Judge Lindsey changed the face of relationships.

Judge Benjamin Barr Lindsey

Many years ago for women especially it was thought of that the man owned the wife in a relationship. That the women were not allowed to have their own life and they were demanded to perform certain duties around the house and relationship. This was so wrong. A great Judge back in the 1900's lost his position on the bar because he stated that relationships should be a partnership. That judge was Benjamin Barr Lindsey and the book that got him disbarred was entitled "The Companionate Marriage". Basically what the book said was that relationship were choices and that both sexes were free to have this union and a life. This was considered radical at the time and obviously cost Judge Lindsey dearly. Thank goodness times have changed. While things are not better for all women for a good majority of them life is much better because of actions like Judge Lindsey. For a relationship to truly be enjoyed we must each put as much effort into it as we can and that energy combines into a wonderful feast of love.

Don't view everyone elses life through rose colored glasses.

Have you ever said or though that you wish your life could be like someone elses? You see that happy couple in the mall and wonder what they are doing to be so happy. The parents down the street that are always walking their child in the stroller. These images give us the impression that everything in their life is perfect. They are happy eveything goes well for them and they don't have near the troubles that we do. Well you need to take off the rose colored glasses right now. I am hear to tell you that every relationship has troubles, someones elses troubles might not seem important to you but believe me, in that they feel that their troubles are important. I am sure you have heard "That you can't judge a book by it's cover" Well the same thing goes for relationships. People have a tendency to put on a front to make everyone think they are happy. I have seen many a couple that seems to be content with each other suddenly get divorced and you hear things about them you never dreamed would have happened in their relationship. The big thing to remember is every relationship is going to have some rocky parts, there is not such thing as a perfect relationship. The thing that sets good solid relationship apart is that they understand and deal with the problems better then the others. They don't let them brew up to the point of exploding. You always need to look at the thing that is making you upset from the outside, is it really important to get angry over? A partner cheating on you is a thing to get upset over but not shutting the cabinet doors or replacing the toliet paper roll, seem a little on the pickey side when you stand back and look at it.

Step back when ever you get upset and really look at the thing making your crazy. Is it just a little thing that isn't that important but just bugs you, then you need to take a different approch. Try to reason things out to make the situation better. Don't get upset just talk it out let them know it bugs you, don't throw a fit because one fit most likely will start another. Relax and understand that you partner is not perfect and you wouldn't want them to be.