Watching the world go by.

Have you every just taken the time to sit and watch the world go by? Take an afternoon and you and your partner go sit on a bench somewhere in public. Watch the people hurry and scurry by and see how differently everyone goes about their business. Pick out people you think are late or have no idea where they are going. Make up fun and interesting stories about the people and where they are going or what they are doing. Sit back and relax and enjoy the rushing world all around you. Spend as much time in this slowed down pace as you can and when you have to leave get up slowly and casually stroll away. People watching can be fun and a great way to pass the time plus it gets you knowing how your partner thinks.

Spend alone time together.

This might sound like the silliest thing ever. However you can be alone with someone in the same room. Reading together is one of those things you can do together but be totally apart in your time. Just being in the same room will make you feel like your relationship has grown and is improving. One thing you have to do to make this successful is to keep to yourself. Be together but don't interrupt each other by asking questions or speaking to your partner. Giving them solitude while you are with them takes a lot of self control. However to spend a couple of hours together in the same room while enjoying something on your own brings you closer to understanding each other. Try this exercise for the two of you set a timer for an hour get a book and read together and when you get really good you will be able to touch your partners foot or hand and still not invade there mind space. Being able to be apart while you are together is a challenge but a great wonderful way for a couple to have their space and love you too.

To much of a good thing...is a bad thing

You know when you do something that really works well. Like say you bring your partner flowers, or take them to that special restaurant. Well it works so well you can't wait to do it again. Well don't, taking something that is special and doing it more often takes away it's special feeling. For example buying your partner flowers as mentioned above is great for anniversaries but if you buy them flowers ever week it takes away it's luster. You have to make sure you don't overdue anything that works well. I suggest taking the twice a year approach. If you have something that works really well in your relationship and makes your partner feel special. You should wait at least six months before you do that activity again. This way there is no fear it will become boring and mundane.

This works in you sexual adventures as well. Yes we all have things we like every time we make love. I am looking for the special activities, like maybe dressing up, or acting out a fantasy. If you haven't figured it out yet variety helps promote great couples. So from your family activities to your alone activities you need to mix them up a little. Excitement only last so long on any new thing, just watch a child that gets a new toy. They won't let go of it when the first take it out of the package but about a week later they might not be able to find it. Let's keep our relationship where we can find it, and mix it up a little.

New and exciting always beats normal and boring.