Increase your sex life with a little education

Many of us think we know all the sex tricks out in the world today. I am sure you know plenty if you are into your relationship like most people that view this blog. However, I don't think as in anything you can ever know or learn to much. I want to suggest you and your partner pick up some reading material on the subject of sex and love and read it together. You might not get anything out of the book or maybe you will learn something that will set your loins on fire. The point is you never know until you try and learning with your partner might spark more then the reading material ever could. A recent purchase that has brought some pleasure into my life is a book called Red Hot Touch (Click the title of this post to go to the web sire) you can also find in in my amazon side bar. The book has lead to some laughing and experimenting for myself and I feel it could help many a relationship. Now go out buy a backpack and some folders pick up the Red Hot Touch book at amazon and start your classes today!

Drinking and Sex

I would like to hear peoples opinions on drinking and sex. I have heard several different views on what is acceptable. Some people believe that you shouldn't have any drinks before you have sex with another person. I also know others that have to have to drink to get loosened up as they put it. In my opinion there is a large grey area here. Several things must be considered to decide. For starters are we talking one drink or getting drunk, I believe that a few drinks are not harmful to the act or to the person as they have sex. On the other hand getting total wiped out is never a good idea no matter what you are doing. Not being in control is never a good way to be. If you do find yourself in this position I hope you are with your trusting partner that will take care of you and make sure you are safe. Alcohol has been proven to have some good effects on your health, but doing it to excess does just the opposite. My stand on this debate is have a couple of drinks, beers or glasses of wine will not hurt your sex life. To much can add problems such as erection problems, not using birth control properly, and even getting yourself into situations that might be harmful to your health. Just as when you are doing anything else drink in moderation and if you have to much then just tell you partner to be the designated masturbater tonight.

Find Some Passion Outside of Your Bedroom

In your relationship we hope that you are experiencing passion in your everyday life as well as your sex life. I think a thing that can help bring you closer as a couple is to find a passion outside of your relationship. NO - not with another person, but with a charitable organization or hobbies. It should be something you can both take pride in and feel good about. Maybe it is organizing a rally to raise money for a charity or just rooting for your local football team. You need to find something that makes you both happy.  Don't settle for your partner's favorite thing. Pick something new and interesting and put some effort into it. You know you have found it when you both come home and ask each other at the same time if you are ready to participate in your function. It is such a rush to get involved with your partner in something you both have passion in. Maybe you could even find something to bring a little money into your relationship.

Our Readers Most Sensitive Spots

In our recent poll our readers responded to their most sensitive spots and here are the results.

Genitals 32%

Neck/Shoulders 26%

Feet / Toes 14%

Chest / Breast 8%

Back 8%

Hair / Head 5%

Legs 2%

So keep those neck and shoulders rubs coming and obviously make sure to take care of the area below the belt!

Stockings are so darn sexy!!!!

Ladies if you want to send your partner through the roof with out having to put on some full blown costume outfit, may I suggest a nice pair of stockings. I don't know why but they just scream sexy to me. Judging by the groups on facebook I am not alone in this feeling either. Their is something about seeing beautiful legs adorned with wonderful witching stockings that send my blood pressure up from the when I first lay eyes on them. I love the black normal looking stockings and fishnets. My favorite has to be the ones that almost look like socks that come up to the thighs. They usually are in bright colors, I have seen them several times in the Victoria Secrets catalog in the pink section. Let me know your feelings on how you think of stockings I don't think I have a fetish with them but I do love to see them.

Stockings their not just for Christmas anymore!

Don't view everyone elses life through rose colored glasses.

Have you ever said or though that you wish your life could be like someone elses? You see that happy couple in the mall and wonder what they are doing to be so happy. The parents down the street that are always walking their child in the stroller. These images give us the impression that everything in their life is perfect. They are happy eveything goes well for them and they don't have near the troubles that we do. Well you need to take off the rose colored glasses right now. I am hear to tell you that every relationship has troubles, someones elses troubles might not seem important to you but believe me, in that they feel that their troubles are important. I am sure you have heard "That you can't judge a book by it's cover" Well the same thing goes for relationships. People have a tendency to put on a front to make everyone think they are happy. I have seen many a couple that seems to be content with each other suddenly get divorced and you hear things about them you never dreamed would have happened in their relationship. The big thing to remember is every relationship is going to have some rocky parts, there is not such thing as a perfect relationship. The thing that sets good solid relationship apart is that they understand and deal with the problems better then the others. They don't let them brew up to the point of exploding. You always need to look at the thing that is making you upset from the outside, is it really important to get angry over? A partner cheating on you is a thing to get upset over but not shutting the cabinet doors or replacing the toliet paper roll, seem a little on the pickey side when you stand back and look at it.

Step back when ever you get upset and really look at the thing making your crazy. Is it just a little thing that isn't that important but just bugs you, then you need to take a different approch. Try to reason things out to make the situation better. Don't get upset just talk it out let them know it bugs you, don't throw a fit because one fit most likely will start another. Relax and understand that you partner is not perfect and you wouldn't want them to be.

Create a great atmosphere

Sometimes when you are updating your house you over look some of the things that might come in handy later. Carpet is one of those things.

When you choose a carpet for your house you need to think about other things than cost.

I know most people try to get the cheaper carpet figuring they might have to replace it later. I want you to look at it from a different perspective. From the ground up, if you will.

How much time are you going to spend on the carpet? Do you and your partner like to lay on the floor and watch TV or talk? Do you have children that just like to roll around on the ground?

These type of questions might make you see why a super, soft, comfortable carpet might just be worth the money. I personally enjoy just laying on the carpet with my sweetheart or my children all snuggled up with me. It also makes a great place to stretch and work out. Sit-ups are a lot better on a great carpet.

Now, if you get new carpet, you know you are not going to wear your shoes on it and this way you will enjoy taking your socks off and feeling the soft feeling on your bare feet. Lastly, what if you and your partner want to get a little frisky on the carpet? Maybe you fall off the bed, think about the feeling of the soft, warm carpet on your bare skin compared to the cheap carpet that is just put in to last so long.

If you can't afford new carpet, you can pick up a nice soft rug to put in the middle of your living room or bedroom. Which ever place you plan on rolling around on the floor. *Wink Wink

--Rob Alex

Get Away - Stay Away ??

Next time the two of you get away try to find somewhere to off the beaten path. Find a small town within a short drive of your final destination. Stay away from the hustle and bustle of the bigger cities. Give yourselves time to reconnect and find entertainment in each other. Take walks, talk and get to know each other all over again. If you stay in a tourist trap, you are constantly thinking what you should be doing instead of enjoying the wonderful person you are with. Find a quiet little bed and breakfast and enjoy the big comfy beds or maybe a little cottage near the ocean. You can always make the trip into the city for dinner or other entertainment. You might be amazed at the things you can find to do in a small town. Find the local sites to see or maybe enjoy a festival the town is having. Maybe you would stumble across a town that has a minor league baseball team. Then you could spend the night with your arms around each other relaxed in a half filled stadium. I do believe that if you try this, you will take away more memories then if you stay in the heart of the city.

Sexual Good Luck

Some people believe that sex is a deterrent and that it keeps you from focusing on your goals. I remember hearing about one soccer coach that wouldn't let his players have sex during the World Cup. Needless to say they didn't win. My feelings on this subject are a little different. I believe that sex can be a distraction from your goals, if your not getting any. Let me put it this way, we are going to think about sex and want sex that is human nature (especially for us men). The longer we go without having satisfying sex the more our mind searches out sex (or thinks about it) this is why we can't focus on our goals. I feel that if your sex life is very satisfying and you don't have to wonder when and if you are ever going to get it, it frees your mind up to concentrate on the other things important in your life. Try it out make sure to have adequate sex for the next few months and see how much more you get done. You might be amazed. Once we remove the distractions (in this case the yearning for sex) the goal line seem clear and easy to reach. Plus the sex is a great feeling in it's self!!!! With this principal in place great sex will bring your so much good luck!!

Take time for passionate kisses

When you are in a relationship you take a lot of things for granted. You overlook the things that made you feel great in the early stages of your relationship. Kissing is one of these simple little things that seem to get the shaft as we get farther into our relationship. The passionate kiss seems to become a peck hello and goodbye. The only time a passionate kiss is thought about is during sexual relations. This is not a good practice to fall into. Now I am not saying that you have to make out every time you kiss each other. That might make your friends and children want to puke. I do suggest that at some point and time during the day you take time to get lost in a kiss. Maybe in the morning or at lunch, the time doesn't matter all I want you to do is get lost in a kiss like you use to at the beginning of your relationship. You might feel silly at first but believe me the feeling you get from doing this is well worth the effort. My heart swells with so much when we do this, it is one of my favorite exercises to bring the new relationship feeling back into my mind. This doesn't take anytime during your day maybe a minute at the most and it is well worth the time. Go out a buy some chap stick and mouthwash because you going to start passionate kisses today.