You're Doing That in Bed???!!!!!!

No, no, no!  Please don't get stuck in the rut of reading a book or the newspaper (or worse yet...doing work) in bed.  

There are two things that bed should be for and reading or working isn't one of them.

1. Sleeping or resting.  Obviously, this is your place to sleep.  Sometimes, if you are feeling under the weather, you will retire to bed to get some rest and return to good health.  Your body comes to recognize the feel of your sheets and your comfy surroundings as a signal to drift off - a place to rejuvenate you.  
2. Making love or snuggling with your partner.  Mmmm....there are a long list of places you can make love or snuggle up with your partner, but your bed is probably at the top of that list.  Your bedroom should be a sanctuary for the two of you - a physically and emotionally safe place to go to be completely open with each other.  **If you have small children or grandchildren, you may find precious moments of snuggling with your amazing little kids before getting up on the lazy weekend mornings.  And, that is wonderful and beautiful too...you're still snuggling.

If you confuse your body and your mind by having other experiences in your bed from reading the paper to working to watching television to having arguments, your mind and body are no longer going to instantly say, "Hey...this is wondrous...time to relax and doze off." or "Mmmm...there is my love's warm body...I feel a tingle ;)"

**A little side-note: If you like reading something sexy to each other, then by all means do read that in bed together!

Make your bed and your bedroom be a place that automatically sets the mood for relaxation and special time with your beloved.  And, yes, that means sometimes the relaxation comes along a little bit later, but  the "pre-relaxation" time is WELL WORTH it ;) 

-Janelle

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