Together overcome!

It is a fact of life that at some points and time some depression will hit your life. This is when it is great to be in a loving and caring relationship. Nothing knocks depression for a loop like someone telling you how much they love you and how great you are. That person is and should be your partner. They are the support that is always there they are the rock that doesn't waiver. Sometimes you are that partner and sometimes you need that partner. Love is a wonderful tool in so many ways yet people don't know how to use it to the best of it's ability in most cases. Love is not physical, it is not emotional, and it is not spiritual, it is all these things rolled together. When you understand this you will see that love is the greatest gift we can give or receive. Think of that the next time you partner has a bad day and instead of hiding in another area of the house offer up some physical, emotional and spiritual words to break that frown into a smile.

Being intimate is not a bargaining tool.

One thing every person knows is that intimacy and sex is important in a relationship. However, so many couples use it as a bargaining tool. Both sides are to blame. Remember when you started dating and the passion and intimacy just happened. Some how when we become life partners we forget about that. We let things like work, kids, and countless other things get in the way of the freedom we had in our intimacy. Yet we do nothing about it. We hear things like "Well if you helped more around the house, I might be in the mood more" or "Well if you didn't let yourself go, I would be more attracted to you again" These things hurt and are most definitely not good for a relationship. Never should you put a tag on your love life, that should be a mutual exchange of the love between the two of you, not just a chore. You can't force sex and you can't ignore sex, it has to be in a relationship to make both partners happy. The passion has to come back and you have to compromise or you just end up becoming roommates. Use this exercise to help you get over you stipulations on sex, think about the wonderful things your partner does, think about the wonderful times you have had together, and relive all those feelings. Do you want to create more of them? Well think back what was going on in your life when they happened, most likely there was a lot of passion between the two of you????? Are you getting the picture make it a point to woe each other again, get excited about having a date together, kiss when you come home from work, these little things will start to manifest your desire for each other and soon you won't have to worry about it the passion will take care of itself.