way more than it is cracked up to be.  Share you ideas with me and let us know how the two of you enjoy sharing together.  

5 Passionate Kisses

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            Each day you and your lover is possible should share 5 passionate kisses.  You can spread them out through the day or you can save them all up for the evening.  No matter which way you want to share them make sure they are as passionate as they can be.  Doing this everyday will soon start your body to expect and let passion in more easily.  Pucker up and start putting a little more passion into your everyday.  

Grapes to Raisins!

Raisins and Grapes both are Yummy.

         Most people love juicy grapes that are bold and full of flavor.  Yet grapes don't lose there flavor as they get older and wrinkled they are still just as juicy.  Maybe they get better with age.  How does that compare to relationships maybe our relationships don't lose anything with age?  Maybe the get better they might be a little less full and have a few more winkles but they are still just as juicy as ever.  Look around I am sure you can find some relationships near you that are still full of life even though the couple might be a little older.  If you find these couple tap into their secrets it might just help our your relationship as it ages also.  Never forget you are never to old to love and love is never to bold for the old.  

No Money on Valentines Day?

Homemade Valentines Day card totally blow store bought ones out of the water.  

            Valentines Day is tomorrow and if you don't have any money to purchase your lover an amazing present your not out of luck.  There are many options to give to your love without spending any money.  You can give them a massage, make them a candle lit dinner, or write a love poem.  The ideas are as endless as your imagination.  Cater you present to your lover if they love art work paint them a picture, if they enjoy being intimate well then plan out an amazing intimate evening.  What ever you decide to do put as much effort and love into it as you can.  The fact it doesn't cost you anything shouldn't matter and the effort and love should make it the most amazing Valentines Day present ever.  

How to bridge the gap in your sex life.

Treat each other like a sacred god / goddess and true love will flow.

           I think everyone to some extent believes that sex is important to a good strong relationship.  It is something the two of you share that is special and brings you closer together then you get with just a handshake or a kiss.  Yet so many couples today try to make it a turn out the lights and get it over with chore.  It is time to slow down and enjoy this wonderful gift the two of you share.   Making love is the most passionate of dances and requires both partners to put effort into it for full enjoyment.  Start by making sure you have plenty of time for and extended period of intimacy before you start.  Spend time kissing and on foreplay don't just rush into the big ending.  Slowly build your way up to the climax.  Woman usually take a little longer then men to reach this point so put more focus on a female partner in this beginning phase.  Get books learn new techniques and try different positions and toys if you desire.  All this effort will lead to the most glorious intimacy you can have.  So stop just going through the motions and start treating your partner like a god / goddess.  

Get some plants around your house.

Tarzan didn't have much problem with his love life so maybe plants might help everyone out. 

           Plants are part of nature and nature is part of your relationship.   So why not get some plants into your bedroom.   The extra oxygen that they produce will help the air quality in your bedroom as well as chance the smell depending on the plants you choose.  You can create a very different setting with the plants you pick and even give your room a more exotic feel with these plants.   Soon you might even have start hearing jungle sounds and drums as you search the vegetation for your partner.  Well it might not go that far but it can be fun to roll play a little with it.  Get up and head out to your local nursery today and start your collection today.  

Being Kids again.

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            Sometimes it is the simplest things that can bring you closer.  Doing something you did when you were kids acting silly or just plain throwing a little caution to the wind.  When is the last time the either of your went sledding?  Getting bundled up for just a few minutes of pure bliss and joy riding down the local hills on your sled.   Get a good sled the two of you can ride together and spend that minute of joy shooting down a snow covered hill with the wind in your face and most everything out of your control.   Hold on to each other and laugh as you sled comes to a crashing holt throwing snow all over the both of you.   Let your heart open and enjoy just pure bliss with your partner.  Now you can trudge up the hill again for another joy ride or spend the rest of the day inside sipping hot chocolate and holding hands.  

Hearing the voice of your love.

A great phone can be a huge blessing when away from home.

          When you have to be apart nothing is more soothing before you drift off to sleep then talking to your partner, you love, your spouse.   When you make plans for your trips make sure to adjust times to be able to say good night.  Maybe you might have to call once they are in bed  but have that understanding before and they will anxiously be waiting for the phone to wake them up to hear your voice.   If time differences are truly an obstacle then make times when you can call and leave a voice message for them to play right before bed time.  This works both ways so both of your get together and figure out the best time and way for you to say good night to each other.  It will be worth the effort.