Stay upbeat for each other

Having a bad day?  Who you going to call?

          When you partner is having a bad day who is the one person that can turn that around?  You, of course.  Maybe they are having a bad day at work or thing just are not going right for them in their day.  You can be the source of light that helps make the bad day a little better.  There are many tools you can use to help them with their bad day.  Kisses and hugs are huge when the spirits of your partner are down.  If you are not near them you can use text messages or phone calls with encouraging words.  You can send flowers or set up a wonderful dinner for when they come home.  You might just be surprised at how you can turn your partners bad day around.  You never know you might be the one having a bad day the next time that needs a little boost from your partner.  

Share with your partner.

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          My partner is currently writing a novel.  That may not seem too romantic to the couples out there.  However, the fact that she is sharing it with me as she writes it.  It is an honor that I must admit humbles me.   For her to share something that she holds deep inside her is truly a joy of the heart.  Now I am sure not everyone out there is writing a novel but I am sure you are being creative in some way.  Maybe you're building a deck or restoring a car.  Maybe you are making crafts to sell or planning an event for the school.  It doesn't matter what it is; share the process with your partner.  Keep him/her updated on what you are doing and how it is going.  Sure he/she might not seem interested but then again your partner could be your biggest support.  He/she will be there when you hit a snag or need a little input.  Most importantly he/she will be there to share it with you!

Find Romance in all you do.

Toothbrushes can be romantic.

          Romance is all around you if you just take the time to look.  Think about it do you touch each other out of habit?  Do you think of your partner when something happens you want to share?  When you think of something fun to do who is it that you want to share it with?  There is so much romance around you all the time and sometimes we just overlook it.  So next time you see something that might seem like it's not important, think again.  The fact there are two toothbrushes in the cup might not register with everyone as being romantic but if it makes you think of your partner, then it is romantic.  

Make a list

          Do the two of you have a list of things you want to do as a couple?  The bucket list as they call it can be any experience the two of you want to share in your lifetime.  Maybe it is going to see great works of art, or helping out in a third world country but you need to jot them down on a piece of paper and get your list started.  You both might want to bike across Europe, or volunteer in a soup kitchen but they all need to be written down on your list.  Think of the excitement when you get to cross one off.  That is when you know you are living.  

Love Quote

"Kisses are post it notes for your lips, and they all say I love you."

Rob Alex

Find a interesting book on sex.

Pick up Sexy Challenges a fun way to put some adventure in your intimacy (click here to get it).

          Surprise your partner/lover tonight by going out and picking up a sexy book.  There are plenty of books out there that have a positive sexual message in them to choose from.  Once you get your book start reading it making sure that your partner sees that you are reading it.  Their curiosity should take over and want to know what you are reading.  Then you have a great opening for discussing the subject matter.  Next thing you know you might just be adding something different to your intimacy.  

When work gets in the way of your relationship.

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          Most of the time our relationship is build around our work schedule.  Designed by us so we get the most out of our relationship working around our schedule.  Sometimes however work will creep up and foil our plans.  Maybe it is mandatory overtime, or a problem that demands your attention.  These things happen and we can get mad about them and stomp and curse our bosses and our companies for taking our precious and valuable relationship time away.  However, for starters most couples need the job that you are having to work.  You can look at it angry or you can see that this little road bump is showing you how important your relationship really is.  Sure it isn't going to be fun working when you could be with your family and partner.  It will show you the next time though how important it is to plan and experience all the time together you can.  So go do your work and return knowing your relationship can grow from this.  

Make your bed an altar.

Create a mood with your decorating.

           We all know that our bed is a special place for the two of you.  It is where you make love, lay and talk, maybe massage each other plus many many more things you do.  However why not make it more of an actual altar?  Add candles (flames ones work great for safety), special statues or flowers around it, or anything that makes you feel special and alive.  Make it a place that takes you away from your daily life.  Get mood music to play or scents to entice you.  However you do it make your bed a place for the two of you to get away.  It can be your little slice of heaven here on earth.  

Don't be a Follower

It's okay not to be in a pack.

          One thing that can become disturbing in a relationship is when one partner is what I call a follower.  This person doesn't have the power to seek and find out things that they love.  They just find something someone else has passion for and jumps on the bandwagon.  Maybe it is because they feel safe because someone else is there to lead them and guide them or maybe it is because they want to fit in.  This holds so true for your relationship also just because one of you loves football doesn't mean the other one has to sit and watch all the games with you.  Religion is the same way maybe your partner is a christian and that is fine but you don't have to become christian just because your partner is.  March to the beat of your own drummer don't pick things that seem safe or others are doing unless it really feels right to you.  

          As I personally look inside myself I find that I am creating my own things.  As I search for believes I find that I am taking bits and pieces from several different areas and forging my own believe.  This is important not only in our relationship, but in our passion and desire.  So bring believes into your relationship that benefit you and they will help your partner understand it is okay for them to bring in their believes.  There is room for both in every relationship and if there is not room then is it really a relationship at all?

Easy way to improve your relationship.

A very simple thing you can do to improve your relationship is.

Admit when you are wrong.  Don't try to blame it on something else or someone else.  Just simply say, "I was wrong"