Agreed!!!!

One thing that is an important part of a relationship is agreeing on things. Whether it be where to go for lunch or how much to spend on a new home. You have to find the agreed area between the two of you. Planning a vacation? Pick out all the destinations and then start narrowing down the choices until you get to one you both like then with a resounding shout say AGREED! Make this a practice in your relationship. When you find something you both agree on shout it out, give each other a high five, or kiss. Celebrations are a big part of relationships so go ahead and celebrate when you find something you totally agree on and hopefully it will start happening more often.

Questions, Concerns, Need Help?

I have been at this now for well over a year and a half and I am curious to the nature of the status of my viewers relationships. I am curious if you are reading to improve your already great relationship or if it is a relationship in need of repair? I wonder what problems you have and would like to address? I am opening my doors for you to let me help. I am anxious to hear from many of you and I am sure I can offer suggestions that will help in any situation. Drop me a line at the email below and lets get started helping your relationship.

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Snack out of the same bowl.

I think one of the most romantic ways to enjoy a snack is to put it in one bowl and both of your snack from it. This is great for popcorn when your watching a movie or any snack doing anything. The reason it is so great is that it makes you get closer and you might just touch each other as your diving in for another handful. This simple act will make you appreciate your being close to your partner and touch is a need we all share. So next time you get ready for a snack keep this in mind and save washing two bowls and help build a better relationship.

Oral Sex Makes for Happy Sex!

Believe it or not but some couples have never had oral sex? Yes this is true and I am not knocking them but I wonder, WHY? Oral sex is a great way to break up the routine of your sex life plus it is one of the greatest ways to increase your foreplay. You can both take turns performing oral sex on each other or enjoy it at the same time. There are many books on the subject out there with great techniques and ideas to make in mind blowing. Maybe you are a little scared and I understand that but get over that hump and a magical kingdom awaits you and your partner. Oral sex is a great way to extend your sexual intimacy and bring you closer together. There is not reason you cannot partake in oral sex, what ever you problem is there is a solution. The best way to find out what works best for you is for you both to use the trial and error method. Communicate what feels good and what doesn't. Maybe you don't like talking during intimacy and if that is the case set up signals for each other. Tell you partner you will start rubbing their head if it feels good and that you will cough if it doesn't those are simple signs that can't be mistaken. I recently listen to a podcast on the subject and the trend is that oral sex is now considered part of a normal round of intimacy. That means if your not experiencing or enjoying oral sex you are missing the boat. I am throwing you a life jacket grab it slip it on and start pleasuring your lover and let them pleasure you in an oral manner.

Just drop it all and go to dinner

Have you ever had a day when the kids are driving you nuts your stuck in the house and you are ready to just loose it? I am sure most of us have had those days. It's not like we don't love our kids or that the stress of life is really that different then any other day. It's just a break down in strength. When this happens you need to fall back on your relationship to pick you up. This is important to get you a babysitter for the evening and go to dinner with your favorite adult, your partner. Go to a place where the two of you can have adult conversation and make sure it never enters into what is going on at home. Talk about politics, investments, movies, or anything else that grown ups talk about. This is specially needed for the man/woman that stays at home and takes care of the children and the house. That is a stressful job in it's self and sometimes you need a few hours off to recharge your batteries. Plan these escapes regularly and you might just see an improvement in the whole cycle. Honor those that take care of the important things at home they are truly a blessing.

The answers are simple.

Do you want to improve your relationship? If you say yes, then the steps you take are simple. Just put more effort into your relationship. Just like anything else with the more effort you put into building your relationship the better it will be. Get away from excuses like, I'm tired, I'm not putting in the effort unless he/she does, or I just don't feel like it. Excuses are just ways of being lazy and the cure for lazy is effort. Take is slow and each day make it a point to put a little more effort into loving your partner and your relationship. Soon you will start seeing it happen naturally and you will see your relationship blossom.

Judge Lindsey changed the face of relationships.

Judge Benjamin Barr Lindsey

Many years ago for women especially it was thought of that the man owned the wife in a relationship. That the women were not allowed to have their own life and they were demanded to perform certain duties around the house and relationship. This was so wrong. A great Judge back in the 1900's lost his position on the bar because he stated that relationships should be a partnership. That judge was Benjamin Barr Lindsey and the book that got him disbarred was entitled "The Companionate Marriage". Basically what the book said was that relationship were choices and that both sexes were free to have this union and a life. This was considered radical at the time and obviously cost Judge Lindsey dearly. Thank goodness times have changed. While things are not better for all women for a good majority of them life is much better because of actions like Judge Lindsey. For a relationship to truly be enjoyed we must each put as much effort into it as we can and that energy combines into a wonderful feast of love.

The Journey

"Our steps become a journey as we start putting them together. Our steps become easier when there is someone special to help us take them. Now our journey has become one of love." - Zob

Ad some miracle grow to your relationship.

The beauty of nature is obvious to most of us. Looking out over swaying trees and beautiful flowers is one of the great joys of life. You can however use this bit of nature to improve your relationship. We all know that getting a bundle of flowers is a wonderful way to say I love you. Why not take it a step further and start purchasing plants for your home or that can be planted outside later as a display of your love. House plants are great not only as a gift but they give oxygen off that is wonderful for us humans. Plus it can fill your house with an outdoorsy smell that is wonderful. Cut flowers wilt and die and that is not the image you want for your relationship so pick up something the will flourish. Let your give of love grow like you want your relationship to grow. These plants also serve as reminders to your mate how wonderful you think they are. The nice part is you can give plants to both male and female partners without any of the stereo type thinking. Go out today and purchase a love shrub for your mate and then watch it grow like your love for each other.

Get your sex sound track ready.

Your sex life is a wonderful passionate journey that the two of you share together. We don't often think about outside influences that could improve this connection. When we do we think of sex toys, lubes or even costumes. Have you ever thought about the music you can play in the background as being a enhancer to your sex life. Music is a powerful force in our life and I don't know of many people if any that say they can't relate to music. Even deaf people can feel the vibration of music. So why not bring that into our bedroom to help our passion. Think of native american drums, or music with amazing beat to it and how that can get your blood pumping which is a good thing in intimacy. How about Egyptian music to give your sacred place a different feel. Try out many different kinds of music and see how it chances your sex life. Now you can put another playlist on your ipod.