Why send cards on only Christmas?

I can't believe that Hallmark and the other card companies haven't started pushing Thank You cards to be send on Thanksgiving. Why not I think that it would be just as important as Christmas cards. A simple thank you card with a list of the helpful things someone has done for you would be a great thing to receive on this holiday of family and friends. Take on this task as a couple and put both of your minds into writing thankful words to the people that are important in your lives. What a site the two of you will make when you come into your family thanksgiving dinner and hand out cards to everyone, this is such a break from tradition that it might just become a tradition. Be Thankful today, and enjoy all the important people in your life, they will be glad you did and so will you.

Women's Orgasms Are Not Guaranteed

As a loving and caring partner you are always concerned that you are making your lover feel great. Sometimes however you may tend to worry a little more about it than you should. One thing that you need to remember is that a woman's orgasm is not guaranteed. Sometimes she might not even have one.  This doesn't mean she doesn't love you or that she doesn't want to make love to you.  It just means the a woman's body is a complex thing and sometimes she just can't orgasm. This doesn't mean she can't have a good time and it doesn't mean she isn't enjoying the activities. Unlike men the orgasm is not a gauge of when you are done.

The trade off is that when she does orgasm she can have several of them compared to guys who typically need a rebooting time. The last thing you want to do when you are making love is ask a woman if she has had an orgasm. It is a real mood buster.

If you have an established relationship with someone, then believe me you will learn quickly when she has one. If you feel compelled to ask, make sure you wait until later after your love making session - wait until you are cuddling or maybe even the next day.

It is important to know that it takes longer for a woman to reach that ultimate point of ecstasy. You have to be willing to put the work into the results. Relax and don't try to force her to orgasm. Let it happen most women will let you know somehow when they are getting close. The best thing you can do is research different techniques for playing with your companion and while variety is good, always keep in your memory bank what works well and don't be afraid to go back to it. With a little trial and error you will soon find a wealth of things that will improve not only her love life, but yours too.

Honey Do list

We have all been given a honey do list at sometime or another. Be it written on paper of given to us orally to store in our memory banks. The list usually contains chores and errands that we need to complete. Well if you are the maker of this list one thing you need to remember to do is to put some things on the list that would be something your partner would like to do. For instance in the middle of the list it might say "Give me a Kiss", using things like this to break up the routine of a normal list is a great way to say thank you to your partner for doing the other things on the list. If you like you can even put a reward at the bottom of the list things like "After you have completed all the things on this list you will receive a massage from me" or "Upon completion of this list you will find me naked in bed waiting to pay you for your hard work" This is important to the sanity of our relationship, think of it like that famous saying from the movie "The Shinning", "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy"

Be Indians tonight when you make love.

We are nearing the first of the holiday seasons with Thanksgiving fast approaching. This holiday is rich with tradition as you most likely go to the same place to eat that you have for several years now. Few things spice up the Thanksgiving day as most of us are settled into eating watching football and maybe playing a game or two with the family. Well as a couple here is how I want you to spice it up tonight. When everything is said and done I want you to make love like the native Americans did. Get out your war paint and and make clever designs on each others faces then during the act of love making hoop and holler it up. Try some different positions, the reverse cowgirl might be appropriate at this time. Put as much energy into your love making as you can to the point that you just collapse after you are done. Make a teepee with your covers and maybe put a feather in your hair for each time you orgasm. Talk like native americans, if you can find a costume like the one at the top of this article you have an advantage, and most important have a little fun, if you enjoy yourself maybe you have started your own little Thanksgiving tradition.

Adjusting Schedules

It would be nice if everything worked out perfectly each and every day, but only in fantasy land does that happen. In real life kids and adults get sick, cars break down, supper burns and millions of other things can happen each and every day. Being a successful couple means that you are well ready to adjust to these changes and challenges that happen each and every day. There are times, where you have to rely on your partner for the adjustments to the changes but it needs to be a 50-50 split on these overall. You can't expect you partner to always stay home with the sick child nor can you expect you partner to miss an important day of work. Balance is what you need and by inspecting and analysing the situations as the arise and seeing which of the two of you is better able to handle the challenge. Once you begin looking at these things as they happen you will be able to take them in stride without even seeming like they disrupt your day. This is just one of the great ways that being a couple is an amazing thing and why most people want to be part of a great relationship.

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PIck a show and get into it together.

We all know that dating is important to us but have you ever set a date to watch a certain show each week? Try to find a show that you both enjoy and make a date to sit together and watch it each and every week. Any show will work from a version of CSI to house hunters on HGTV. Maybe it might be a sport for the two of you, say for instance you both a Red Sox fans then watching a game could be your forte. The idea of this is to get you in a regular routine of sitting down with each other with a common goal in mind. Not to mention this will bring you closer the more you get into the show. You might even find yourself discussing what might happen next in the show your conversing over the major issues of the show. As a couple you need to find things that you can do together as well as apart. Pick your shows and make it a date by adding snacks or drinks if you like and then snuggle down in your big chair and relax and watch together.

Invite her friends over to watch the game!

You know it is so easy to invite your friends over to watch the football game or any other sporting event. You just call them up and the will be there with beer under their arm. Have you ever thought to invite you wife or girlfriends friends over? This would be a great show of togetherness. This way that special woman in your life doesn’t just have to listen to your chest bumping friends. Next time you are planning to have the guys over ask her if she would like to invite some of her friends over and make it a little party. This way if your partner is not into the game they will have something to do or someone to talk to. One word of caution however don’t start letting your friends ogle over hers make it clear to them this is not an attempt to fix anyone up. If she agrees to this make sure you have items both sets of friends will enjoy snacking on and drinking. Cans of Beer and chips are not usually the ladies first choice. This might also get your partner to take a little more interest in sporting events if they don’t already. By making it more of a social event you might hear them saying “When is the next game?”

Wearing your husbands/boyfriends clothes

Something you can do that is sexy for both of you is to wear you husband/boyfriends clothes. Not only is is sexy for you to get into his clothing but it is special for when the man comes home to find you in his clothes. Unfortunately it doesn't work well the other way, so men you are out of luck. Unless you are into that sort of thing but it still in my opinion doesn't carry the same weight. To me this action by the woman says "I miss you" or "Come get me" To heighten the effect don't wear any underclothes under his clothes and let him find that out when he gets home. Any of the mans clothes will do from his sweatpants and shirts do a nice dress shirt with no pants on. The images of you in these outfits will be stuck with him for a while, plus your scent will be in his clothes so the next time he puts them on he will think of you. Ladies you now have permission to go through our closet.

Laughter IS the best medicine.

Have you ever been troubled by something so much that at some point and time you just burst out laughing? For some unknown reason at a really unusually time you start to chuckle with any control over it. This is your body telling you to lighten up. Sure what ever the problem is will need to be taken care of but you can't make yourself sick over worrying about it. This is where you as a good partner and lover take over. If you partner is feeling down about something you need to bring them up with some laughter. Make fun of the situation or crack some jokes, while this might not make things better it might open the persons mind to find a reasonable solution. When you think negative, negative things happen. You could also go out to see a funny movie or visit the local comedy shows anything that would make people laugh. Heck if you don't have any money then get on youtube and find some hilarious videos of people being stupid, they are all over the place. Believe me once the person gets some good laughter in the problem will be put in a new light. You being a caring and considerate person can help you partner when you see this happening, so break out the rubber chicken and practice your jokes.