Needing a lift? Spend some time in nature.

Time can get away from you in the bustle of everyday life. You find that your time flies out the window at times and that you don't seem to get half of what you want done. Although you are busy you might seem unsatisfied with what you have done. When this happens to you that is when you need to get in touch with nature. Take your partner by the hand and dedicate an amount of time (at least an hour) to spending time outside together just enjoying nature. Take a walk in the woods, go sit together by a stream, or just go sit under the shade of a grand old tree. Hold hands and enjoy the fresh air, the simple sounds of nature, and the companionship your have before you. Soon you might find all the cares in your life are not as important as you though before. Keep the busy part of your life out of your head as you focus on watching nature, the touch of your partner, and the slowness of the time passing. Needless to say you should feel recharged and have gotten your priorities back in line. Which in turn will help you deal with your everyday life in a much better fashion. Personally it make the time slow down for me, even as I come back to my computer to work. The pace seem less stressful and things seem to flow a lot better. In that manner I feel that nature has helped all the aspects of my life and I am most appreciative of that.

Turn the tables from time to time.

Are you the one in the relationship the initiates sex most often? If not then it is time you turn the tables a little and surprise your lover. It doesn't take a lot of effort and you don't even have to spend much time in preparation if you don't want to. Just make sure that they know you are the one that wants to make love! You can set a mood by getting some candles out or putting new sheets on the bed. You can wear something sexy or nothing at all really gets the point across. Let yourself get comfortable with wanting your partner, desire is a strong feeling that when you are open to it can bring you to the highest of highs. Get them thinking about it early by sending the an "I want you" text message, so that their motor is running and they will seek you out when you get home. You can also use the surprise attack and jump them when they least expect it. No matter how you do it make sure it makes a lasting impression on them. Lastly I just want to say don't wait so long to do it! Getting a balance in who initiates the intimacy in your relationship goes a long way to balancing your relationship in general. We all want that control and we have to learn to share it. If you are in love with your partner then you should have no problem being the aggressor or the receiver of the aggressive passion. After all it will help mix things up and keep them interesting.

Search out new things for lovers.

Relationships are a common ground most of the time. Their is safety and a routine that you start to follow. You get sucked into following the same schedule, eating the same things, and following the patterns that are comfortable. I want to suggest breaking out of those routines. Find something different to do. Take a class together or jus take off driving with no place in mind to go just end up someplace. When we were dating new experiences were all around us and part of that was trying to find out what your partner was like or what they enjoyed. Why does this have to stop take that energy you used and drag your partner to a cooking party or a dance class. Stop falling into the same pattern of wake, work, eat, sleep. Start experiencing life together as if you were dating again. You should make it a point to relearn your partner everyday.

Change your scent to help excitement a little.

I love to breath in my partner. The freshness of her coming into my body is an amazing feeling. However it is nice from time to time when she puts on lotion or perfume to get a different scent from her. It can be an erotic experience, say for instance when she uses her vanilla lotion. This change of scent peaks my interest. My nose becomes aware that something is different and that while it is not her essence I am soaking in, it is a pleasurable one. Try out different scents and see how your partner reacts to them. This goes for the men as well as the women. Purchase several different types of body wash or lotions and keep track of which ones your partner likes the best. You might even find that you get certain reactions from certain scents. Real estate agents have long used the trick of filling a house with a scent to help make it more attractive for sale. Now you can use the same tactic to help tantalise your lover.

Love to you

The Couples Spot loves all the coupes out there.

Movie night!!!!

Make tonight movie night and surprise your lover with a wonderful movie, popcorn or their favorite snack. Pull the couch in front of the television. Turn the lights off in the room and snuggle down and watch your movie. Do it after the kids go to bed and you can even have a make out session. If you want a little more excitement rent an adult movie and see what happens on the couch while watching that. The point being is you don't have to go out and spend a lot of money to get some good quality alone time. Start today and make you life richer by using things that don't cost much like our in home movie theater idea.

Who loves you baby?

Have you took inventory lately of how much your partner does for you? Do they go the extra mile for you? Does he/she do things that allow you to be the person you want to be? Does he/she give you massages, does he/she do the dishes for the family, or does he/she take care of the kids so that you can go play golf? These are just a few examples of what you could put on your inventory list. Take a moment and list ten things you partner does that you feel helps you out? Now can you think of ten things that you do for them? Does your list come up a little short? If so then YOU need to take some action to balance it up. Relationships are always give and take but if you are taking more then you are giving the balance is off and the relationship will tilt. We need this balance to have a happy and healthy relationship. Do this everyday and you will soon start seeing that you make sure to balance the give and take. It is only fair to your partner and you. It always feels good when your partner does something special for you but there is a great pride that you will feel when you do something special for them. Take this is heart and balance out your relationship today.

Don't forget to set time aside for your love.

Do you have those days where you just collapse into bed? You have spent all day taking and running the kids around, working, doing laundry, etc, etc, etc. Yet the one thing you have forgotten is one of the most important things in your life. That is your relationship! You have spent all you energy doing the other things in life and now you have no time or energy for your relationship. This is when you have to dig deep and find the energy to give to your partner. They deserve it and you know it but it is hard when you are ready to just relax. I suggest that you start thinking about saving some energy through out the day to save for your partner. Think of yourself as having a battery and just sit down and store away some charge for your partner later. Your relationship will benefit greatly if you have time to converse under the stars or talk while laying in bed, or even have a little physical encounter that lets you both sleep with a smile on your face. Don't wait until it is convenient for put time into your relationship you need to do it every single day. Take 15 minutes or so and just sit and store some of your energy up and tell yourself, "That is for my relationship later"

Is love all it's cracked up to be?

I hear so many people bashing love and it breaks my heart. I wonder what could have happened to make someone feel this way about the most special feeling in the universe? Was it a hurtful experience? or maybe just not having any in their life? The answers will never be answered. I have to turn the other check however and not go off on these people for what ever means think they can put down the feeling everyone is searching for. The J.Giels band use to sing a song called love stinks but does it really or is it just when we lose it that it stinks? Points to ponder. Enjoy the love you have today it is not promised nor does it just happen it takes work and nurturing to make it worth wild.

Write an erotica story back and forth.

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Sometimes if you have difficulty telling your partner what you want you might just have to write it down. Not an instruction list but a fantasy or a desire to try something different. Try this little exercise the next time the two of you have some free time. One of you start writing an erotica story and then after a page stop. That night read what you have written to your partner and then hand the paper over to them. The next day it is their turn to start writing and and to read their little bit of erotica to you that night. Keep this going until you finish a story and then start over again with the opposite partner starting the story. Be very descriptive about the images in your head and see if you can get your partner hot and ready for action. This might just become a ritual in your bedroom each night. It also allows you to express fantasies to your partner and gives them some insight to what you find erotic. Heck you might find that they two of you have the same interest but were both afraid to express it. Dig out your best writing pen or type of your part and send it to your love if you are to embarrassed to read it aloud. Soon you might just be getting exactly what you want.