Smell up the house this holiday season.

          We have mentioned before the way scents can help and improve your relationship.  They can also spice up the times around the holidays.  Cinnamon spiced apple cider, pine trees, or christmas cookies are wonderful  smells that can create warmth and enjoyment in your house this holiday season.  What smells does your partner remember from his/her holidays past.  Maybe it is the smell of gingerbread or turkey cooking, it could even be the smell of  egg nog.  What ever scent makes your partner think of the holidays try to match that smell and surprise them when they come home.  

Give gifts that spark romance!

          Gifts can be wonderful tool on building your relationship.  You can give sentimental gifts that really touch someone heart.  However those are tough to find.  Instead of searching for the one that will touch his/her heart strings why not give the gift that will create lasting nights of romance.  Candles for candle lit dinners, Warm flannel sheets for snuggling up in, or a trip to take after Christmas has past, can make lasting memories even after Christmas is over.  When you really think about it, it is not that hard to get into the groove on this.  A romantic love seat for watching movies in, a bottle of wine to share, or even tickets to a show the list can go on and on.  You just have to think about what your partner would consider romantic and get something that would lead into that romantic evening.  Being a great gift giver doesn't have to be a struggle and when you are in love it gets easier and easier.  

To stay healthy this winter - Drink your juice, take your vitamins and have sex!

          We all hear about the wonderful ways to stay healthy during the winter months.  Things like drink your juice, and take your vitamins have long been standards to avoid the ills that come with the winter months.  We spend an insane amount of money on precautions to avoid getting these illnesses.  Yet they still seem to come.  I am not knocking the powers of juice or vitamins but I think you are missing a key ingredient to this mixture.  The ingredient is sex!  Yes you heard me sex is an magical drug that is free and very powerful in not only helping fight off illness but in overall health, too. Many studies have found that people that have a wonderful sex life life longer and feel better.  Not only does your body release your feel good hormones during sex but it does so much more.  Your mental state will be much better and you will think more positive.  Sex in a committed relationship is always a win win situation as long as both partners are in agreement and open to the passion.

Don't let the holidays be a time to forget about health.

          The holiday are packed with wonderful treats to eat.  Cookies and candies that everyone want you to enjoy with them.  Here is where the two of you make a stand and figure out how you can enjoy the holidays without the sugar fest that it usually is.  Try to find some great snacks you can make without giving into the cookie trap.  Think veggies or fruit for your holiday cheer.  Set out cut up fruit and veggies and have lot of nuts laying around for consumption.  Look for wonderful alternatives like pumpkin pies or breads that are healthier.  I am not saying you can't have a cookie now and then but balance it out and don't eat as many as Santa is going to eat this holiday season.  

Intimacy is the best Christmas present for you partner.

You can find a lot of gifts to give your partner, but why not use your passion and create a Christmas intimate evening for them.  Find a night where the two of you can be along then give them the Christmas present they will be thinking about until next Christmas.   Find something sexy to wear be it a cute little Santa outfit or some candy cane boxer shorts.  Create some Christmas lighting in your special room with blinking colorful lights.  Get a wonderful Christmas drink and snacks and let your partner know how much you care about them.  Make love under the Christmas tree, place mistletoe around their body where you want to kiss, or just wrap yourself up.  Make it a memorable night by giving them the gift of a sex toy or performing a sexual act that you have never or seldom do.  Get prepared however this just might become a tradition and you will have your partner counting down the days until Christmas.

Christmas List

           You might think that making a Christmas list is for children.  However making a Christmas list for your partner might just help them find the perfect gift for you.  Your list can include things you would like to have that might no buy for yourself.  When you are writing your list don't just put on it material things.  You can include things on your list that don't cost a thing.  Things like a kiss, or a massage, you could even ask for a romantic Christmas eve dinner with wine and candles.   This is a great idea if you don't have much money for presents.  Giving feelings of love and special favors is just the perfect gift.  Make up little coupons for things like kisses or back massages and wrap them up.  You still get the excitement of Christmas and your partner will love his/her gifts.  This way you don't have to wait in line to return them.  

Don't let lack destroy your relationship.

          Lack of anything is not good.  For example lack of food leads to hunger, lack of exercise leads to being fat, and lack of love leads to feeling lonely.  We need to take a good hard look at what our relationship is lacking.  Is affection missing? then you need to find a way to get more affection in your relationship.  Is trust missing?  Then trust is what you need to make your relationship special.  Is passion missing?  Them the two of you need to find a way to make passion a part of your relationship.  What happens is that when you lack something in your relationship you will seek it out somewhere else.  That is why I feel there are so many relationship doomed.  Instead of searching for a way to find it within our relationship with communication and working together, we look else where when you are not getting what we need.  So today take a good hard look at your relationship and find what is missing.  Go to your partner and express you feelings, ask for their help, ask for what they feel it lacking and work together to build a wonderful combination of a relationship.  You have to give and take to balance your relationship, don't be the one that upsets this balance.  

The best gift you can give your partner is your time.

          Have you ever found yourself at the end of the day with no energy or time left for your relationship.  You worked all day or ran the kids around to practices, school, and all other activities.  Maybe you have done housework all day and it gets to the end of the night the kids are in bed and you just want to go to sleep yourself and get rested for the same thing tomorrow.   This is so common for many couples as the struggle to find time to fit their relationship into the mix.  I bet however if you really look at what you do during the day you will find time bandits that could spare you a lot of time.   Start looking around and save time for your partner and your relationship this way.  Do you watch television or play online games during the day?  Then cut them out and save that time for your partner, do you run multiple times around town?  Maybe you could combine your trips to save time.   How about even saving time with the housework by giving the kids incentive to help out by giving them special favors at a later time.  If you relationship is important it is worth finding ways to make time for it.  A dinner out can take as little as an hour, a hour snuggling can be more relaxing then making sure the house is straight and being intimate can help you find a deeper sleep and recharge you batteries not only for your relationship but for the next days hustle and bustle.  Use your time for your relationship as a reward and you will find the time you need.  

Effort is what a relationship takes.

          Effort is the main ingredient to making a relationship work.  All the other things are lost without the effort behind them.  Think about it how much better does anything turn out when you put a little more effort into it. Why should your relationship be any different.  So do your partner and you a favor today and put a little extra effort into your relationship.  You will both be glad you did.  

Stressed? It is a good time to focus on your partner then.

           Has life got you down, thing seem to be going bad, or you just don't feel the best.   This is most likely stress.  That stupid little thing that effects us in such a negative way, that it causes problems the other parts of our life.  When we feel stressed we get upset with the ones we love easily, every little problem seems like a major issue, and we actually feel bad.  As hard as it might seem this is the time you need to fall into the arms of your lover.  Let them bring you up, tell them you are stressed and need their help.  Instead of battling this problem by yourself let them give you encouraging words, or help with the problems.  Sometimes just talking about your stress can make it seem less, or just spreading it out and letting your partner hold some of it up will help.  When you feel stressed most people want to shy away from intimacy and yet this is one of the best stress relievers.  So when you feel stressed through some passion at your partner and enjoy something that is pure and natural.  Put yourself into the love making and feel the connection and let the stress be gone.  Sure the problems will still be there but your mind will look at them differently when you have the love and passion of your partner within you.  Don't go it alone use your partners energy to help you, put your pride aside and feel the love.