Results of Importance of Sex Survey

The couples spot readers are split on the importance of sex. 50% of our readers think that sex is as important to a relationship as food and water are to life. While 33% feel sex is great but not important to the relationship and 12% feel sex is a benefit of sex but no important to the relationship. While they might be split on weather sex is important or not they all agree that sex is wonderful and a benefit in a relationship. Sex it up couples and don’t forget to play it safe.

Write poems for each other.

We all view poetry as being romantic, however most of us think we are really bad at writing it. Well within your relationship you don't have to be a world renown writer of poetry. Put some humor into it and make it personal. Heck you can even make it sexy. The point is to make your partner feel good and if you make them laugh you get an added bonus. If you want to write a mushy poem for your lover that is good too but don't think you have to be perfect on each line for it to be important to you lover. If you are too timid to write your own poem then read a great poem from an author you enjoy to your partner. Some couples enjoy reading erotic poetry to each other as a form of foreplay. What ever way you can do it put some poetry into your relationship. Romance and poetry go hand it hand. Below is an example of a silly poem that just might get your partner laughing a little.

Sweetheart I love you from the bottom of my heart.

Because you love me even if I fart.

I love to kiss your pretty lips

and I adore the way you move your hips

Sometimes I find myself daydreaming of your beauty

and sometimes I just want to squeeze your booty.

Take advantage of 2 for meals

A great way to enjoy a evening out without breaking the bank is to take advantage of the current craze of the all inclusive meals. Several restaurants around are offering a complete meal for $20. Now that is a value for a night out. Now of coarse any drinks are extra, but recently my wife and I went to Chili's and we quite surprised at what we got for $20. We went away feeling full and had enough food left over to eat it for supper that night. Some of the other we went to had scaled down versions of their meals but not Chili's these were full portions. I almost felt kinda guilty getting our meal for this amount. Needless to say we were please and will return to try something different. Not only to toot Chili's horn but you need to look around and check out the specials if it works for you why not save a little money, if you feel bad leave a huge tip like I did.

Click on the title of this post to go to Chili's web site to see what they offer on their $20 special.

"The Darla Show" on Twitter, Don't miss it.

If your are on Twitter during the evening you owe it to yourself and your relationship to take a peak at The Darla Show. Basically it combines a call radio type of format but incorporates it with Twitter. Viewers type in their questions and answer the questions that Darla post. The questions are about sex and relationship and are sometimes pretty humorous. I use it as a little research as well as just a relaxing time spent in front of the computer. The great part of this is that Darla's viewers are polite and considerate. You don't get people that are just being stupid and trying to disrupt the show. I love to hear what people around the world thing about the questions posed to them on the show. Darla keeps the talk flowing and adds her comments at just the right time. I personal think a couple should sit down together and answer the questions presented. It would be a great way to get somethings out in the open that maybe someone was afraid to bring up. So give The Darla Show a try tonight I am sure you will either learn something or at the very least laugh a little. By clicking on the title of this post you can quickly get to The Darla Show, just have your twitter user name and password ready. You can also check out some of the older posts to see what the show is about.

Don't judge sexual past.

One of the biggest mistakes I think couples make is letting each other know to much about their past relations. Besides when you decide to be fluid bonded with a person or want to have children the sexual past of the other person shouldn't matter. What is their to gain by knowing who your partner had sexual relations with before you. It only adds for conflicts during your relationship if you encounter these people. Unless you are childhood sweethearts that never dated anyone else chances are pretty good that your partner has had sex with someone else before they were involved with you. That doesn't make them love you any less or make them desire that person over you, it just means it was a learning process. Do not press your partner for past details of his/her sexual past and don't ever compare your current sexual experiences to those you have had in the past. Everyone is different and part of the fun of being in a relationship is learning what each other enjoys. You have to understand that your partner didn't start living the minute the two of your met. Past relationships have no bearing on your current one unless you let it. Keep you sexual past to yourself and don't expect your partner to share it with you, if you let them these past sexual experiences will haunt you and make your current relationship a struggle.

Respect your partners work!

Have you ever had on of those day where it seems like your partner is constantly doing something around the house. Be it chores, or fixing something they seem to be busy all day. Do you feel guilty like you need to be doing more but don't really have anything to do or complete within the time frame. Well instead of trying to find something to match what your partner is doing, why not find a way to reward them for their hard work. Maybe you could fix them a special dinner or take them out. How about treating them to a sexy little evening where they just relax and you make them very happy. Sometime just simply telling them thank you or giving them a great big kiss is a great way to tell them you appreciate them. If you try to match them in completing chores around the house, then all that happens is you are both tired at the end of the day. We all want to be babied a little at time so relax and get ready to take care of your partner after they finish what they are working on. If you are struggling in a way to thank them, remember this a massage goes a long way to making someone feel special.

Spend you alone time together.

Nothing upsets me more then to see a couple spending time in separate rooms of the house. Sure their are times when you have to be in different rooms. Times like when one of you is doing the laundry and the other is cleaning the living room is understandable. Why, however to people split apart when they are reading or even taking a nap. Being in the same room might take a little getting use to but think about how really little time the two of you are together. Why not read your book sitting next to your partner while they watch their football game, or take your nap next to them while they are reading. Snuggle up to each other, I personally believe that if you touch even a little you are better connected to each other. Wouldn't it be nice to wake up next to your partner after you take a little snooze during a lazy sunday afternoon. I also believe that if your partner touches you in just a loving way that you will be more relaxed and calm. Call me crazy but I believe that a relationship is doesn't or shouldn't get old the longer it goes. If you are having trouble enjoying the company of your partner maybe you need to look at yourself first to see where your trouble lies. Your in a relationship for gosh sakes enjoy it there are many people out their wishing for what you have so don't take it for granted. Snuggle up and find the best way for the two of you to fit together.

Back-up your relationship

You know how you back up the files on your computer so you don't lose anything, if your system crashes. Well you need to do the same thing with your relationship. Sometimes we forget all the wonderful moments we have had together. We lose the sight of how special the person we are with is and all the wonderful things they have done. When you get to this point, it is time to reboot our feelings and remember and understand why we are with this person. Think back to the times when you were first dating and the things that drove you wild about this person. I bet if you look closely you will see that those qualities are still there, plus a lot of other ones that you have experienced during your time together. This is a great exercise to perform if you are currently stalling in your relationship. We all get comfortable and lazy so reboot your feelings and start over with that same person. Be silly with them like you were during the first few months of your relationship. Was there something special you did for them during those early stages, if so revisit that. We can't always look forward in your relationship without looking back to see what got us to this point.

Encourage each other.

When you are in a relationship you have to become each others support for the relationship to thrive. We all have fears and are timid about tyring something new, looking for a new job, or even learning. Deep down inside our minds we know the thing we are striving for is a step in the right direction. We still are timid about getting out of our comfort zone, so we start popping ideas into our head things like "What if this doesn't work?" or "How could I possibly have time to take that class?" We put these fears in our mind as a defense to help us stay in the position that we are that our mind feels is comfortable. This is where our partner can be such a big help. The are not our mind and they will view the idea as what it is worth. Sure they might have some doubts but when we address them most often we see that they are the same fears we have.

This help to put things in perspective and with your partners support, it gives you all the more reason to pursue the thing you are looking to accomplish. When we become a couple we do more sharing then you realize. Sharing our fears and dreams are part of a relationship. Yes, you can both have dreams that are not the same but with extra support from a loving partner it makes it so much easier to go for it. Another great benefit is that if your partner and you are both on the same page for making a change then you get added support when you venture out to achieve your goal. You partner will understand if it puts more on their plate to do chores while you are studying or that you need a little extra time to read or go for an interview. These items not only will benefit you personally but it will benefit you both as a couple. Now, the next time your partner tells you something drastic they want to change, you need to help them figure out a way the two of you can handle this change. Then TOGETHER you can reap the benefits of this change when it happens. Sometimes you have to take some chances to get ahead, and they are scary but with the added support of your partner they don't seem quite as bad.

A great place for a date.

When we think about dating we usually think of hitting the hot spots. The night clubs that are jumping or the new fad places that every one is attending. If you in a relationship or really wanting to get to know this person, why would you want to go to a place that has music playing so loud that you can't even hear yourself, let alone the person your with. Sure if you want to go out dancing this is a great place, but if your focus is getting to know someone or spending some quality time with them then this is not the place. What you need to find is a quiet little bar or restaurant where you can sit and have a great conversation. Maybe they might have some televisions on for people to watch, as long as they are not blaring. There are many of these places around that you can just relax and enjoy your conversation and time with your special someone. If a bar is not what you had in mind you could look for places such as coffee shops, book stores, or even internet cafes. All of which give you a chance to hear and be heard. Look for places the two of you can call your own, don't pick a place that has no business, as it might not be there next week. Pick a place that has a steady flow of people but isn't crammed. Think of places that might have out door seating for the warmer times of the year. Remember that you want you partner to focus on you during this time and vice versa so don't pick places with to much going on it will only end up biting you in the end.