Bank Notes

Here is a cute little way to tell you partner you care about them. Simply write it somewhere they will not expect it. Like in their check register or on a sticky note put on their credit card. You need to find something that they use quite often, yet most likely won't use with you around. On their car dashboard, send it to their work email (If that won't get them in trouble), write it on their water bottle, or slip a note in their workout shoes. By doing this they get the message you really care about them even when they are not around. Just make sure someone else can't find the message. Your partner might be pretty embarrassed if they hand something to the bank teller that says "I Love You" on it.

Surpise in your Cereal Box.

Remember when you were a kid and you couldn't wait to get the toy out of the box of cereal. I use to reach down through all the cereal to reach that golden prize. I remember looking at our cereal shelf and all our boxes being bowed out in the middle from the four of us kids reaching trying to get that prize before the others.

Well why not create some of that excitement in the mornings again. If you partner eats the same cereal most of the time. Slip them a little surprise into their morning routine. Put a note in a little plastic bag in the bottom of their cereal box. It could say simply that you love them or you could promise them a sexy adventure when they find the note. You can slip anything into the box it could be tickets to a baseball game, a gift certificate to a spa, a dinner invitation, or even jewelry.

It doesn't matter what you put in their box it will definitely be a surprise they were not expecting. It might be a couple of days before they find their prize but believe me they will be most appreciative. I just hope they don't go searching through all the cereal boxes now.

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Get Outside together

Hey it's summer time if you didn't realize and time for the both of you to get outside. I know it's hot and humid and you don't want to get sweaty. Suck it up quite being a baby. Find some things you can do together outside. Gardening is a great activity for a couple if you have the room. Bike riding, walks, exploring parks together, fishing, baseball games, are just a few of the things you can enjoy during the summer months. Take up something new like hiking or water skiing as long as you do it together it is important. You can play golf together or make a giant slip and slide in your neighbor hood for all the kids. Be playful that is what summer is all about. Now stop procrastinating and get outside and enjoy your summer and each other.

Sexual Journal

I believe something every couple should do is keep track of their sexual activity. I hear what you are saying that it will take away from the spontaneity of your sex life, if we jump up every time we have sex and mark the calendar. I see the positive of it however. If both of you keep one you can record things you like or things your partner liked each time you were intimate. You can also keep track of what positions you used and what type of sexual acts you performed on each other, so that you can mix it up the next time. People who do this and keep a accurate account of their sexual activity will be more apt to have more sex. They will look at the calendar and say "Wow I didn't know it's been 4 days since we made love" It also helps keep it in your mind and maybe will help you organize your sexual ideas and motives. You can purchase a little calendar at the local discount store, your put it on your computer, even the applications for the iPhone and iPod touch have an intimacy counter.

Get in touch with all your sexual activities by keeping track of them. You might be amazed at how it will improve the frequency of sex for you and your partner. Both partners need to do this to make it truly work properly and you must enter every time you have sexual activities, yes even when you masturbate.

Fathers Day or as I like to say Family Day.

Happy Fathers day to those of you who are fathers. Hope you day is as enjoyable as the day your bundle of joy was born. Being a father carries so much importance. You need to be a good role model for you children, and you need to provide and care for them. Yet, in my opinion being a father is one of the greatest feelings in the world. To have a child look up to you is one of the best feelings in the world. You need to celebrate this day with you spouse to because without your family fathers day isn't the same.

For those of you who don't have children I don't have much for you today because I am basking in the greatness of fatherhood.

Get a tattoo

Here is a fun trick to pull on your partner. Get a tattoo without them knowing. Now don't get me wrong if you are getting a major tattoo you should at least inform them of your intentions. But what I am suggesting is to pick up some temporary tattoos and shock your partner. I have included a link to a site that sells all sorts of temporary tattoos. Pick something out and order it put make sure you partner doesn't find out. You might have to send it to another person's address to make sure they don't see it. Once you receive you tattoo follow the instructions and place in on your desired location. For added surprise place it on a place only your partner would see. Like the cheek of your butt or down on your waistline. See how long it take for them to find it. I am sure you will shock them if you don't already have several tattoos.

For added effect you can get tattoos that are a bit more permanent Henna tattoos last about a week and some of them look real. When playing this trick on your partner I would suggestion getting something really strange. A rubber ducky on your butt or something that they wouldn't expect you to get. If you can find their name place it on your waistline and see their reaction. Now come on it won't hurt to much most of them go on with water, no needles I promise.

Thanks to Creative commons and Ferdi's World's for the picture.

Beating the Heat

Today will be the first day in the 90's this summer for use here in the Midwest. As we struggle to find ways to beat the heat, sometime forget that the warm air is a blessing. We need to remember those days of subzero temperatures that haunt us during the winter months. Take some time to figure out ways to cool down as a couple. Most people don't like to be all sweaty and next to each other so take some steps so you can get close during the heat wave. If you going to watch a movie together set up some fans all around the two of you so that you have a breeze blowing from every direction. Try to figure out ways to avoid the air conditioning as it is bad for the environment. Find a pool somewhere that the two of you can just relax in. Go to the mall they always have the air cool as possible. Thing of things the two of you can do that will be cool and fun. Go to the zoo and spend all day in the penguin exhibit. Fix yourselves an endless supply of fruity drinks and spend the day sipping them in style. The point is you need to find ways together to beat the heat. Heck take a cold shower together and see if you both can still get aroused!!!

Snack Well

Part of being a couple is taking care of each other. We look out for our partner because we want them to be around as long as possible. Well one thing you can do to help them out is for both of you to Snack Well, together. It is so much easier when the both of you watch how you snack.

Start this out by going to the store together. Choose snacks that are healthy and skip the aisle that would tempt you. Choose alternative to some of your favorite items such as ice cream, candy, and chips. If you look closely you can find replacements that are similar with less fat and more nutrition in them. The simple fact of the matter is if you don't have it in your house you won't eat it. Late night cravings will be put to rest if you don't have the tub of ice cream in the freeze. If you must have that frozen delight choose sherbet or frozen yogurt instead. Be supportive of each other and remind each other how much healthier you will be by eating things like carrots, bananas, and apples.

Thing about it this way. Eating better will increase you livelihood. You will feel better and have more energy to do things. Eating well also helps with stress and improving your body image. People who eat well have better sex and more frequently enjoy intimacy. So eating healthy will improve your energy, self esteem, over all health, mental attitude, and your sex life. Why are we all not eating better?

Clicking on the title of this post will take you to a website dedicated to showing you healthy snack options.

Photo courtesy of programwitch from flickr creative commons.

The Barter System

Sometimes we would love for our partner to do something for us but hate to ask them. You know if you have asked them massage your back a hundred times. You still want them to massage you but you feel like your taking advantage of them by asking. Well if you find yourself in this situation I suggest you use the barter system.

The barter system is a very old way people use to exchange goods and services. Farmers might need something from the local store but had no money to pay with. The farmer would then offer some of his products from his farm for the goods, things such as eggs, milk, or grain. So this is the system I want you to use.

Next time you want that massage, offer something up in return. Offer to cook them their favorite meal if they give you a 30 minute massage. Always set times or goals on the barters so that no one feels cheated. Because just saying give me a massage might mean a hour massage to you but might only mean a 15 minute one to him. Sometimes you might have to sweeten the offer to get what you want, but the nice part is you both win in this type of bartering.

Sexual favors works wonders in getting things you would like. So don't be shy ask for what you want and express what you will to give up. I am sure you will both feel great after the trade. You can extend your trades over days if need be based on the time you have available. Just make sure you always keep your end of the deal or the next time you barter you partner might balk a little.