I see it so many times -- people are stretched so thin. They volunteer for everything and have nothing left for the people they love - especially their partners.
If you are too tired to enjoy your relationship when you and your partner have time to be together, then it is time you reevaluate what you are doing. Do you volunteer for the PTO or coach every thing under the sun? Do you play softball all summer long or have to be involved in every fundraiser in the community? Do you find yourself telling your partner that you are too tired to stay up with him/her during the evening or that you just need to relax and chill during your time together? If this happens time and again, you seriously need to view this from your partner's perspective.
How do you think your partner feels if he/she asks you to watch a movie with him/her and you tell him/her you just need some sleep. Yet, the three nights before you were out raising funds for the humane society, playing a softball game, and attending a committee meeting. What about passing on a night of intimacy because you have to get up early the next morning to play golf with your friends?These are the type of events that can really hurt a relationship. Nothing is wrong with doing any of these things, but when you can't make time for your relationship because of them you are not only affecting your partner, but your relationship as a whole.
I am assuming that the two of you are together because you love each other. With that bond comes the respect that you owe to each other. Do some planning and figure out the best times for the two of you and then don't let things get in the way of your love. If you are repeatedly too tired to be with your partner, what you are really saying to him/her is, "Our relationship comes after all these other things I am doing." Don't be that person. Put stock in your relationship and move it up on your priority list. You will be amazed at the difference this can make.
