Lovers / Night

The Lovers - by Pablo Picasso

Being lovers at night encompasses all thing intimate.  Be it your sexual activity or just snuggling up and touching each other.  Sex is an important part of any committed relationship it is one part of the fuel that fires the engines.  However being close and touching each other is just as important.  The lack of touch brings distance between couples and distance is not a good thing.   During this night time touch your partner caress them massage them and close that distance.  This night time is also the time to throw yourself into your partners arms and be a little animalistic in your desire for each other.  Find your rhythm in being lovers at night and soon you will find it comes easier and easier.

Partners / Night

Take your meeting to the table don't do them in your bedroom.

Being partners at night is a good time to do your planning.  Setting goals for the future and going over the finances are always a great thing to do together.  During this time in the evening you can do things like make a budget together, plan or assign chores for both of you and discuss issues that need attention.  Have a meeting for these topics, sit at the table and converse about them in an open and caring manner.  These planning and action steps will help to strengthen your relationship and allow things to flow in a much better manner.

Friends / Night

You can be best friends in a relationship.

Being friends can continue into the late evenings.  You can watch movies together or one of my favorite things to do is spend the evening talking.  I love to converse with my friend about things into the wee hours of the morning.  They can be about anything and everything and yet sometimes they are just remembering the past memories the two of you have shared.  Again just hanging out together and being present with each other is a wonderful thing.  Go take your friendship to the next level and see if you relationship can also be a best friend relationship.

Lovers / Day Time

Daytime Lovers are healthy lovers.

Being lovers during the day time is sometimes a little difficult for people.  However you can improve it by just thinking about how you would like to have your lover treat you.  If you can find time for a little intimate play during the day that is great.  However most people work and have children to deal with during the day so making a sexual connection during the day is almost out of the question.  However you can start setting the mood for intimacy during the day.  Send you partner a sexy text message, or leave a sexy note in their underwear drawer.  Kiss them passionately as you leave for work and tell them there is more to come later.  The best way to be a lover during the day is to build anticipation for later in the evening.  Couples is a strong love/sex life have been proven to live longer and have better health.  So where does your love/sex life stand can you improve it?

Partners / Day Time

A good partnership is more than a handshake. 

Being partners in a relationship is sharing all the joys and hassles.  When you have a good partnership in the daytime you take turns doing things like taking the kids places, doing chores, and working on the finances.  It is important that you are both involved in as much as possible in this partnership.  Don't expect your partner to do all the chores or all the finances without your help.  Having a good partnership where you can count on each other and make decisions together is how you make your relationship solid.  50/50 is how you should feel about your relationship so start balancing it out now are you holding up your end?

Friends / Day Time

Do things together that you would do with your other friends.  

Being friends is an important part of being in a relationship.  You daytime friendship can include things like having lunch together, or just hanging out together.  To build your friendship during the day time look for things you can do together that you would with your other friends.  Things like going to ballgames, exercising, shopping or even just plopping down and talking.  When you daytime friendship is working well you will benefit all the aspects of your relationship. We all need our individual time but being friends is part of a relationship that can be the base of your relationship pyramid.

Series of Posts Friend/Partner/Lover day and night.

The next six post are going to be a series of post based on three aspects of your relationship.  These aspects are being friends, partners, and lovers.  We will look at all three as they are shaped in your day and night relationships.  My goal is to have you looking at your relationship in each of the three ways all the time.  Please feel free to chime in and give us your opinion, without it I only have my feelings to go on.

Can becoming Spiritual (not religious) help your relationship?

          One thing that has catapulted my own relationship to new heights it bringing spirituality into it.  I am not talking about religion but the deeper meanings of life.  When we introduced the deep topic of spirituality into our relationship we very quickly found ourselves getting closer.  We didn't agree on all things but our acceptance of each other believes and feelings grew tremendously.  During this time we filled bankruptcy and lost everything we had.  This is a time when most relationship might have thrown in the towel but through this we grew closer than we have ever been.  While we are still not totally back from the depths of our financial troubles we are feeling so strongly about what adding spirituality into our relationship has done for us that we started another site that helps others find peace in this manner.  That new site is called Inward Oasis and will be the basis of our new business that is helping couples find their place in this world.  You can find our new site at http://inwardoasis.com  Check it out and start building or healing your relationship and yourself today.

Be a Role Model for Each Other.

          You know we all look or looked up to someone at some point.  Be it a teacher, a family member, or a celebrity.  Now that we are in a loving and wonderful relationship it is time for us both to be role models for each other.  I am not talking about putting up posters of each other in your bedroom.  Maybe we should change this from role models to support models.  We should each show support and encouragement to our partners in whatever we do.  Say you are dieting help be the support model and stick with the diet not only for yourself but for your partner, same goes for exercise.  You both need to push each other a little.  Maybe you are starting a business or one of you is looking for a new job.  Make it a point to work together on these type of things and not just sit back and let the other partner struggle with putting all the effort into it.  You can be the support model in so many ways from pushing a little, to just being there when they need a shoulder to lean on.  This is what being in a relationship is all about cooperation.  

Intimate Questions Great Games for Lovers.

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Communication is extremely important in a loving relationship. Talking and listening to each other is critical when you're first dating and when you're living with each other. Without it couples can literally drift apart emotionally and then physically.

If you're just starting or trying to get into a new relationship, sometimes it's tricky to bring up sensitive topics especially about sex. But this is exactly the time you need to be thinking and talking about all aspects of your sex life -- all your likes, dislikes, desires and expectations. Learning about each other's sexual preferences and perspectives will make your relationship much more fulfilling. It also enables you to get a better idea if the relationship is one you want to develop further or not.

And if you are in a long term relationship, maintaining good communication is even more important. You may think you know your partner fairly well but we all change as we grow. The assumption that you know and understand each other may be holding you back from creating an even stronger connection with the person you love. Our interests and desires evolve as we learn and experience more about the world and ourselves. Your partner may have shed restrictive beliefs or inhibitions. They may even be more open to erotic adventures and sexual pleasures initially refused -- activities you may even fantasize about still.

Sometimes it's hard to find things to talk about or ways to bring up certain subjects. Relationship games for couples can help set the mood, the expectations and the guidelines for discussing intimate questions we want answers to. Relationship games for couples help introduce intimate questions into your conversation. Randomly selecting topics from a broad list makes it easier to include more intense subjects with less sensitive ones. Here are a few quick and easy games that you can play anytime:

• Ask your partner to start by picking a letter A-Z. You then select a word or phrase starting with that letter. Your partner then asks you any question related to that word which you answer. Then switch. Go through the alphabet start to finish if you wish (each player does the same letter once).
• Each person writes down a list of questions on business cards or slips of paper. Place them in a bowl and pick them out randomly. You could set a time each day to ask each other one say before going to bed or after making love. Add to the bowl of questions whenever you think of a new idea.
• Each of you secretly write down a numbered list (2-12) of 11 relationship or sex oriented words. On each player's turn, roll two dice twice and use the numbers to select words from each list. You then make up a question that uses the two words for your partner to answer. The combinations can be very weird -- if necessary make two questions one for each word.
• Pick a relationship or sex guide book and ask your partner to pick a number between 1 and the number of pages in the book. Quickly scan the page and find a section of interest that you can ask a question about. Read the section to your partner and then ask the question.

These couples games are well suited for long distance relationships when you can only communicate by email, text message or phone call. They are excellent for online dating too. If you are stuck for conversation ideas or want to know more about a potential partner, try these relationship games and get a better understanding of the person you may decide to meet in the flesh.

It's curious that many people find it easier to have sex than to talk about it. The emotional intimacy you create when you take the time to share thoughts and feelings while listening to your partner in return is priceless. Enjoy playing couples games together and keep your intimate connection strong.

For more ideas related to this couples game, see Intimate Questions Game. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Michael_Kortekaas