Getting through tough days in your relationship.

Every relationship has days that you seem like you are unappreciated or that you don't get exactly what you want. This is normal and everyone feels that way from time to time. This is the time that you need to count your blessings. Yes, I mean literally counting your blessings. Sit down and thing about the things that your partner does that are important to you, or that just make you feel good. You quickly start to balance out those negative thoughts you are having with positive ones. Soon the scale will be tipped in the favor of the positive thoughts as your mind starting thinking of the more detailed things. Things like making you dinner, or doing the laundry, or that time he/she made passionate love to you last week. This is how you keep those negative thoughts in check. Once you start to compare them to the wonderful things you partner does you will quickly put your uneasiness to rest.

Make your bed a special place.

Your bed is obviously the most intimate place in your house. This is where the majority of your sexual contact takes place. However, you can use it as so much more. I know in our house we use it as a forum for great talks, an area for massages, and even as an entertainment venue as we watch silly things on the computer. Things you should not bring into your bed are trouble from work, issues about money, or anything negative. Don't allow negative energy into your bed. Keep your bed as a shrine to happiness and love. Leave all the other baggage on the floor as you enter the place of sanctitude and love.

Send a wonderful email.

Here is a great little thing you can do to start you partners day out right. Sit down and compose a romantic email to them. Spell out all the things you love about them. Keep it clean and romantic explaining why you fell in love with them and why you continue to love them more and more each day. This can become a habit and will brighten your partners day. Spell out why you love them put it in your email and you might just be met with kisses when you get home.

Don't forget to be friends in your relationship.

One of the biggest problems I feel happen in a relationship is that we lose sight of how important our friendship is with each other. We become a couple and now we aren't friends any longer we become partners and lovers. We forget that we had a make a bond first and that was becoming friends. We did things together, we talked, we enjoyed each others company, so why should we stop doing those things. We can still have intimacy, take on the daily tasks of living and be friends. Why do so many couples not get this! Set up dates have nights of fun laughing until the sun comes up, start remembering what it was like to build that friendship during the very early part of your relationship. I am sure if you think back that if the friendship wasn't there your relationship wouldn't be where it is today? Think about that for a while and you will see just how important remaining friends is.

Kiss someplace new tonight.

Tonight make it a point to kiss someplace new. Now that can mean a couple of things for starters it could mean that you kiss a different part of their body. Try out some different spots on the body and see the reaction your partner has. For example kissing on the inside of jointed areas can be a huge turn on to some people. The inside of the arm where the elbow bends, or the back side of the knee can both be very sensual places that don't get a lot of attention. The hands or feet are other areas that can be very sensitive to a kiss. The point being pick a spot on your lovers body you have never kissed and kiss it. Now another way you can go about this is find a place in your house or neighborhood that you have never had a kiss before. Maybe it is the attic, or the basement. You could go to a local park or downtown in the middle of the busy time. Where ever you chose the point it to show your partner you want to experience them everywhere. This can become a habit. I know a couple who's goal is to kiss in every state in the United States or America. You can seek out special kissing places such as waterfalls, scenic views or even sporting events. What ever floats your boat or makes your lips tingle go for it. Happy kissing day to you and your partner.

How to recharge your partners and your batteries.

We all get that feeling from time to time that we are just drained. Be it from work, school, the kids, or just life in general. We feel drained and worn out and who suffers from that the love of our life of course. We give all day long and then have nothing left for our partner. They get the short end of the stick and that is so unfair to them. How can we avoid this and not make them suffer because we are tired or worn out? Well first of all you have to dedicate yourself to making the time to have for them. Don't curl up in bed unless you have your arms wrapped your partner. Dedicate time to be spend holding hands watching a movie, or sitting on the porch swing snuggled up like teenagers. Massages are a wonderful tool for recharging your lovers batteries. Never under estimate the power of making out, kissing has a wonderful charging power. Intimacy is a great way to show your care and give it your all then fall asleep in each others arms. What a amazing end to a day that would be. All of these things and many more can recharge those drained batteries. YOU just have to make the effort and give a little more. Thing about the rewards which are a great relationship and a wonderful friendship. Now go put your relationship on the charger and get the energy back.

Challenge each other to recycle!

Love is good and recycling is good, also. Why not make a game of recycling between you and your lover. Make it a point to see who can recycle the most items or to call the other one out when they don't recycle. If you find a soda can in the trash from your lover, make sure to draw it to their attention. You could even go as far as to set up a chart and when you hit a certain point your partner has to take you to dinner. You could even put disciplines on items found in the trash that were recyclable. For example, 3 items found would make your partner have to give you a massage. Heck you could even attach sexual favors to a number of recycled items you find in the trash from your partner. Then at least you both win as you dig out the items. If you really want to get into the competition thing then start two bags of recycling and see who can fill theirs up first. You could even do this in your neighborhood. What ever way you do it, the fact remains you will be helping the environment. Peace and recycling to all of you.

Use different words.

Okay we all have our basic vocabulary and we use the same words over and over to describe things. You use the same little name for your partner like sweetie, honey, or baby. Time to mix that up a little and increase your vocabulary. Once a week look up a different word to use to describe you partner. Speak to them in this manner or use it in your emails that you send. Words like beloved, handsome, beautiful, are great and different. Try to use words that build them up and make them feel good about themselves as well as the way you feel about them. Get far reaching and try to find words they might have to look up to see what they mean. Not only will it help your vocabulary but it will help show how vast your love for you partner is.

Make love your religion

There is an old song I believe by Ziggy Marley that states "Love is my religion" I personally think that is a wonderful statement. I am not here to bash anyone's religion but today so many of them are not what was originally intended. Big business has effected our religion and I truly believe that love is the greatest and safest religion. Putting effort and extra energy into your love can only bring you more happiness and joy. Plus you are not judged like you are in most religions today. My religion manifests in the love I have for my partner and our family and that is my safe haven. Many religions have some great messages to deliver but in the process someone has taken those messages and twisted them into orders and demands of people. I want to send love out and that is how I am spiritual. I am not telling you to stop believing in what you believe but I am asking you to step back and really look at what is best for your relationship and your life. Dig deep and find the real meanings to your religion and then put them into your love.

Be a little aggressive in bed.

I read an interesting statistic the other day that claimed that most women wish their men were a little more aggressive in bed. It would seem that with women getting more in touch with their sexuality that gone are the days of slow and calm love making. I am sure after that last statement I will get tons of emails from women that love it slow and calm. However I am sticking to my feeling that women want to feel like their love making is passionate. To me passionate means not being able to control your desire for the person you are with. This make sense to me why women would love the aggressiveness. Who doesn't want to feel like their lover can't get enough of them. Here is a little secret ladies, men like you to be aggressive also. It seems that both sexes should go after what they want and well the sex will satisfy both of them. The only problem I for see is that if both partners want to be aggressive who gets to lead? I will let the two of you sort that out and maybe it is just a matter of taking turns or switching. Which ever works best for you doesn't matter but don't put the stove on simmer when you can put it on hot!