Celebrate something silly.

This display was because of someone getting a new pair of shoes. 

          Today is a great day to celebrate something silly in your relationship.  Did your partner get their hair cut, did you get paid today, or did you see the first flowers pop through the ground today?  What ever simple event you can think of make it a celebration.  Do something fun in honor of this event.  Go out to dinner and toast your partners new hair cut.  Run around the house making it a victory lap as you hold your paycheck in the air.  Make love to honor the renewal of the flowers popping up.  Be appreciative of all the little wonders there are in life and share them with the person you hold deeply in love.  These actions go a long way into keeping your relationship fresh and fun.  Plus I a pretty sure celebrations and silliness keep you healthy and make you live longer.  Try it out today.   Live life, love life and share it all.  

Your Romance Your Style.

The Romeo and Juliet approach to romance doesn't work for everyone.  So read this before you jump into your tights.

          I think one of the biggest mistakes anyone can make is to romantic without being yourself.  Sure being romantic calls for doing different things but you can't lose yourself in doing that.  If you funny and full of life you can't make your romance serious and calm.  For example if you are that funny person making a candle lit dinner with a violin player and dark lights just might not feel right.  For you or you partner in this case.  However dimming the lights making popcorn setting up the chairs like a movie theater and watching a romantic comedy might go a lot farther towards being romantic.  On the other side is your are a more serious person being silly and singing love songs outside your partners window might just seem a little creepy to them.  Trust your heart and if your partner really knows who you are they will love that the romance comes from inside of you.  

Quote for Today.

"There is nothing more powerful then the intimacy between a couple that is truly in love.  Once you have the love first then passion comes like a tidal wave." - Rob Alex 

Put the new back in your relationship.

          We are all searching for ways to keep our relationship fresh and exciting.  We need new and exciting things in our bedrooms but we also just need them in our relationship.  People always talk about putting the spark back into their relationship and everyone assumes that it means into their sex life.  While the sex life is a good place to put the spark into, your everyday life is also a great place to put the spark into.  When is the last time the two of you tried anything different?  When is the last time you went to a different restaurant, or broke out of your comfort zone and got your adrenaline pumping together?  Do you do things on the spur of the moment or is everything planned out?  These are important questions to be asking each other.  Remember when you were dating and you had no idea what each other liked to do, what did you do then?  You tried different things to see what each other enjoyed.  Why not put that system back in place only finding things that you like together.  Take some classes, go on group tours, heck just go to a city you have never been before and explore their sites.  The important thing is that you do it together just like when you were dating.  Remember that feeling of not caring what you were doing but that you were doing it with this wonderful person.  Now get out there and add that spark into your relationship and I bet you it will creep into your bedroom also.  

Adjust your relationship to your schedules.

          One thing that is hard for most couples is trying to balance their relationship with there schedule.  The crazy work schedules that are out there today make it tough for a couple to have a traditional relationship sometimes.  For example on of you might work the night shift while the other one is one days.  When these oddities happen you have to find a way to roll with it.  The important thing is to still make time for your relationship.  Maybe you have to have dates in during the day or on Sunday mornings.  You just have to make your relationship fit.  We have to work and make money to live but if you can't have a relationship around your work then something is wrong with your life.  I am not trying to tell anyone to quit their job in this economy because there are not many jobs out there.  What I am saying is think about how you can adjust your schedules to still be a couple with all the perks.  

It's not to late.

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          You know today is the best day to start putting more effort into your relationship.  I don't care about the past and the future is yet to be.  All you can do is make the shift and start putting more focus on your relationship today.  Get out of your old habits.  Break away from those nagging issues that keep you locked in a state of denial.  Take responsibility for your actions.  Show your partner the respect they deserve and the passion that you can share.  Today is the day take that step be the man/woman you really want to be.  Remember it is never to late.

Sending you signals.

          

          Lovers have a way of communicating that is as futuristic as you can get.  Simple nods or eye movements can express there sentiments to each other as if they were mind readers.  Think about a time when the two of you were at a place that neither one of you want to be.  Maybe a family function or a boring party and with just a movement of your eyes towards the door you could sense you partner was ready to leave.  What about that little look your lover gives you when they want you to carry them off to the bedroom to make love.  Then their is that strained look you give opening your eyes wide that says come save me from this boring person you are talking to.  What about those looks from across the room that only the two of you pick up on.  Yes lovers have their own special language besides using their eyes they can use words that they change the mean on to express feelings to each other.  I am sure you have code words in your relationship.   Sometimes the two of you plan them out while other times they just pop up and you both know what exactly they mean.  For example, "We better get in bed early tonight because I have to get up early" might mean "I would really like to make love to you" or "Look at the time we told the sitter we would be back early" could mean "This function is super boring, time to leave"  As lovers you just start doing these things picking them up as you love grow.  You get them from movies, or daily life and soon you have a whole array of them at your disposal.  

Breath in your partner.

           You partner has an essence and you can breath it in and take it in yourself.  Next time you partner is sitting down walk up to them and breath in on the crown of their head.  Enjoy the smell, but more than that breath them in.  Using the chakra on the top of the head you can breath in their essence that usually is sent into the heavens.  Make this a regular practice and you might just find it helps you connect with your partner.  You will start to feel their essences as it enters your body and mixes with yours it truly is a magical act. 

Be your coupleself.

          Yes I know that coupleself is not a word but you do have a  presence as a couple.  You relationship has it own live in the way you interact with each other and they way others view you.  Think about couples you know.  I know a couple that seem to fight all the time yet are as happy as larks in their marriage.  I am sure you know the couple that can't keep their hands off each other and are happy to share it in frond of everyone.  What about the couple that don't seem to be a couple at all.  The problem arrises when you start trying to be a certain couple, when you try to fit a mold or act a certain way to fit in.  You have to let what is at home out for the world to see if you only let your comfort and love out at home then you are keeping the spirit of your coupleself locked away.  The love you have for each other is special and it needs to be shared with the world.  Kids need to see happy couples and they way they interact.  They need to see adults holding hands and being happy together.  They see so much of the negative things that they think it is normal.  Next time you want to shy away from being yourself and letting you love show for each other think again.  Their might be a child watching, it might even be yours, that needs to see that love is possible and it can be fun and exciting even when you get older.   Let your coupleself breath and share it with the world.  The world is  hungry for it.

Meditate Together.

          As we strive to get closer and enjoy our relationship more we need to look for deeper ways to connect.  Meditation is one of those ways.  Meditating together as a couple is a little different then meditating as an individual.  I have some specific ways that I feel help grow the connection between two lovers.  The first one is to meditate together by lying on your bed.  Just plop down and together enjoy the silence the stillness and when you feel relaxed reach out and gentle put your hand on your partner.  It doesn't matter where but connect with your partner and share their relaxation and stillness also.  Try to blend your breathing and send your energy into them and vice versa.  The other meditation I like to partake in is combining of the breath.  In this meditation the lighter partner sits in the other one's lap wrapping their legs around their waist.  You close your eyes and rotate breathing or sharing your breath.  The first partner breaths and the other inhales the essence then as the other partner exhales the first partner takes in their breath.  Close your eyes and feel the exchange of energy through your breath.  When you finally open your eyes to each other the connection will be strong and the energy of your love will be evident.