What Do You Do To Feel Confident?

Here is one take on how to be more confident as a woman.  There is some truth behind these tips, but no two people are the same.  For that matter - not every woman wants or "needs" to put make-up on to feel confident or sexy.  Read this article and see what you think.

How to Become a More Confident and Attractive Woman - 3 Things You Can Do

By Susan Tang

Every woman wants to be attractive, regardless of age. If you are a woman, you probably agree with me.

I am not too sure if you have heard of this phrase, 'there are no ugly women, only lazy women'. So what is the meaning of this phrase? Well, it simply means every woman can be attractive, as long as she is willing to put in the effort to doll up herself.

Of course, being attractive is not all about how you look on the outside. It is also about your internal attributes, especially how confident you are about yourself. Let's put it this way. Even a plain Jane can be very attractive if she exudes an aura of confidence.

Don't believe me? Well, you can always go out there to conduct your own experiment if you wish. Just grab any ten men on the street and ask them this question, "Do you find confident women attractive?" I am sure at least 9 out of those 10 men will say they do. The one who says 'no' is probably lying or just suffering from low self esteem.

So if you want men to fall head over heels for you, start working on your confidence today. Not sure how to get started? Well, let's go through these few tips together.

1. Put on Makeup

I know I have said that being attractive is not all about your outer appearance. But let's face it. In general, people do judge a book by its cover.

So at the very least, do try to put on some makeup to make yourself more presentable, especially in professional situation. You will also feel more confident, knowing that you now look more attractive because of the makeup.

2. Dress Up

Perhaps you have heard of this saying, a woman most precious possession is her wardrobe. Well, there is certainly an element of truth in this statement.

If you want to look more attractive, you simply cannot allow yourself to dress too shabbily. From time to time, you may want to shop for new clothing.

Nowadays, buying a dress is getting more and more convenient. You can even shop online nowadays!

3. Sign Up for a Public Speaking Class

Believe it or not, public speaking is considered the number one fear by many people. Unfortunately, public speaking is something you cannot avoid if you want to progress in your career.

Since you can't avoid it, why not embrace it. Sign up for a public speaking class. You can even consider joining a Toastmaster Club. Before you know it, your public speaking skill will improve and you will find your confidence soar.

And you know what? Men will always find an eloquent woman attractive. So what are you still waiting for? Start brushing up your public speaking skills today.

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Confidence is Sexy

No matter what a woman looks like, 

if she's confident, she's sexy.

Paris Hilton 

**Can't say that we are Paris Hilton fans, but this quote is something we can be a fan of!

Size, shape, hair color, eye color, blah, blah, blah…sure it matters to some extent to some people, 

but to be sexy - you simply need to be confident and then you can be VERY sexy!

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Letting Go of Resentment

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. & Dr. Rob Alex, Ph.D. sat down and talked with Robyn Vogel about resentments and "withholds" and how to let those things go so that you can feel a deeper connection to your partner and feel more love. Robyn defines resentment and then shares a method to move past it. Find Robyn athttp://www.sacredtantricfire.com.

Thankful for Your Family…or Not - Eek, Not Aunt Ethel Again

A Thanksgiving to Be Grateful For

By Dr. Noelle Nelson

You love your extended family, you really do, and the thought of all those aunts and uncles, in-laws and parents, cousins and various spouses and children warms your heart.

Until it's time for them to descend on your home for Thanksgiving.

Even if it's just a parent or solitary in-law or wayward cousin, having to deal with relatives you see but once or twice a year can be a trial. It seems so much easier to love them at a distance!

At a distance, you forget all about Aunt Ethel's obnoxious eating habits, or your mother/mother-in-law's critical comments about you, your hairdo, your children, your home, your job, your pets, your cooking, your--well, everything.

You welcome them with love and smiles into your home for the Thanksgiving feast you've prepared to the very best of your culinary ability, with care for each of their individual preferences, trying not to let your frantic last-minute running around show.

Here they are, and here's the feast, and all is well.

But it doesn't take long for Aunt Ethel's chomping to get at you, or those critical comments to make you grit your teeth (biting back the sharp retort you long to give), nor for you to think unkind thoughts of your cousin's new wife (a plunging neckline and leather micro-skirt? At the family Thanksgiving get-together?).

Somehow, all the thanks in Thanksgiving--the spirit of gratitude, appreciation and tolerance for one another--disappears even before the pumpkin pie is served.

Time for a shift! A shift in focus, that is. You see, anything you focus on grows. The more you allow yourself to notice your relatives' irritating behaviors, the more unhappy you will become. The more unhappy you are, the less you are able to tune in to the spirit of Thanksgiving. Instead of a celebration of gratitude, you end up with a headache and a pissy attitude.

Shift. Think about how much Aunt Ethel loves her food. The food you so lovingly prepared. So she has horrible table manners, so? She's having a good time, all due to you.

Your mother/mother-in-law's critical take on the world is her problem. You like yourself as you are, along with your hairdo, your children, your home, your job, your pets, your--you get the drift. Criticism is often a misguided attempt to improve things for others so they can be happier. This is just your mother/mother-in-law's way of loving you. Weird, I know, but again--not your problem. Let the critical comments flow off you like water off a duck. Irrelevant, no different than bad late-night talk show bla-bla. Just filler. Unimportant.

So the new wife is showing off her stuff? Who cares? It makes her happy, and certainly doesn't mean you have to imitate her style.

Focus on what does matter: the guests who are enjoying themselves, how nicely your casserole turned out, that the table looks lovely. Focus on how grateful you are to have a family--of one, or two, or many. Focus on how good it is to be alive, and to have the goodness that exists in your life.

Focus on giving thanks, let the rest just roll on by, and you will have a Thanksgiving to be grateful for.

Noelle C. Nelson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, relationship expert, popular speaker in the U.S. and abroad, and author of 10 best-selling books. Dr. Nelson focuses on how we can all enjoy happy, fulfilling lives while accomplishing great things in love, at home and at work, as we appreciate ourselves, our world and all others. Visit http://www.noellenelson.com, http://anotefromdrnoelle.blogspot.com.

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Where In The Hell Are My Pants?

"Smart women love smart men more than smart men love smart women."

Natalie Portman 

What do you think?  Is this true?

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Differing Libidos? What Can You Do?

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. and Rob Alex, M.Sc. of Sexy Challenges talked to Aaron Anderson about differing libidos in marriages today. Is you sex drive lower/higher than you sweeties? Then you should watch now! 

Aaron Anderson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and owner of The Marriage and Family Clinic in Westminster, CO. He is the Marriage editor for The Good Men Project and also writes for several publications on the topic of marriages, families and men. In his spare time (whatever that is) he is secretly preparing to be the next renowned chef. You can find him on Twitter @MarriageDr on Facebook and on his blog The Relationship Rx giving great relationship advice without the psychobabble.

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"A heart that loves is always young." 

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Whoa - Something Wild Just Happened While Making Love!

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We often talk about transcendental sexual experiences.  But, what are they?  Dr. Jenny Wade has a wonderful book that helps share about a variety of different transcendent sexual experiences.  She researched a variety of different people - some in heterosexual relationships while others in same sex relationships, some were in committed relationships while others were not.  

Truly this book is a great read.  Will this book help you uncover your own transcendent sex?  That is not really likely, but then again it may help you understand that you have already experienced it.  Of course, we help couples learn methods to create the opportunities to experience transcendent sex, but if you don't know what it is in the first place…well….  

She Went Vegan - Oh, Man!

A few years ago, I was in grad school.  It was a transpersonal (or spiritually based) perspective on psychology.  Therefore, the students had a wide variety of backgrounds from across the globe.  In this brief article I am only going to mention the eating habits vs. all of the other differences, but that was a big one in of itself.  

For most of my life, I have said I could do without meat - I could be a vegetarian.  But, growing up in the midwest in a small town I wasn't around people who had a plant based diet.  We were taught that we had to eat meat to get our protein.  Well, after growing deep and meaningful relationships with new people who were serious vegetarians, vegans, and raw vegans I easily made the decision to go vegetarian.  That means I no longer ate meat - no red meat, no chicken, no turkey, no fish.  It was pretty easy for me, but since my sons and husband were still carnivorous it made preparing meals a bit more challenging.  I made it for about a year, then I gave in and reverted back.  

About a month ago I finally got around to watching Forks Over Knives.  Well, that was that.  I immediately decided to go back to being vegetarian.  Then I did a little more research and come to understand the unhealthy properties of dairy including the addictive properties in cheese.  Within a couple of days, my son (a senior in high school), my youngest son and I all decided to go vegan.  Time to watch Vegucated :) 

Now, hubby hasn't gone vegan.  He doesn't mind eating vegan meals with us, but also wants meat a couple of times a week.  And, I will admit that at this point we are not vigilant with our veganism.  Though we are adamantly vegetarian, we still give in and allow a bit of eggs or milk or cheese into our diets.  But, for the most part my sons and I are vegan.  

What does this have to do with relationships?  Well, we need to support our partners even when their choices are very different from our own.  Just because I am convinced that animal protein is exceptionally bad for our health I am not going to condemn my husband (or my friends for that matter) because he chooses to still eat it.  And, he supports me and the boys even when that means the food choices in the house are A LOT different than he has been used to.  

Doesn't matter if your differences are about your diet or about your taste in music or whether you like the house hot or cold - you need to find ways to compromise and honor and respect each other. 

Looking forward to yummy bean burritos tonight (nope - no cheese),

Janelle Alex, Ph.D.

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