Smootch Time!

One of the most anticipated events in our relationships is the first kiss. So how come that excitement doesn't linger when we are on our 2,765th kiss. Here is my take, in the begining we do not expect the kiss, we want it but we don't take it for granted. Now after we are comfortable and we get into a routine, kissing loses it's thrill. We all know the out the door kiss, that we do everyday as we are leaving for work. Well I think we can break this mold and get kissing back to a passionate event.

Next time you and your partner are together sit down and write down 3 times of the day. Take turns picking and make them random. Then as they say in the spy movies synchronize your watches and at each of those times the both of you are to meet at a designated area and share a passonate kiss. I think you will find yourself watching the clock a litte and hopefully getting a little excited about Smootch Time! See if your actions are a little different as the time gets closer are you figiting a little in your chair, are you looking for a breath mint, or are you daydreaming about the up coming kiss. It's okay build up some anticipation it's good for your relationship.

By clicking on the title line you will be taken to The Art of Kissing website for a little more information on kissing.

Now loosen up those lips and get ready to kiss.

Have an Eggcellent Day!

Tommorrow is easter, not your usual romantic holiday. However with a little thinking you can become the easter bunny yourself. Go to the store and purchase some of those cheap plastic eggs, they might cost you a dollar. Now take them home and find things to put in them that will really tell your partner you love them. Some examples might be little love notes, the sexy underwear you like, a little tube of massage oil, their favorite candy, sports tickets, or even jewlery. Now hide those eggs in the your room and when your partner comes back tell them the you just saw the easter bunny and that they must find all the eggs. It never fails to get you back into your childhood looking for easter eggs. When your partner finds all the eggs they will be most thankful once they start opening them.

For a little more sexy easter you might get some easter egg stickers and stick them on your body and let your partner find them! Ladies you might stick a little cotton ball on the back of your panties and parade around your man so that he realy thinks your the easter bunny.

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Happy Easter everyone! Now get hoppin'

Listen to what YOU say.

Sometimes in a relationship you need to step back and listen to what you say! You might ask yourself how can that help? Well sometimes we say things that don't sound like we wanted them to. We know what we are thinking but our partner hears something else. You can make a world of difference in you relationship by avoiding things that might be construed in other manners. For example if you are criticizing anything your partner does you have to be very carefull not to use the wrong words that might give the wrong impression. For example if your parnter cooks you dinner and you don't like the food you might say "This tastes awful" instead what you might say is "You know I really don't care much for the flavor of this". Two simple phrases that basically mean the same thing but have a much differnt result when your the person hearing them.

Breathing Together - Seishindo practice

To better understand and get in sync with your partner try the practice of breathing together. My wife and I try to do this whenever something important is coming up. Sit beside or lay beside each other, so that your faces and lips are very close. (Brushing your teeth might be a good idea before trying this practice.) One partner begins to breath in and out in a slow but steady pace. The other partner then joins in by matching the breathing of the other partner. Close you eyes and feel the presence of your partner, feel your exhales meeting if front of you. Then as you inhale vision yourself absorbing of your partners breath. By learning to control your breath and getting it in time with your partner, you become one. One, being the couple and together you tackle the challenge before you. I think once you try this and feel the peace that surrounds you as the two of you slowly get your breathing in sync.

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Words: Dr. Oz knows the truth about how important sex is to our health. (Click Here to find out more)

It is a proven fact that couples that enjoy intercourse more fequently are generally more happy in their relationship. Sexual activities are also great for your health. So what are you waiting on, make time to make love.

Quickie

Today set quota for Kisses. Pick a number and make sure you and your partner reach that number by the end of the day. No cheating, if you end up being short at the end of the day you must finish up all the kisses before going to sleep. Heck all those kisses might help keep you up a little longer!!!!

Walks

I do believe one of the most romantic things that costs absolutely nothing is just taking a walk together. The place doesn't matter, unless it is in an unsafe location or during an unsafe time. I mean don’t go for a walk in the middle of a hurricane or a very shady neighborhood. A walk gives the two of you privacy even when you are out in the open. For starters, only the people that are walking at the very same pace can hear what you are saying – for the most part. You can set your own pace; if you want to casually stroll it doesn't matter, in fact, I recommend it. Have you ever heard the expression, “Stop and smell the roses,”? Well, do that to on your walk. Walks can include magical moments. It is a great time to ask someone to marry you or maybe just to present them with an anniversary present. Walks can happen anywhere. They might be downtown in a big city, a park, your old neighborhood, or one of my favorites - the beach. Never under any circumstance put a time limit on your walk. This is a time for the two of you to reconnect. If you are constantly looking at your watch and saying, “We better get back,” the moment is lost. When I think back about some great walks my wife and I have had I bring back some very fond memories. Like asking her to marry me while walking on a beach in Cancun. We stopped near a great big rock in the middle of the beach. It felt like we were miles away from anyone else. Yet, there were a few other people on the beach. Another memorable walk we had was walking/hiking up a mountain in Gatlinburg. It was so much fun. It was a warm spring day, we soon realized we should have worn heavier coats the higher up the mountain we got.

Now that we have looked at all the romantic and sentimental views of the walk, I will also let you in on a little secret. Shhhhhhhhh. A walk is great exercise. I kid you not. It is good for your heart and lungs. Not only are you enjoying each other’s company, but you are making your life a little longer by improving your health. Walks ROCK. So never be too busy no matter where you are to put one foot in front of the other. Venture out into nature or the city. You will see so much more than you will driving in your car, and you might have a few times to stop and kiss!

Now get to steppin!

Shower Talk

Here's a little test in self control. Next time your partner is taking a shower, and you have the time, just slip into the bathroom, sit on the stool and talk with them. It is a big test of your self control because you know he/she is naked on the other side of the shower curtain, and you know you want to peak in on them (at least I know I want to see my wife.). Strike up a conversation about something other than your relationship; it could be about your kids, work, church, or anything other than them being naked. This exercise raises trust as your partner is naked and in a vulnerable state. You are trying to mind your Ps and Qs, and not just ripping open the shower curtain and attacking. To me this feels like when you used to talk on phone as a teenager. You were wondering what the other person was wearing or what he/she was doing at this point of day. Talk to your partner for a while, but make sure that once he/she is ready to get out of the shower and dry off you are out of the area. Give him/her some privacy. If you were in the middle of an in-depth conversation, make sure to pick it back up when he/she is finished. You can also do this activity while your partner takes a bath, shaves or grooms himself/herself in some fashion. Conversation is good for the relationship. If you can focus on the conversation when your partner is completely naked, then you have a sound foundation in your relationship. Special note: Don't try this while you are trying to be intimate. Think of intimate things to talk about during that time. Talking about your mother during sex is a real buzz kill. Focus on the task at hand in this situation. :-)

Text Dirty to Me!!!!

Text Dirty to Me!!!

Dirty talk has been around for years. Maybe even since the beginning of human communication. Today's technology has taken dirty talk to a whole different level. You can now send and receive messages from almost anywhere in the world. I am sure I am not telling you anything you don't know at this point. So with all this technology we can now dirty text our partner no matter where we are. These little texts can be very flirtatious with your partner, and get them juiced up for when you finally get together. Slinging dirty little texts back and forth is a great means of foreplay. There are some problems with this means of communication -- such as someone else may pick up your phone or you could send the message to the wrong person like your mom (Explain that one at your next family gathering!). But, if you're careful you shouldn't have any problems. Now, could the government be listening in on your dirty texting? Oh well, what you and your partner do is your business as long as your not harming anyone else.

If you're a little shy or are really worried someone is going to find out you and your partner are having wild sex, then here is what you can do. You can get together and make a code sheet. Listing several different things you would like to do to each other. Another list of items you might be what you want to use on each other. Give each thing a letter or number code then make a copy of the list to carry in a wallet. Then your dirty text might look like this: I want to #6 you with a K and then rub you with a D. Now the only one that knows what that means are the two of you. It can even be more sexy because you might feel like a secret agent whipping out your decoder sheet and decoding the secret message!!

Some words of caution - make sure you know where each one of you is coming from. Don't dirty text your wife at work only to have her come home and find out that you have the guys over to watch the game. And don't dirty text your husband and get him all hot a bothered so that he races home to find out that you are doing dinner with the girls. This tool is great for getting reactions, but make sure you are ready to follow through on those reactions. Your husband might be able to hide his erection at work and your panties might get soaking wet while at the store, but the purpose of dirty texting is to get your partner home quicker, out of his/her clothes and into your arms. So, if you know when your partner is going to get home, and you know the timing won't be right add a last text that tells him/her the next text you send will be a sign for them to attack or for you to attack.

Again, as always I encourage you to be creative. Make your dirty texting fit your relationship. You can make a list your partner has to pick up on his/her way home from work. Things that might create a mood like massage oil, wine, or a vibrator. Maybe you could set your phone to silent, and when your partner gets home play a little game of hide and seek using texting for clues. The prize being you. If you're really brave, you could send pictures of things you want to do, maybe of yourself in something sexy or of things you want to use in the bedroom that night. The possibilities are endless. Make sure your phone is charged, and your mood is right. You may have some good lovin' tonight.

Sharing Your Passions

Sharing your Passions

As you search for an identity as a couple you need to find something that you both can be passionate about. Something you can share and look forward to doing together. I would suggest finding something new for both of you. Your current hobbies are probably already set, and trying to share them might make them a little less appealing For instance, if you have been jogging for years and do about 10 miles each time and you try to get your loved to join you, he/she may not be able to keep up and that would not only dampen your fitness routine, but stress your partner. Explaining every little detail of your hobby to someone who knows nothing about it can get a little intense when you are trying to enjoy it. So the best answer is to find something new to both of you and dive in.

The idea is simple, but the search is on. Trying to find something that appeals to both of you is the challege. Take out some paper and each of you write down some things you always wanted to try or participate in. Do this individually of each other so you are unlikely to "steal" one another's ideas. Once both of you have completed a substantial list, compare the two lists. Look for similar things. Those may not be the exactly the same, but look for similarities so that you can compromise. For example, you might have cycling on your list, while he/she has exercise on his/hers. Ta da! Grab your bikes, and find some trails. His/her list might say he/she would love to try wine tasting, and his/hers might say that he/she would love to just hit the open road and drive. Presto! You hop in the car and fine some wineries (just make sure not to drive while under the influence). I have offered you ways to combine/compromise. This is a great exercise for couples and getting in them mind set of sharing things more.

Here are a couple more examples. He/she would love to work with animals and his/her partner might like to do some voulunteer work. Bing bang, boom. You both find time to voulunteer at the local animal shelter together. Okay I'm gonna one more example. He/she wants to start a blog and his/her partner wants to learn potography. Shazam. You start a blog together. The photography buff takes the pictures while the computer guru posts the comments. Then you sit around and drink coffee and read your blog together. I hope everyone is getting the point. All you have to do is find a way to combine your interests into something you both can enjoy. If you can't find anything else, pick two rival sporting teams and every time they play make it a big deal to heckle each others team - as long as it remains all in fun. Hey you could put a little wager on the game like the loser has to do the dishes for the rest of the week, and of course, you can even get a little naughty with your bet. It's okay after all you are a couple.