Is there room for fetishes in a relationship?

Can you have a fetish and still be in a committed relationship? The answer is definitely, yes. You just have to keep the fetish inside the realm of your relationship. You cannot have a fetish of having sex with two people at the same time if your partner does not want that. My opinion is that bringing someone else into your relationship is not a good idea. You can however have a foot fetish with your partner. A fetish that only includes your partner and you can be a great secret the two of you share. If you like to role play or dress up a little that can definitely add some spark to your relationship. Have you ever seen the newer Batman movies with Catwomen in them? A cat suit can be very sexy or a Batman suit heck even a little lone ranger mask can add a little excitement. Hi Ho trigger away. Think about something that totally turns you on about your partner. Then run with that idea maybe his but drives you wild then buy him some underwear that has the ass cut out. Maybe you again have a foot fetish about your wife then buy her open shoes or special toe nail polish. As long as your fetish doesn't hurt anyone or your relationship it can be a very special bond for the two of you. If you are uncomfortable with a partners fetish then let them know maybe you can find a compromise that will excite you both. Now go shut your bedroom door and enjoy your fetish after all it is you and your partner world once that door is shut. You might want to lock it if you have children however you don't want to explain why mommy or daddy is tied to the bed!!!! lol

Visualize the Good!

As a couple sometimes we forget to think about all the good things that are in our relationship. We focus or fight about things like bills, work or other problems in our relationship.

When is the last time you set down and talked about the good things in your relationship? What about how great the kids are or how special it was when he bought you flowers the other day?  Maybe she massaged your tense shoulders during the evening.

I am banking on the fact that your relationship has many things to be grateful for. Together you need to sit down and talk about or visualize all the great things the next time you have a fight. No, this won't make your problems go away, but it just might put them in the right perspective.

Always end your night visualizing things your partner does that you feel are wonderful and you will likely wake in the morning with a smile on your face.

Research on Presents for Women

We ran a questionare and found what a sampling of women and what they thought the most romantic gift they could recieve would be. An overwhelming amout 45% to be exact said a trip would be the most romantic gift they could recieve. Second place went to lingere at 27% flowers and a massage both atained 9% of our vote. Still 10% of our voters checked the other catagorie. We would love to hear what those other things might be, so drop us a line and let us know what your favorite romantic present has been.

Confidence is SEXY

Think about the people you notice in everyday life. Unless you are making fun of someone, which isn't right by the way. The people that catch your eye are the confident people that stroll past you. The same can be said for the person you are attracted to. They at some point and time have shown you enough confidence to merit your affections. Now keeping that confidence is important to your relationship. I have several friend where it seems like one partner is needed and the other shows all the confidence. It seems as if the first mentioned partner is just being dragged along. You don't want to be that person. So, I want you to pump up your chest and find your confidence again. You don't have to be with the person you are in love with all the time to be complete. Get back to your hobbies or interests and make time for them. I am sure you partner will find you much more sexy when you have your own interests. Also time apart makes your bond stronger. My parents worked together day and night, as they owned their own business. Yet their relationship was weak and didn't have a whole lot of fun involved in it. So I offer you this, begin strutting around the house like you are the king or queen, get activities that drawn your interest, and see how long it is before you partner is begging for your attention. Believe me this works, needed people are not sexy (word from a great woman) but those that are independent but still love you are very sexy. Don't just sit there, when your partner is out doing something you do the same get out and enjoy life then meet up later and renew your relationship.

Slip into somehting sexy, MEN?????

We are bombarded with sexy lingerie for women. We see it almost everyday, either in the mail or upon the television it is always in our face. I bet at least once a week I get a catalog from Victoria's Secret with scantly clad women adorning each page (it makes great ready material) However when you think of something sexy for a man to wear, you don't get a whole lot of ideas that pop into your head. Men it is hard for us to find something sexy to wear to make our partners do a double take on us.

Men today I am challenging you to find something sexy to wear to bed with your partner. The basic thought is your typical silk boxer shorts. The are great but don't leave make that sexy of a statement unless your partner touches them. Try to find out something that would turn you partner on. Are they a big sports fan? Then get some boxers with their favorite team on them. Purchase a cop uniform if you partner finds cops sexy. Try to find something that you can use so the next time you ask them to put on something sexy you can say "I did it for you"

As always have fun with it and go a little overboard. Life is way to short to be serious all the time. Take advantage of every opportunity you have.

Give them a list

Want to show you partner how special they are. Make a list of all the wonderful things about your partner. Find a nice piece of paper and a wonderful pen. Start out slow ideas will start coming to you quickly I assure you. You can write about how great they look, the wonderful things they do, the simple things they do to make your life better, or even just the silly things that makes you love them even more. Now find an envelope and put the list inside it. Carefully write their name or you pet name for them on the front. Seal the envelope and now you can either give it to them straight up or slip it into their pillow case to be read later. You will most defiantly make their day when they read it. If you are near watch them and see how long it takes for a smile to grace their face.

Throw your troubles in the lake!

Sometimes in our everyday life we get bogged down with our troubles. We focus on them and let them consume us. Well today I want the two of you to go out to the local lake, stream, or ocean and toss those troubles into the water. Sound like I have lost my marbles?????? Seriously what I want you to do is go out and get some sharpie makers and head to your local body of water. Upon arriving, search the bank or shore of several good sized rocks. Now both of you sit down and write on the rocks you troubles or concerns, that are bothering you currently. Once you have completed that, gather up all the stones and read what is written on the rock and then toss it as far as you can into the water! There your trouble is gone, and you should be feeling better. No this is not a magical event it is just letting your mind let go of these problems for a bit and by doing that you might get a more clear idea of how to get rid of your problems. After all this before you get ready to leave gather up some more rocks and write things on them that you are thankful for. Take these home with you and put them in a safe place. Then the next time you are feeling down pull them out and share them with your partner. I am sure it will bring a smile to your face.

Plan some trips for the two of you!

Everyone that I know loves to go on trips. You know vacations, getting away from it all and acting like you never have to come home. Well at least until you run out of money. Well I am suggesting that as a couple you start planning out trips for the two of you to take. This way you are prepared when you really do get to take a vacation. Get as much literature as you can on the places you want to go and make sure to make an iteneray. By planning way ahead you can keep your eyes open for great deals that might pop up. You don't have to limit yourself to one destination either, choose several places that you would like to go and start files on each one. Taking your time and doing lots of research will help you get the most for you money on any trip. You will also have time to find things that might be a little out of the way to do while you are there. By taking time you can also find out if you best deal is a package vacation or purchasing hotel, air, and ground transportation separately. You vacation or trip should be a memorable time, so make sure you plan ahead, also make sure to plan ahead on things you will need. A new camera might be a good idea to help save all these memories for the future. Heck make a wall chart of all the places you want to go and then mark them off as you come back from each on. Travel is so much fun and it is even better when you go with someone you love.

You can also make a separate list of place you want to take your children if you have any. This way you can focus on romantic trips and kiddie trips both. Include the children in picking the places they want to go, after all this is their vacation also.

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Don't forget about your hands.

You might not be able to guess that this post is about oral sex, by the title. I know that people enjoy using toys and vibrators during oral sex, but I feel they are not using the best sex toy, which would be your hands. These hands of your are great for stimulating areas on the body and that should not stop just because you are performing oral sex. Thing about all the thing you can do with your hands while you are pleasuring you partner. Touch is such a turn on, that if should be used to it's full advantage. Reach up and play with her breasts or his nipples, find their erogenous zones and use them as extra sensations during your act. Places like the backs of your knees, grab their ankles, massage their hips are some great suggestions. No pun intended but feel them out and find out places that might help send them over the edge. You can also use your hands for extra stimulation on the genitals. Remember all those nerve endings around the anus, use them to your advantage. Some women like penetration, while you are performing oral sex, and any number of your fingers can help. The scrotum and testicles are very easy to play with while you give him oral sex, and ladies don't be afraid to play with his anus, he just might enjoy it, too.

Use a little trial and error to see what works best for the two of you. One of the biggest complaints people have about oral sex is that it takes too long to get their partner to orgasm. Well you just might speed things up a little by hitting some of their trigger points with your hands. What sets us apart from most animals is our hands, and the wonderful things we can do with them. So next time you are ready for a little oral sex make sure you stretch your hands out who knows where they will end up.

Establish Your House

Have you ever been to those flea markets were they have the person carves your name into a piece of wood. Weather they burn it or carve in to the wood doesn't matter. Make sure you get the year on it as to when you became a family. Include all the names of children on the sign so that everyone feels like it is their sign. So many relationships have children from previous marriages involved with different last names, so put up the first names also. If you don't have any children or treat your pets as children then add them also. You might have to have a pretty big sign but it is worth it to include all the parts of your family.

You can find many different styles of these signs pick one that appeals to your family. I have even seen ones that have characters for each member of the family. Post it where everyone can see it, to show how proud you are of your family. Make a ceremony on the day you put it up, have a cookout or just a family get together. Remember family is a strong bond and putting it in wood makes it stronger.