Your Life's Soundtrack

I wonder sometimes why I don't listen to more music? When the wife and I are folding laundry or just hanging out, it never seems that I remember that the silence that so often fills our house could be avoided by simply playing some music. Most everyone love some sort of music so it makes sense to play some during your most mundane tasks. Music can get your blood pumping and maybe get you up to do a little exercising while you are just sitting completing your task. If you have an iPod then you need to get you a playlist set up with the upbeat music that you love so the next time you and your partner are just sitting their doing a boring task you can get up and dance so excitement into your relationship. Be silly and get your heart pumping.

Don't stop there start putting music everywhere in your life, listen to it while you take a shower (Keep all electrical devices away for the water, duh), find some music to make out to, or some to sit and listen to on the porch while you sip a drink. Our memories are sometimes attached to songs that are playing in the background during an event that happens. If you have children get them involved also and pick songs that are fun to sing and move to. Start them young and put music in their lives. Look at it this way have you ever seen a movie that didn't have music playing in the background during the important parts? Unless the want you to hear what the actors are saying music is playing. Lets put a soundtrack in the background of our lives start compiling songs today.

Make Sex Promises

I am a big fan of anticipation, it is one of those things that can drive you to get things don't faster and to help build excitement. What I want you to do today is to make a sexual promise to your partner. In the morning tell them you will perform a specific task on them at a certain time during the night. You might thing what will that do for our relationship. Well let me tell you, your partner will now start to think about this activity and begin building it up in his/her mind. Anticipation will begin to kick in and they will start to feel more and more excited as the time nears. Sure you have taken the spontaneity out of the event but they are anxious to get it started. If you like make stipulations on the event. Tell them they have to take out the garbage and you will give them a sexual surprise. What ever you decide on having them do make sure you follow through on your promise and give them the excitement they will be craving.

Research how scents affect your relationship

Scents are a powerful thing and you never know exactly how someone will act to a certain scent. I want to suggest you do a little research on the subject in your relationship. Get some different scented candles and have them burning with your partner comes home. Log down their mood and how they act throughout the night, then change the scent the next time. Get 7 different candles and try a different scent each day then repeat the cycle the next week. Do this for one month then look over your log book to see if you see any similarities. Maybe the smell of lavender puts your partner in a mellow mood where they just want to relax, or maybe the smell of cinnamon makes your partner a little frisky. To test your scent findings switch things up. If you partner comes home in a bad mood choose the scent that made them the most relaxed and see how they react to the scent. Do they calm down or does it have no effect. You might just find that the scents will help you set a mood for your time together. If you find a scent that makes your partner in just the mood you enjoy then you better take stock in that company and buy all the candles in that scent you can find.

Hair Stubble don't be prickly

Okay you know you want to be lazy and not shave. This goes for both men and women, but you have to consider you partner in this matter. Sure it is great not to worry about shaving but what happens when you get close to each other. Do you want the sandpaper that is on your face to scrap across your lovers face, cutting them like wolverine from the X-Men? Ladies do you want your mate to think he is in bed with Chewbacca when he slides his feet against your legs? Always approach shaving like you are planning on getting close to your partner. They would much rather snuggle up to your soft skin then the forest that grows out of it. Get yourself a good razor or electric shaver to help with the shaving it will be money well spend. Don't wait until the first time it loses you action to do something about it.

Pumpkin Pie might be better than Viagra!

Everyone has a take on aphrodisiacs and rightfully so. Different people respond to different things. Our focus today is on Pumpkin and Pumpkin pies. Not many people understand that pumpkin has been used as an aphrodisiac for many years. According to a study by the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago, the smell of pumpkin alone can increase the blood flow as much as 40% (isn't that what Viagra does) They also claim that the pumpkin smell increases desire in women. If you get a little romantic sensation at Thanksgiving this might be the cause. Not only does the smell help but some studies say that pumpkin can help a man with prostate problems and also pregnant females. Pumpkin pie contains several items that are good for you but two in particular are known for their aphrodisiac property's. Cinnamon and Vanilla both are said to spike the libido. As we near the holidays we will all be pushing the pumpkin pie on our partners. I personally think I am going to start stocking up on the pies and have them all year long.

Click the Title of this post to go to the Science Channels web page on pumpkin pie as an aphrodisiac.

Don't always dress down on Sundays

We sometime are so glad when Sunday gets here and we can just simply slip into our comfortable clothes and lay around the house with our sweety. This is okay but every once in a while you need to make sure you do yourself up a little for your partner. Men sometimes you need to slip into something you mate would find you very attractive in. Ladies you need to do the same every once in a while, look good for you partner. Most of us dress nice to go to work but when we are with the person we love the most we look the worst. Does that make any sense. Now I am not saying you have to dress up, but looking nice for your partner shouldn't be hard. Don't skip things either on these lazy days, shaving your face and legs should be the same even on a relaxing day. You might even get lucky, and if you do you don't want to take time to shave or worse yet give your partner a burn or rash from your stubble. Think of Sunday as a date of sorts, you can still look great in sweats and a t-shirt but if you skip the hygiene part of your day your partner might be feeling a little left out.

Survey Results - Things I enjoy doing with my partner.

Results are in from the survey on what I enjoy doing with my partner. I was happily surprised to see that most all of our readers really seem to enjoy doing things with their partner. Hopefully that is showing that gone are the days when couples end up doing things separately. Maybe this way couples will stay together longer. Well enough chit chat here are the findings.

78% enjoy making out or having sex with their partner.

71% Think long walks are great with the one you love.

64% Crave snuggle time.

64% Enjoy Entertainment and Dinner out with their partner.

64% Love to experience outdoor activities with their mate

64% Can't wait to have a vacation together.

57% Love to spend hours talking with their special person.

50% Like to get their hearts pumping together thru exercise.

42% Love making memories with their partner over the holidays

35% Enjoy learning with their mate by taking classes together.

28% Love watching their Children's Activities together.

Can't get to the Islands how about an Island Drink?

It is starting to turn cold outside and almost everyone wishes they were someplace in the tropics about now. Except maybe those people in the tropics! Most of us can't just stop everything and hop on a plane and be basking in the sun by this evening. How about bringing a little of the tropics home for you and your partner. Go out and get some ingredients to make up some great island drinks. Some suggestions might be daiquiris, pina coloda or even margaritas. If you don't know how to make the drink don't worry your local liquor store will most likely have a pre-mixed version or you can look the recipe up on the Internet. Surprise you partner and create a island setting in your home. Turn the heat up a little spread some beach blankets on the floor, heck even put on your swim suit and sunglasses. Find some island music with steel drums and maybe you could even spend the evening browsing through your last vacation photos and remembering how special your trip was. Top off the evening with a luau, cook some island food and spend the night making out on the beach (towel). This is just what you need to break the start of cold and flu season.

Relationship Ruts

Have you hit a relationship rut? Well if you haven't you most likely will at some point in time. A Relationship rut is when you are in a space where it seems like you are doing the same things over and over. You feel like your life is on a cycle. You get up go to work come home go to bed, and your weekends feel similar. You get up take the kids to baseball games, eat lunch, come home, watch a movie, go to sleep. When you feel yourself getting into this positions, is the time you need to break out and find something new to do. Either by yourself or with the family, you need some thing new to stimulate your relationship. Grab your partner and find something you have never done before and spend a day doing that. Take a photography class, or go white water rafting. Maybe you want to include the kids too. If that is the case go on a all day hike, or visit an amusement park, go bowling, or geocaching. The possibilities are endless, so you really don't have a reason to get in a rut. Make sure what ever you decide to do sounds like fun to your partner or family and then head out. Don't think about your decisions to much and don't use chores as an excuse. The lawn and laundry will still be there when you get home and you can do them later if you like

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Lube Jobs - A Woman's Guide to Great Maintenance Sex

Want to get a handle on the differences in your libido? Well this book is a great starting point for that concern. Debra and Don Macleod really help the understanding of the importance of sex in a relationship for men. They also help show that it can be just as wonderful for the woman in the relationship. Below is the description of the book offered at many site. You can pick up the book at a very good price by clicking on my Amazon page link in the side bar. The book is also listed on my favorites list. Click on it to go straight to the book.

Book: Lube Jobs: A Woman's Guide To Great Maintenance Sex
A straight-talking women's guide to tending to a partner's unrequited libido and reigniting the sexual sparks in a long-term relationship. Part saucy sex manual, part relationship survival guide, this book also features stories of couples struggling to find their own balance in the bedroom.

A straight-talking women's guide to tending to a partner's unrequited libido and reigniting the sexual sparks in a long-term relationship. Many couples are all too familiar with the classic bedroom balancing act-managing His and Her sex drives. As men clamor for more action and women grumble for more sleep, the topic of "maintenance sex"-those dutiful two minutes to "get it over with"-invariably arises to divide and conquer a couple's sex life. Yet as Don and Debra Macleod reveal in "Lube Jobs," maintenance sex can be an exciting and loving way to jump-start a stalled sex life. And if it's done right, it can be fun for "both" parties. Indeed, just as the sleekest luxury car requires routine tune-ups for smooth performance, a long-term relationship requires regular lube jobs for a friction-free love life. Part saucy sex manual, part relationship survival guide, "Lube Jobs" includes a provocative menu of twenty ready-made "lube jobs" consisting of naughty sex scenarios, bedroom-toy tips, sexual techniques, and erotica. Each lube job inspires a woman to embrace maintenance sex as a critical aspect of her committed relationship, and shows her how to infuse it with spontaneity and affection. Throughout are poignant, sometimes hilarious, stories of couples struggling to find their own balance in the bedroom.