Be a little aggressive in bed.

I read an interesting statistic the other day that claimed that most women wish their men were a little more aggressive in bed. It would seem that with women getting more in touch with their sexuality that gone are the days of slow and calm love making. I am sure after that last statement I will get tons of emails from women that love it slow and calm. However I am sticking to my feeling that women want to feel like their love making is passionate. To me passionate means not being able to control your desire for the person you are with. This make sense to me why women would love the aggressiveness. Who doesn't want to feel like their lover can't get enough of them. Here is a little secret ladies, men like you to be aggressive also. It seems that both sexes should go after what they want and well the sex will satisfy both of them. The only problem I for see is that if both partners want to be aggressive who gets to lead? I will let the two of you sort that out and maybe it is just a matter of taking turns or switching. Which ever works best for you doesn't matter but don't put the stove on simmer when you can put it on hot!

Theme Songs

Most couples have their song! You know the one you first danced to or the one playing when you first met. These songs are wonderful memories and remind you of that special time when ever you hear them. However that isn't what this post is about. I want you to start picking out theme songs for your everyday life. The two of you sit down together and pick out songs for certain things you have to get done. For instance, make a playlist of upbeat songs for when the two of you are cleaning house. You know the songs that get you moving so that you are dancing while you are cleaning. You can even have dinner music to play lightly in the back ground during supper time. Don't forget sensual music to play when you are well for lack of a better phrase, getting it on. Music has such a powerful way of affecting our life that we need to use it to our advantage more often. Sit down tonight and the two of you hash out some playlist for your life and you might just find yourselves dancing together more often.

Monday Morning Blues!

Monday's always seem to bring about the blues. Maybe it is back to work or the fact that the weekend is over, but Monday just gets a bum rap. In our relationships Monday is the day that is least likely to have anything special going on. Why don't we try to spice Monday up a little and get your week started right. Plan things for Monday that might make this day zoom by a little quicker. Maybe you start going out to dinner on Mondays. Monday would be a great date night because there wouldn't be as long of lines at the restaurants, the movies or other entertainment venues. That could give you something to look forward to on Mondays. Get up a little early and start your week out with a little morning sex to get the ball rolling. The excitement will make your day start out with a bang instead of a blah. Whatever your tastes you can dress your Mondays up a little thus making the week and your relationship start out on a better note.

Save money together.

Our economy right now has everyone struggling to find ways to cut costs. Doing it together can be beneficial and fun. Get the sunday paper and go through the coupons together. Find the best prices on items by searching the internet and comparing. Make these actions an adventure for the two of you. Do some more research and find fun free things to do for you and your family. These are all great ways to save money and enjoy your time together doing it. Make it a contest to see who can find the best prices or the most fun free thing to do. With a little love and hard work you will not only save a lot of money but build a relationship where two people know how to work as a team.

Needing a lift? Spend some time in nature.

Time can get away from you in the bustle of everyday life. You find that your time flies out the window at times and that you don't seem to get half of what you want done. Although you are busy you might seem unsatisfied with what you have done. When this happens to you that is when you need to get in touch with nature. Take your partner by the hand and dedicate an amount of time (at least an hour) to spending time outside together just enjoying nature. Take a walk in the woods, go sit together by a stream, or just go sit under the shade of a grand old tree. Hold hands and enjoy the fresh air, the simple sounds of nature, and the companionship your have before you. Soon you might find all the cares in your life are not as important as you though before. Keep the busy part of your life out of your head as you focus on watching nature, the touch of your partner, and the slowness of the time passing. Needless to say you should feel recharged and have gotten your priorities back in line. Which in turn will help you deal with your everyday life in a much better fashion. Personally it make the time slow down for me, even as I come back to my computer to work. The pace seem less stressful and things seem to flow a lot better. In that manner I feel that nature has helped all the aspects of my life and I am most appreciative of that.

Turn the tables from time to time.

Are you the one in the relationship the initiates sex most often? If not then it is time you turn the tables a little and surprise your lover. It doesn't take a lot of effort and you don't even have to spend much time in preparation if you don't want to. Just make sure that they know you are the one that wants to make love! You can set a mood by getting some candles out or putting new sheets on the bed. You can wear something sexy or nothing at all really gets the point across. Let yourself get comfortable with wanting your partner, desire is a strong feeling that when you are open to it can bring you to the highest of highs. Get them thinking about it early by sending the an "I want you" text message, so that their motor is running and they will seek you out when you get home. You can also use the surprise attack and jump them when they least expect it. No matter how you do it make sure it makes a lasting impression on them. Lastly I just want to say don't wait so long to do it! Getting a balance in who initiates the intimacy in your relationship goes a long way to balancing your relationship in general. We all want that control and we have to learn to share it. If you are in love with your partner then you should have no problem being the aggressor or the receiver of the aggressive passion. After all it will help mix things up and keep them interesting.

Search out new things for lovers.

Relationships are a common ground most of the time. Their is safety and a routine that you start to follow. You get sucked into following the same schedule, eating the same things, and following the patterns that are comfortable. I want to suggest breaking out of those routines. Find something different to do. Take a class together or jus take off driving with no place in mind to go just end up someplace. When we were dating new experiences were all around us and part of that was trying to find out what your partner was like or what they enjoyed. Why does this have to stop take that energy you used and drag your partner to a cooking party or a dance class. Stop falling into the same pattern of wake, work, eat, sleep. Start experiencing life together as if you were dating again. You should make it a point to relearn your partner everyday.

Change your scent to help excitement a little.

I love to breath in my partner. The freshness of her coming into my body is an amazing feeling. However it is nice from time to time when she puts on lotion or perfume to get a different scent from her. It can be an erotic experience, say for instance when she uses her vanilla lotion. This change of scent peaks my interest. My nose becomes aware that something is different and that while it is not her essence I am soaking in, it is a pleasurable one. Try out different scents and see how your partner reacts to them. This goes for the men as well as the women. Purchase several different types of body wash or lotions and keep track of which ones your partner likes the best. You might even find that you get certain reactions from certain scents. Real estate agents have long used the trick of filling a house with a scent to help make it more attractive for sale. Now you can use the same tactic to help tantalise your lover.

Love to you

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Movie night!!!!

Make tonight movie night and surprise your lover with a wonderful movie, popcorn or their favorite snack. Pull the couch in front of the television. Turn the lights off in the room and snuggle down and watch your movie. Do it after the kids go to bed and you can even have a make out session. If you want a little more excitement rent an adult movie and see what happens on the couch while watching that. The point being is you don't have to go out and spend a lot of money to get some good quality alone time. Start today and make you life richer by using things that don't cost much like our in home movie theater idea.