Hair Stubble don't be prickly

Okay you know you want to be lazy and not shave. This goes for both men and women, but you have to consider you partner in this matter. Sure it is great not to worry about shaving but what happens when you get close to each other. Do you want the sandpaper that is on your face to scrap across your lovers face, cutting them like wolverine from the X-Men? Ladies do you want your mate to think he is in bed with Chewbacca when he slides his feet against your legs? Always approach shaving like you are planning on getting close to your partner. They would much rather snuggle up to your soft skin then the forest that grows out of it. Get yourself a good razor or electric shaver to help with the shaving it will be money well spend. Don't wait until the first time it loses you action to do something about it.

Pumpkin Pie might be better than Viagra!

Everyone has a take on aphrodisiacs and rightfully so. Different people respond to different things. Our focus today is on Pumpkin and Pumpkin pies. Not many people understand that pumpkin has been used as an aphrodisiac for many years. According to a study by the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago, the smell of pumpkin alone can increase the blood flow as much as 40% (isn't that what Viagra does) They also claim that the pumpkin smell increases desire in women. If you get a little romantic sensation at Thanksgiving this might be the cause. Not only does the smell help but some studies say that pumpkin can help a man with prostate problems and also pregnant females. Pumpkin pie contains several items that are good for you but two in particular are known for their aphrodisiac property's. Cinnamon and Vanilla both are said to spike the libido. As we near the holidays we will all be pushing the pumpkin pie on our partners. I personally think I am going to start stocking up on the pies and have them all year long.

Click the Title of this post to go to the Science Channels web page on pumpkin pie as an aphrodisiac.

Don't always dress down on Sundays

We sometime are so glad when Sunday gets here and we can just simply slip into our comfortable clothes and lay around the house with our sweety. This is okay but every once in a while you need to make sure you do yourself up a little for your partner. Men sometimes you need to slip into something you mate would find you very attractive in. Ladies you need to do the same every once in a while, look good for you partner. Most of us dress nice to go to work but when we are with the person we love the most we look the worst. Does that make any sense. Now I am not saying you have to dress up, but looking nice for your partner shouldn't be hard. Don't skip things either on these lazy days, shaving your face and legs should be the same even on a relaxing day. You might even get lucky, and if you do you don't want to take time to shave or worse yet give your partner a burn or rash from your stubble. Think of Sunday as a date of sorts, you can still look great in sweats and a t-shirt but if you skip the hygiene part of your day your partner might be feeling a little left out.

Survey Results - Things I enjoy doing with my partner.

Results are in from the survey on what I enjoy doing with my partner. I was happily surprised to see that most all of our readers really seem to enjoy doing things with their partner. Hopefully that is showing that gone are the days when couples end up doing things separately. Maybe this way couples will stay together longer. Well enough chit chat here are the findings.

78% enjoy making out or having sex with their partner.

71% Think long walks are great with the one you love.

64% Crave snuggle time.

64% Enjoy Entertainment and Dinner out with their partner.

64% Love to experience outdoor activities with their mate

64% Can't wait to have a vacation together.

57% Love to spend hours talking with their special person.

50% Like to get their hearts pumping together thru exercise.

42% Love making memories with their partner over the holidays

35% Enjoy learning with their mate by taking classes together.

28% Love watching their Children's Activities together.

Can't get to the Islands how about an Island Drink?

It is starting to turn cold outside and almost everyone wishes they were someplace in the tropics about now. Except maybe those people in the tropics! Most of us can't just stop everything and hop on a plane and be basking in the sun by this evening. How about bringing a little of the tropics home for you and your partner. Go out and get some ingredients to make up some great island drinks. Some suggestions might be daiquiris, pina coloda or even margaritas. If you don't know how to make the drink don't worry your local liquor store will most likely have a pre-mixed version or you can look the recipe up on the Internet. Surprise you partner and create a island setting in your home. Turn the heat up a little spread some beach blankets on the floor, heck even put on your swim suit and sunglasses. Find some island music with steel drums and maybe you could even spend the evening browsing through your last vacation photos and remembering how special your trip was. Top off the evening with a luau, cook some island food and spend the night making out on the beach (towel). This is just what you need to break the start of cold and flu season.

Relationship Ruts

Have you hit a relationship rut? Well if you haven't you most likely will at some point in time. A Relationship rut is when you are in a space where it seems like you are doing the same things over and over. You feel like your life is on a cycle. You get up go to work come home go to bed, and your weekends feel similar. You get up take the kids to baseball games, eat lunch, come home, watch a movie, go to sleep. When you feel yourself getting into this positions, is the time you need to break out and find something new to do. Either by yourself or with the family, you need some thing new to stimulate your relationship. Grab your partner and find something you have never done before and spend a day doing that. Take a photography class, or go white water rafting. Maybe you want to include the kids too. If that is the case go on a all day hike, or visit an amusement park, go bowling, or geocaching. The possibilities are endless, so you really don't have a reason to get in a rut. Make sure what ever you decide to do sounds like fun to your partner or family and then head out. Don't think about your decisions to much and don't use chores as an excuse. The lawn and laundry will still be there when you get home and you can do them later if you like

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Lube Jobs - A Woman's Guide to Great Maintenance Sex

Want to get a handle on the differences in your libido? Well this book is a great starting point for that concern. Debra and Don Macleod really help the understanding of the importance of sex in a relationship for men. They also help show that it can be just as wonderful for the woman in the relationship. Below is the description of the book offered at many site. You can pick up the book at a very good price by clicking on my Amazon page link in the side bar. The book is also listed on my favorites list. Click on it to go straight to the book.

Book: Lube Jobs: A Woman's Guide To Great Maintenance Sex
A straight-talking women's guide to tending to a partner's unrequited libido and reigniting the sexual sparks in a long-term relationship. Part saucy sex manual, part relationship survival guide, this book also features stories of couples struggling to find their own balance in the bedroom.

A straight-talking women's guide to tending to a partner's unrequited libido and reigniting the sexual sparks in a long-term relationship. Many couples are all too familiar with the classic bedroom balancing act-managing His and Her sex drives. As men clamor for more action and women grumble for more sleep, the topic of "maintenance sex"-those dutiful two minutes to "get it over with"-invariably arises to divide and conquer a couple's sex life. Yet as Don and Debra Macleod reveal in "Lube Jobs," maintenance sex can be an exciting and loving way to jump-start a stalled sex life. And if it's done right, it can be fun for "both" parties. Indeed, just as the sleekest luxury car requires routine tune-ups for smooth performance, a long-term relationship requires regular lube jobs for a friction-free love life. Part saucy sex manual, part relationship survival guide, "Lube Jobs" includes a provocative menu of twenty ready-made "lube jobs" consisting of naughty sex scenarios, bedroom-toy tips, sexual techniques, and erotica. Each lube job inspires a woman to embrace maintenance sex as a critical aspect of her committed relationship, and shows her how to infuse it with spontaneity and affection. Throughout are poignant, sometimes hilarious, stories of couples struggling to find their own balance in the bedroom.

When did our relationship slip to being the last thing we care about?

Life is a wonderful thing and living is so important, why then do we let the hustle and bustle of everyday life get the best of us. Thing about this how different is your relationship now that you have been with your partner for some time? Remember back to the early part of your relationship where the most important thing was getting to be together. The other stuff just got in the way, you would count the hours until work was over or you couldn't wait for the time when you date would arrive. Remember the feelings you first had when you made love? That calm feeling of just being in bed together, passion was the focus and the rest of the world was on the outside looking in. Now if you have been together for a while are all those feelings still the same. Do you look forward to coming home to your partner so you can really spend time with them. It seems sad to me that the longer we are together the farther apart we drift. If you in that roommate stage of relationship where it seems like you are just meeting at the end of the day to sleep, you need to stop. This is the point in which love goes into hibernation. Sure you still love your partner but the passion and romance are sleeping. Time to wake them up. Make an effort to get back to that state when you loved doing things with your partner. Make time for the two of you to have fun. Yes even if you have kids that is what babysitters are for. You owe it to yourselves to get reconnected. My suggestion is to make sex a priority also, take turns planning romantic evenings even if they are in your own home and stick to it. It is easy to say I'm too tired or I don't feel like it, but now if you think about it doesn't your relationship deserve it. If you can bring the passion back into your relationship your whole world will seem a little brighter again. Think about how great life seemed when you were only worried about the romance and love. You can have that again all you need to do is try a little.

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Money in your Relationship

One thing that can bring a fight on is the topic of money. Usually one person takes control of the finances in a realtionship and the other partner has no clue as to where they stand. This is very dangerous for both partners. You should always have an idea and discuss your finanaces with each other no matter which person you are. Both partners should have access to some amount of money they can spend on their personal likes. Don't call it an allowance just say it is your portion of the household income to spend. Even if the person can't manage money worth a hoot they still need to be in control of some of it. If one of you is very bad a managing money I suggest setting up a special account for the person to use as their spending money. This way your basic budget stays in tact and you don't have to worry about little surprises throughing off the household income. If you want your relationship to stay healthy you need to discuss most of your purchases, going to the store and paying the bills need not be discussed unless you are deciding which ones you can't pay this month. If a partner does something outside the norm to make some money, make sure they get their fair share of the amount. Bottom line is your well bing comes first but everyone need to just blow some money from time to time. Work together on your budget and it will be easier for both of your to stick to. Last thing if you do get in trouble financially don't be afraid to ask for help right now banks and companies are tring as hard as they can to keep the economy from a total break down.

His or Her stress? In a relationship you both share the stress.

Does your partner seem to get stressed rather easily? How does it effect your relationship, are you unable to do things because your partner is to stressed, does it effect their mood and or their demeanor. Does the stress level your partner feels mirror into your relationship? Well simply put their is no way to avoid the stress of your significant other, you are the person that will get the brunt of it. Hopefully you understand this even though it is tough to stomach at times.

When people are stressed they tend to dwell on the object or situation that causes them the stress. As their partner anything that you can do to help them avoid thinking out this item the better. There are several web sites out there with suggestions on how to combat stress and I would suggest you reading up on it. If you are the partner that seems to handle stress better then you might be able to help them out by diverting their attention away from the stress. Things such as taking walks, getting outside on beautiful days are great ideas. Find some activities to enjoy and make sure they participate. Starting an exercise program is not only beneficial in the reduction of stress but it is also great for your health. Looking at what you eat can also help in the battle with stress. Massages are a wonderful way to help the person you love cope with their issues. Sex is another great option as it brings you closer and burns stress away quickly. Many people say that they get to stressed for sex and yet sex is a great way to let go of stress, so fight through that initial urge to pass and realize that it might just be the best way for your partner to help you battle the stress monster.

Making the stress disappear completely is most likely not an option in most cases. We can only do so much and usually the stress isn't something you can just defuse quickly. Helping them cope with the problems and getting it out of their minds is the next best thing you can do if you love them. Help them breath in the fresh air, and see that all this will pass.

Click on the title of this post to view a list of stress reducers.