Massage is an answer.

You know most couples don't understand how much a massage can help a relationship. I am not talking about one you pay $100 dollars for. I am talking about rubbing your partners shoulders or their back. Even a foot massage can be wonderful. Although the massage feels wonderful the important part is what it can offer. It allows you the time to talk to each other. Starting conversations while you are massaging can open the door to deep and meaningful conversations. You can also use it as a meditation to clear both your minds because you can get relaxation from giving or receiving. However the most important part is enjoying the touch of a massage. Make sure to engage the skin of each other. Let your love flow into each other as you kneed the skin of your partner. Most people don't understand that touch is very important to our well being and without it we are missing something in our life. Now as good as it feels when you are getting the massage make sure to reciprocate the feeling to your partner, it is only fair.

Fights sometimes they are good?????? WTF

Yes we all have disagreements and even loud yelling fights from time to time. If you think other couples don't have them they you are very much mistaken. The thing that divides the couples on this is how they view them. Couples that are close understand that a disagreement or an fight doesn't mean that they don't love each other. They don't question the love. They take the argument in stride and understand that it is part of the relationship. After they air their concerns they don't dwell on the fight they let it go and get back to being a couple. This is where the make up is ohhhhhh so good. Understand that if you think you relationship is going to be a fairy tale then you need to think again.

Healing Sex

If you have nagging problems that keep you just off you best, then sex might just be the answer. Many studies have shown that coupes that have what would be considered a wonderful sex life, tend to have less health problems then those that don't. Science tells us that it is because of the chemicals that are released during sex, they give us that boost to stay healthier and have less stress. However I feel that those are very valid points and I understand the effects of dopamine and oxytocin. My thoughts are that when we are in a special relationship with that partner we share more then just pleasure during intimacy. We share each others energy we share our qualities and we form a super connection. It think that this is why people who are sexually happy are not as sick as others. They have two peoples energy fighting off the things that annoy us. When you have passionate intimacy you carry part of our lover with you for a few days. Instead of losing part of yourself you both enjoy the benefits of carrying both your energies around. This is like a force field and protects you. That is why I feel couples that make love on a regular basis are guarded from the effects of these annoying things. Try it out and see what you think. If you make the commitment I feel you will soon start reaping the rewards plus it just feels good to.

Wirte down interesting things to talk about.

Here is a practice I am getting into. I take a notebook along with me, one small enough to fit in my back pocket. When I have a thought or see something interesting that happens to or around me during the day I jot it down. Then latter in the evening with I am home and with my partner I share these things with her. Not saying my memory isn't that great but sometimes you loose the feeling of the moment when you try to remember what happened. With your notes it will jog your mind back to the place and time that it happened or the thought popped into your head. Plus it make for great conversation. Give it a try and see what happens you might find yourself writing more and more things down as you get comfortable with it. In my opinion it will add fuel to the fire of your relationship.

Choose you bed sheets wisely.

As a couple you are going to spend a lot of time together in your bed. Most of it will be sleeping unfortunately. So it is important that you pick sheets that fit both of your style. You want a balance in your sheets nothing to flowery or nothing to masculine. I suggest solid colored sheets in several different colors to match you moods. Next decide what type of fabric you would like. Is it flannel, silk, cotton. You can have several different kinds to match the seasons. The right sheets on your bed can make your sleeping a joy and the wrong kind can make for sleepless nights. Now all you have to hope is that you preferences match up.

Let your partner nap

Sunday afternoons are a great time to nap. I am one of those people that don't like to nap. However my partner loves one now and then. This is a great time for you to have some alone time while your partner rests up. You both get some great time alone and it refreshes your desire to be together. So next time you partner wants to know kiss them gently and tell them to have some pleasant dreams. Then let them rest up and come to you when they awake from their slumber. You might just be surprise how well this works in your favor not only do you get something done while by yourself but you also get the benefit of your partner having the rest they need.

Tell your partner which clothes you love best on them.

You know when you are getting ready to go out or someplace that you need to dress up a little bit. While you are getting ready you always have that question of your partner. "How does this look" is your effort to make sure you look acceptable. Why not be a little proactive in this by telling you partner which clothes they look the best in. Whenever they wear something that makes you say, "WOW" let them know how good they look in that outfit. You can also suggest something before you start getting ready like, "You should wear that blue shirt, you look really handsome in it" or "You look stunning in that red dress, you should wear that" Not only are you helping your partner pick out something to wear you are also letting them know you still love looking at them. You can do this with all your clothes items weather it is casual clothes or even nighttime wear. Let your partner know what catches your eye when they wear it, it might just help you get to see them in it more.

Halloween is here, that is a good excuse to try a little dressing up...

Halloween isn't just a great time for you kids. You can take advantage of the special day also. Halloween offers plenty of time for the two of you to dress up in sexy costumes and well have a little trick or treating of your own. The same old sexy costumes are out their year after year. I recently listened to a podcast and they were talking about all the slutty costumes there are for women. This is true most of them turn the women into a sexy vampire or a sexy school girl. These are great and fine but why not step out of the sexy box for a minute and try something more passionate. How about putting on some war paint and having great spiritual sex the way indians did. You can scream and yell Indian sounds as you make love to each other. How about being Adam and Eve in your bedroom with only some fig leaves between you. What ever you decide to be this halloween take it into your bedroom also and have fun. That is what makes relationship so special you can let loose a little and become on of the natives.

Snack Healthy.

One thing that is important to your relationship is staying healthy. Trying to find food that fits both of you while still being healthy is a challenge. Snacking is a huge issue for most people. We sit down to watch television or work on the computer and we have to snack. As a couple I might suggest you try using breakfast cereal as a snack. It taste good and you can find some really healthy ones out there. I would suggest trying Quaker Oat Squares it is one of my favorite cereals and all you have to do is look at the vitamins and minerals back into these little squares to know it it better for you then chips or candy. So to improve your relationship improve your health and throw out all the nasty chips and candy and get a cup of cereal for your next home movie date.

Make sure to tell you partner they are appreciated.

Telling your partner you appreciate them is not a hard thing at all to do. Yet so many of us let it slide right by. Make it a point to tell your partner "Thank You" not only for the big things but for the little things also. Things like cooking dinner or doing the laundry are great examples of things that get overlooked. Even taking care of the kids is one we take for granted. Find different ways to say thank you also. Send them a text message, email or leave a voice mail for them. Here is a wonderful way to look at it the more you tell them thank you the more they will do to get those thank you's. It is positive reenforcement as we desire to be appreciated. Not appreciating your partner is a quick way to have troubles in your relationship so, avoid that problem right now by getting in the habit of saying "I appreciate you and all you do" to your partner at every chance you get.