...and the Holiday is!

Want to have a special day? Why not create your own special holiday. Declare you holiday early in the day so your partner has time to react to the holiday. Send you partner a text or email expressing the holiday and see what kind of reaction you get from them. These self proclaimed holidays can be romantic or even help get chores done. Some examples might be, "National Paint the Garage Day", "Pizza and Movie Night", or "National Try a New Sexual Position Day" Make your holiday crazy and out of the normal. Encourage you partner to make up the next crazy holiday then make it a special event between the two of you. I personally like this one "National Massage Your Partner, Turn the Light Down, and Make Passionate Love Day" I am going to try to get this one through congress.

Couples Sports.

There are lots of things you can enjoy together as a couple. Many of those things involve sports. Participating in a sport together can bring you closer and also be a fun activity to break up the everyday struggles of life. There are lots of sport to choose from, like golf, tennis, or dancing. However you might want to break away from the normal sports that the two of you can participate in and look for something different. Hiking, snorkeling, or weight lifting are sports that you don't do every day but they can build a relationship as you learn and become better at them. Turn it into a passion for the both of you. Research the gear you need compete in your new found love. Once the two of you are comfortable with your new activity you might want to look for other couples to enjoy it with also. Join group functions for you activity and get the big picture of how many others love it also. Not only will you forge new friendships but you will build the one between the two of you.

Dreaming Together

Dream board are simple things that the two of you can put together that will keep you focused on your dreams. You simply put things you want or desire up on the board then hang it up where you can see it every day. Put up pictures of where you want to live, cars you want to have, and places you want to go. Doing this keeps these objects in your mind and seeing them everyday will bring them closer to you then you think. If you want an amazing camera, or a yacht then put it up on your board. Don't worry if you feel that the item is out of your reach because if you believe in yourself you soon will find yourself shopping for that item. Once your board is up, make sure you spend time looking at it everyday and do it as a couple also. Put your arms around each other and talk as if you already have the things in the picture. Say things like I think, "I will take the Cadillac to work today", or "After work lets set out on the deck and listen to the ocean waves" By imagining the things you desire you bring them closer. It might seem silly at first but believe me those desires can become reality you just have to believe.

Don't be the old couple watching television in matching recliners.

This image haunts me to this day, the image of older people in their matching recliners wasting away the rest of their lives watching television. Don't fall victim to this trap. As we age it is true we can't do as much as we can when we were younger. However that doesn't have to be a death sentence to sit mindlessly watching television for the rest of our lives. As a couple it is your position to spur each other on and not get trapped in that recliner of death. Turn the television off and read a book, that way at least you are stimulating your mind, now a days you can even use a reading device such as the Amazon kindle so that you don't have stacks of books laying around. Make sure you exercise your body, also. Take walks, do simple exercises if you are unable to do others. Make the commitment to each other to not let the sedimentary lifestyle set in on either of you. Think of things to do go out and watch your kids or grandchildren play sports, soak up some sun, and enjoy all of your life you can. No one ever remembers how many episodes of Dancing with the stars you watched during your life, but they do remember how much life you had in you, so live it up.

Yard Work

Yard work is usually something that is dreaded, but as a couple you can take great pride in your landscaping. Plan out a project together, maybe it is putting a rock garden in or putting in some shrubbery. No matter what you do, even if it is just mowing try to make your yard a work of art. As a couple take pride in your yard, make it a point to work at it together. Take turns mowing and weeding the flowers. Make you landscape an extension of your relationship. Let it thrive and grow and be a model for others to follow. Landscaping has many other benefits. It is a form of exercise and is way better than sitting inside watching soap operas. Landscaping and gardening can also be therapeutic for many people. Plus it can make all your property worth a lot more money not only because of your landscaping. Once your neighbors see your yard they will feel the competition and start making their yard a showplace also. This might increase property values in the entire community. Most important, use your landscaping to get closer to your partner. The passion that comes from keeping the immaculate yard might spill over into your relationship.

What to talk about.

One great thing about being in a special relationship is that you always have someone to talk to. What happens when you just don't have anything to talk about. Maybe you have been together so much that you just can't think of anything interesting to say. You can talk about work or the children, but maybe you want a little deeper conversation. You want to tap into your partner deeper feeling about life in general, but how? What we do when we need to find some interesting conversation is get out some of our old board games and use the questions. Any trivia style game or situation game will do. Just take the cards and find a comfortable place to fire questions back and forth to each other. One of my favorites for this is a game called "Loaded Questions" it is basically just simple questions to ask each other there are not right or wrong answers but they let you know where your partner stands. Another game very similar is Table Conversations, or What Would you Do. Actually I have through out all the boards and spinners to these games and just have kept the questions. I have them quickly on hand for times when we have alone time so that we have plenty to talk about always.

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Genitals vs. Toes

Unless you have a foot fetish I can assume that you don't use your toes much during your intimate love making. While my toes aren't the most erotic part of my body they are still aids in creating different sensations. Toes feel different then fingers and usually have a little tougher skin on them than other parts of your body. So, stroking your partners genitals with you feet will feel a lot different from using you fingers. Now most of us don't have as much coordination with our toes as we do with our fingers so you have to take it slow. The last thing you want to do is whack your partners genitals hard, because that could put a damper on your love making. Toes can be used to stroke a man's penis and play with his testicles and believe me this is such a turn on for most guys. Toes can also be used to stimulate the nipples of both men and women. Now for something a little different you can use your toes to stimulate the lips of a woman's genitals. Gaining control of your little buggers on your foot can also allow you to enter her vagina. Both sexes can enjoy a little toe to anus play. The positions you can get into for this type of foreplay is amazing and you don't have to be one of those images from the Karma Sutra to enjoy them. If you do plan on using your toes as sex toys please make sure to wash them good, poor hygiene is the kiss of death when dealing with they feet. Toenails also need to be neatly trimmed for obvious reasons.

Find new recipes!

As a couple we get into the patter of cooking the same things over and over. Remember the days where each day had a title as to what you were going to eat. Meatloaf Monday, Taco Tuesday, ...

Well just as you need spice in your relationship you need it in your diet also. Nowadays new and exciting dishes are just a click away using the internet. Find a website that you both like that has a variety of recipes for several different types of cuisine. Take turns picking out something that sounds wonderful to you and make a list of six new dishes. Then make it a point to try these dishes our during the next month. After 6 months of doing this you will have tried 36 new dishes. They don't have to be ones that take all day to cook find websites that have simple meals that busy people can prepare in no time. Now it becomes a challenge to find new and exciting recipes to out do each other. Grade each recipe after you have consumed the meal and anything with a low score toss out. Ones you give high marks you can store or put into your meal rotation. Now forget about boring Meatloaf Mondays and starting thinking of your meals as an adventure in taste.

A great time to make love!

One of our favorite times to make love is right when before the sun starts to set. We love the lighting it gives in our room. It acts as candle light letting you see and enjoy each others images but doesn't make you feel like your the center attraction at the circus. It allows you the freedom to see your sexy partner and watch them casually get ready to make love to you. You can also use the light as a timer. Make a deal to have foreplay until the light either reaches a certain point in the room or is no longer existent. This works create to help a partner that might be a little shy about being viewed because then once darkness hits they feel more comfortable. This might sound a little strange but for my partner and I it also allows us to get up and talk or get a snack or drink afterwards. We use this time to connect which right after sex there is no yearning or desire for physical intimacy. It allows you to focus on the mental side of intimacy which is very nice also.

Depending on your household situation you might have a little trouble starting love making at this time of day/night. Children and neighbors might create an issue as you attempt this amazing ritual. Good locks and shear curtains can go a long way in the pursuit of making love as the sun sets. You can also plan an overnight stay for your young ones at grandma's house. You could also take turns with other couples with children the same age so you both have the opportunity to enjoy a little uninterrupted alone time. Making love right before you drift off to sleep is fantastic, too. However, I would suggest you try a little sunset love and see how you like it.