Don't put your passion on auto pilot.

We get into routines when we crave the passion we want. The same activities happen in the same order every time we get a chance to be intimate. This isn't a bad thing as we find out what works and stick with it. However this can be the boredom that can haunt our bedroom. The answer is for starters to start being intimate more often. This will allow you more chances to switch things up without the fear of having a bad sexual encounter. Next find some reading material on sexual instructions and try something a little different. You woman will always need a little warming up with foreplay so that is a wonderful time to try different and exciting things. Lastly and this one usually affects the men the most, but slow down. Take your time play with your partner make them feel special when you try something new on them. By taking your passion off auto pilot you allow your course to chance and while you might hit some bumps you will still get to your destination.

Don't leave without a kiss.

As we start to stumble though our life and relationship things start to fall to the side. One of these things is kissing each other goodbye. It may seem a little silly but in my opinion whenever one of you leaves no matter what reason you should at least give a little peck goodbye. It should be a habit not a stretch for the two of you. The reason being is that life can take a twist or turn at any time. I have heard so many stories about people that have lost their partner and they say if I only could have given them one more kiss. We don't want to make it sound like a disaster is going to happen and I don't want you to look at it this way. What I would rather you do is look at it as sending them off with your energy. Giving them your passion and strength. Now that is a great way to look at it. Next time your partner is running out the door to leave make sure to call them back and lay a great big kiss on them. You know the energy that you will be sharing with them and they will feel it.

Love flows were attention goes.

Do you love your partner? I am sure most of you that are visiting this blog are saying, yes. However do you honor them with your love or do you just say it. When is the last time you just laid it on the line and did something unselfish for them. Not wanting anything in return just to tell them you love them. When is the last time you brought flowers home, or left a little love note for them to read. When is the last time you sent them a sexy little email or seduced them while they were not expecting it. Make a shift to start doing this at least once a week if not more often. Not only does it make your partner feel important and appreciated it also helps to build a strong relationship. Because trust me if your partner loves you as much as you love them then soon that attention to love will start flowing towards you.

Spooning

One of the best positions to snuggle up in is the spooning position. If you haven't heard of this it is basically where one partner lays against the others back and their body positions are exactly the same. Much like out spoons fit together when stacked on top of each other, hence the name, spooning. It allows you both to touch each other and is a save and wonderful way to connect. This position is great if you are not feeling really sexual but still want to connect and hold each other. In my opinion the person in the back is the comfort person as they control the hugging. The person in the front is the receiver and gets to enjoy the warmth the comfort person provides. The front person can reciprocate the hugs by reaching back and touching the person in the back. Need less to say the closeness of the position is a wonderful way to connect and touch to show love and care for each other.

Getting through tough days in your relationship.

Every relationship has days that you seem like you are unappreciated or that you don't get exactly what you want. This is normal and everyone feels that way from time to time. This is the time that you need to count your blessings. Yes, I mean literally counting your blessings. Sit down and thing about the things that your partner does that are important to you, or that just make you feel good. You quickly start to balance out those negative thoughts you are having with positive ones. Soon the scale will be tipped in the favor of the positive thoughts as your mind starting thinking of the more detailed things. Things like making you dinner, or doing the laundry, or that time he/she made passionate love to you last week. This is how you keep those negative thoughts in check. Once you start to compare them to the wonderful things you partner does you will quickly put your uneasiness to rest.

Make your bed a special place.

Your bed is obviously the most intimate place in your house. This is where the majority of your sexual contact takes place. However, you can use it as so much more. I know in our house we use it as a forum for great talks, an area for massages, and even as an entertainment venue as we watch silly things on the computer. Things you should not bring into your bed are trouble from work, issues about money, or anything negative. Don't allow negative energy into your bed. Keep your bed as a shrine to happiness and love. Leave all the other baggage on the floor as you enter the place of sanctitude and love.

Send a wonderful email.

Here is a great little thing you can do to start you partners day out right. Sit down and compose a romantic email to them. Spell out all the things you love about them. Keep it clean and romantic explaining why you fell in love with them and why you continue to love them more and more each day. This can become a habit and will brighten your partners day. Spell out why you love them put it in your email and you might just be met with kisses when you get home.

Don't forget to be friends in your relationship.

One of the biggest problems I feel happen in a relationship is that we lose sight of how important our friendship is with each other. We become a couple and now we aren't friends any longer we become partners and lovers. We forget that we had a make a bond first and that was becoming friends. We did things together, we talked, we enjoyed each others company, so why should we stop doing those things. We can still have intimacy, take on the daily tasks of living and be friends. Why do so many couples not get this! Set up dates have nights of fun laughing until the sun comes up, start remembering what it was like to build that friendship during the very early part of your relationship. I am sure if you think back that if the friendship wasn't there your relationship wouldn't be where it is today? Think about that for a while and you will see just how important remaining friends is.

Kiss someplace new tonight.

Tonight make it a point to kiss someplace new. Now that can mean a couple of things for starters it could mean that you kiss a different part of their body. Try out some different spots on the body and see the reaction your partner has. For example kissing on the inside of jointed areas can be a huge turn on to some people. The inside of the arm where the elbow bends, or the back side of the knee can both be very sensual places that don't get a lot of attention. The hands or feet are other areas that can be very sensitive to a kiss. The point being pick a spot on your lovers body you have never kissed and kiss it. Now another way you can go about this is find a place in your house or neighborhood that you have never had a kiss before. Maybe it is the attic, or the basement. You could go to a local park or downtown in the middle of the busy time. Where ever you chose the point it to show your partner you want to experience them everywhere. This can become a habit. I know a couple who's goal is to kiss in every state in the United States or America. You can seek out special kissing places such as waterfalls, scenic views or even sporting events. What ever floats your boat or makes your lips tingle go for it. Happy kissing day to you and your partner.

How to recharge your partners and your batteries.

We all get that feeling from time to time that we are just drained. Be it from work, school, the kids, or just life in general. We feel drained and worn out and who suffers from that the love of our life of course. We give all day long and then have nothing left for our partner. They get the short end of the stick and that is so unfair to them. How can we avoid this and not make them suffer because we are tired or worn out? Well first of all you have to dedicate yourself to making the time to have for them. Don't curl up in bed unless you have your arms wrapped your partner. Dedicate time to be spend holding hands watching a movie, or sitting on the porch swing snuggled up like teenagers. Massages are a wonderful tool for recharging your lovers batteries. Never under estimate the power of making out, kissing has a wonderful charging power. Intimacy is a great way to show your care and give it your all then fall asleep in each others arms. What a amazing end to a day that would be. All of these things and many more can recharge those drained batteries. YOU just have to make the effort and give a little more. Thing about the rewards which are a great relationship and a wonderful friendship. Now go put your relationship on the charger and get the energy back.