When sex becomes more of a connection

          Sex is one of the greatest pleasures in life.  Yet there comes a time in a relationship where it becomes more than just getting a need met.  It becomes a spiritual practice that is like a dance between two lovers.  When you start wanting to be a part of each other instead of being two individuals having sex.  For those that understand that intimacy with a person that you have strong ties to both sexually and emotionally is more than just a action.  It is a ritual of love and honor.  As you progress in your relationship you understand each other better you know the likes and wants of your partner.  You also become open to experimentation and conversation about where sexual intimacy can take the two of you.  It become a passion more than a bodily function.  For those of you that reach this wonderful place things will open up to your that you have never seen before.  Your partner will look more beautiful to you, the will be even sexier in your eyes and they will be a light for you to enjoy.  For those of you that reach this place I don't have to tell you how wonderful spiritual intimacy is, you know it and you feel it deep inside.

Bring the light into your home

      There is no doubt that the sun light can make us feel better.  The winter blues are just around the corner and we will start feeling cabin fever here in the midwest.  The answer just might be in the Happy Light a product that produces imitation sun light.  Not like the light bulbs we pick up from our local discount store. With this product you might just be able to shed those blah feelings that get your grouchy and have you feeling trapped.  We can't change the weather outside, unless we move but we can try to make our inside better for the both of us.  If you try one of these lights make sure you both use it and see if it makes a difference.  You might just find yourself snuggling up more than just to stay warm this winter.  

Turn the heat up a little and wear less to bed.

One of my biggest joys is touching my partner. I love to crawl into bed with her and touch her skin. However was the seasons turn colder here my partner wears thicker and warmer items to bed. Silly as it seems this is frustrating to me because I want to feel her and not a think pair of PJ's. My suggestion is to turn the heat up a little and wear less to bed. Sure it might raise the heat bill and be a little selfish but these simple pleasures of touching your partners skin is one that is well worth it. Massage your partner as they wear less to bed to show your appreciation. Snuggle up close and feel the body heat and breath in your partners scent. These are truly wonders you get from being a couple.

You can Yoga together.

Want a wonderful way to get in a better place as an individual and a couple. Look into the practice of yoga. This is a wonderful way to clear you mind and let your body follow. Doing it as a couple also brings in the element of togetherness and produces a special bond. There are all kinds of yoga and you can find the one that best fits the two of you. Treat it as an exercise and a meditation to get the most of our your time together. There are specific types of yoga designed for coupes to do together where touching is involved so that the energy flows between you. These are the types I suggest because I am a firm believer in the fact that touch is as important to our relationships as breathing is to our life. Get into it and go yoga crazy get special clothes for the times when you participate. Get a good yoga mat and learn as much about yoga as you can and then share it with each other. You will be amazed at the difference it can make.

Agreed!!!!

One thing that is an important part of a relationship is agreeing on things. Whether it be where to go for lunch or how much to spend on a new home. You have to find the agreed area between the two of you. Planning a vacation? Pick out all the destinations and then start narrowing down the choices until you get to one you both like then with a resounding shout say AGREED! Make this a practice in your relationship. When you find something you both agree on shout it out, give each other a high five, or kiss. Celebrations are a big part of relationships so go ahead and celebrate when you find something you totally agree on and hopefully it will start happening more often.

Questions, Concerns, Need Help?

I have been at this now for well over a year and a half and I am curious to the nature of the status of my viewers relationships. I am curious if you are reading to improve your already great relationship or if it is a relationship in need of repair? I wonder what problems you have and would like to address? I am opening my doors for you to let me help. I am anxious to hear from many of you and I am sure I can offer suggestions that will help in any situation. Drop me a line at the email below and lets get started helping your relationship.

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Snack out of the same bowl.

I think one of the most romantic ways to enjoy a snack is to put it in one bowl and both of your snack from it. This is great for popcorn when your watching a movie or any snack doing anything. The reason it is so great is that it makes you get closer and you might just touch each other as your diving in for another handful. This simple act will make you appreciate your being close to your partner and touch is a need we all share. So next time you get ready for a snack keep this in mind and save washing two bowls and help build a better relationship.

Oral Sex Makes for Happy Sex!

Believe it or not but some couples have never had oral sex? Yes this is true and I am not knocking them but I wonder, WHY? Oral sex is a great way to break up the routine of your sex life plus it is one of the greatest ways to increase your foreplay. You can both take turns performing oral sex on each other or enjoy it at the same time. There are many books on the subject out there with great techniques and ideas to make in mind blowing. Maybe you are a little scared and I understand that but get over that hump and a magical kingdom awaits you and your partner. Oral sex is a great way to extend your sexual intimacy and bring you closer together. There is not reason you cannot partake in oral sex, what ever you problem is there is a solution. The best way to find out what works best for you is for you both to use the trial and error method. Communicate what feels good and what doesn't. Maybe you don't like talking during intimacy and if that is the case set up signals for each other. Tell you partner you will start rubbing their head if it feels good and that you will cough if it doesn't those are simple signs that can't be mistaken. I recently listen to a podcast on the subject and the trend is that oral sex is now considered part of a normal round of intimacy. That means if your not experiencing or enjoying oral sex you are missing the boat. I am throwing you a life jacket grab it slip it on and start pleasuring your lover and let them pleasure you in an oral manner.

Just drop it all and go to dinner

Have you ever had a day when the kids are driving you nuts your stuck in the house and you are ready to just loose it? I am sure most of us have had those days. It's not like we don't love our kids or that the stress of life is really that different then any other day. It's just a break down in strength. When this happens you need to fall back on your relationship to pick you up. This is important to get you a babysitter for the evening and go to dinner with your favorite adult, your partner. Go to a place where the two of you can have adult conversation and make sure it never enters into what is going on at home. Talk about politics, investments, movies, or anything else that grown ups talk about. This is specially needed for the man/woman that stays at home and takes care of the children and the house. That is a stressful job in it's self and sometimes you need a few hours off to recharge your batteries. Plan these escapes regularly and you might just see an improvement in the whole cycle. Honor those that take care of the important things at home they are truly a blessing.

The answers are simple.

Do you want to improve your relationship? If you say yes, then the steps you take are simple. Just put more effort into your relationship. Just like anything else with the more effort you put into building your relationship the better it will be. Get away from excuses like, I'm tired, I'm not putting in the effort unless he/she does, or I just don't feel like it. Excuses are just ways of being lazy and the cure for lazy is effort. Take is slow and each day make it a point to put a little more effort into loving your partner and your relationship. Soon you will start seeing it happen naturally and you will see your relationship blossom.