Happy Birthday to Me! - Share the love

If you can't tell by the title line today is my birthday. I love celebrating birthday and it doesn't matter if it's mine or my wife's or our kids. I love making the cakes, hoping to get the right gifts. It's just all so exciting to me. I think the main reason for this feeling in me is that it is an excuse to show someone how much you care about them. I'm as guilty as the next person in over spending on the holidays and birthdays. But there are several gifts that I would enjoy getting that don't hardly cost anything. A basic card is always nice and you can get one of the at your local discount store for usually under a dollar, or you can make your own. Another great idea is just take me on a walk, hold my hand and lets just walk and talk. Rent my favorite movie and share some popcorn with me while we watch it. These are all great ideas that don't cost over $5 and would make me very happy.

However, my favorite birthday present that would come from my partner would be a night of great sex. Sound selfish, maybe but after all it is my birthday. After all the cake and guest are gone, I want to know how special I am to my partner. Again this won't cost you an arm or leg. Don't make it your normal sex night do something different. Find something that maybe you wouldn't do every time you make love and perform that act on your partner for their birthday or a special occasion. Some ideas might be wearing a costume or a little role playing. Maybe there is something you partner love that you do and it's not your favorite. Well do it on their birthday, think about it that way you only have to do it on that special occasion and it will seem that much more special to your partner. Another idea might be to branch out a little search the Internet or pick up a book on sex that breaks from the norm a little. Be adventurous maybe tie your partner up, or use a sex toy on them, or even try a different position. You can find books and information on anything you want to try at Amazon or by searching the Internet. Just make sure after you perform what every action you decide on your partner, to say "Happy Birthday." Who knows maybe that was their wish when they blew out their candles.

Sample my food

Next time you venture out to a restaurant try this little number. Look over the menu and pick two entries that you would both like to try. Then order both and let the sampling begin. The only rule is you cannot get food off the other persons plate! You must have them cut it and feed it to you. This is a great exercise for getting in touch with each other. You can also do this with finger food, which ends up being supper sexy for the both of you. Click on the title line of this post to few a finger foods page so that you can start feeding each other at home.

For an even greater experience pick to dinners that are on opposite ends of the spectrum. Like pick one dish that is spicy and one that is sweet. The combination of the two will keep your tast buds guessing.

Music Time - and time to get out of the soneage(Click here to download itunes)

I hope if your reading my blog here that you are pretty well versed with today's technology. Obviously you have a computer and I hope you have an ipod or another portable music device. If not go out to the store and get one today! My post today if about getting some great music for the two of you to listen to together and with an ipod it is so much more easy to do that then ever.

Let me start with asking you how many times do you get in the car for a trip and you have to decide who's music your going to listen to as you drive. We usually make it so the driver gets to choose the music. Well I want to suggest the two of you getting together to find songs that you both enjoy listening to. With the ipod it's very simple to download songs and you can even created different play list so that when you are not together you can listen to that music that only you like. So we are going to make the play list that you both like. You have to sit down together at the computer and pick an era or music style you both enjoy. iTunes will have an essentials list of the music from that ear or style. Next you and your sweety just go down the list and pick the songs you both love. Nix any that one of the partners doesn't like. This in itself can be fun seeing if you remember the songs and can name the artists. Now the next time you both get in the car to travel won't it be nice when you both can sing to the same song and enjoy it. It will make your trip so much better.

One word of caution ipods are addictive, so if possible you might want to get two or I might have to do a post on how not to fight over the ipod.

Aphrodisiac is not someone scared of afro's (Click here to find out more)

An Aphrodisiac is defined as a substance that increases sexual desire. I have seen countless lists of items that people claim increase sexual desire. I must admit I am a little skeptical of these list. I believe that some items might trigger a reaction in people. However I also believe that everyone is different and that their is no master list of aphrodisiacs. I for example cannot stomach oysters yet many people claim that they have magical aphoristically powers. When I eat them I usually end up running to the restroom to spit them out. Again I believe they might work for some people, but for me they do not. So my suggestion to you is to try several things and see what works best for you two. Spicy foods seem to get me a little hot under the collar. Click on the above title line to go to Wikipedia's page on aphrodisiacs, they have a list of herbs and foods that claim to work. Just go down the list and try each one at least the trying part could be fun. Sometimes just a thought put into your mind is enough to trigger a reaction, that could make you a little hot and bothered.

The Stars at Night Look Big and Bright (Click here to learn about constellations)

Here is a quickie that will be a wonderful event between you and your partner. Find some cushions, bean bag chairs, or even a blanket, and on the next clear warm summer night head outside. Arrange whatever sitting or laying device you have brought out and position it so that you can gaze skywards without straining your neck. Also, make sure that in this position you can touch or hold your partner. Then simply relax and enjoy the greatest light show in the universe. This is a great stress reliever also as it seems to put some perspective into your life. You could even brush up a little on your astronomy or even purchase a book showing the constellations so that you and your partner can enjoy trying to point them out to each other. If you have a quiet back yard, you might even bring out a little mood music or even just a taping of a waterfall or rain. But, first and foremost relax, take your time and enjoy searching the cosmos with your love.

Not a night person? You can do the same thing during a warm summer day, but instead of stars use clouds. Point out clouds and what their shapes look like to you, and then see what your partner sees in the same cloud. It is quite interesting to see the differences in your ideas. Don't be afraid to involve your children in this too. I love to hear the perspective of a young child, and this will bring you closer as a family, which will bring you closer as a couple.

Speed Cleaning, The Race is on! (click here to go to amazon and view the speed cleaning book)

No one and I mean no one like to think about spring cleaning. It takes so much time and effort and can ruin a absolutely pretty day. Well here is a way to add some fun into the cleaning. Make it a challenge between the two of you. Divide up the house or just pick a room a piece and see who can get done the fastest. Now the areas divided have to be about equal and you must decide how clean the area must be. After you have laid the ground work set a starting line and get down in a sprinters squat and if you have a staring pistol shoot it, if not just someone say go. Set up a extra chore for the loser such as having to fix dinner that night or something along that lines. Turn on some music and clean as quick as you can, pick in on each other from time to time to see where you stand. No cheating don't take things form your area and move them to your partners area (I know how you are guys). Run through your partners area from time to time to do a little trash talking, things like "I'm cleaning so fast it looks like your standing still" or "Are you cleaning or posing for a picture?" are some good ones. In the end your house will look better and you should have saved some time that you can spend together well after the loser finishing cooking a great supper.

Let's Dance (Click here to learn more about the health benifits of dance.)

When is the last time the two of you went dancing. Well I know, my wife and I have all the excusses. We can't find a sitter, we don't want to be out late, we don't like the bar scene, we could go on and on. Well you don't have to go out to dance. Today I want you to take this challenge. When you and your partner are together tonight put on some of your favorite music and get up and dance. The type of dance doesn't matter if you are a silly couple dance like a monkey, if your a couple well trained in the dance do a tango, but no matter what for you last dance make it a slow one. Pick a song where you can slow dance and get closes and just sway together. This makes the heart swoon.

Bored Games!

I think at some point and time in everyone's life they have played some type of board game. They can be challenging and fun. Some however are long a drawn out such as monopoly, for example. Well to make your game a little more exciting put a wager on it. Your wager can be anything from household chores to sexual challenges. The point being put something on the line as you play the game it make you take a whole lot more interest in it. A good idea I have found also is to set a limit for the game. You can say we will play for an hour and the one who has the most money at that time is the winner or you might say whoever reaches so many points wins. The point of this is to get the bore out of the board games. In today's society most people don't have 3 or 4 hours to play a game so just reduce the time a little and it makes it more fun.

If you are having trouble finding a way to make your board games more exciting. Then you need to do what a friend of mine suggests, and that is to put the word strip in front of the game title. That will always add a little excitement.

Volunteer Together (Click here to goto Volunteer Match.org)

Want to do something fun together and help out your fellow humans or beasts! Pick an organization and volunteer together. Not only do get to help others less fortunate than yourself. You get to spend quality time together working for a cause. Some suggestions might be the local human shelter, a homeless kitchen, or even at your local church. Anything where you are not the beneficiary of the action. As you walk away together arm in arm you will realize just how important your relationship is.

Above is a link to Volunteer Match. org for you to find a charity that matches the two of you!

Are you ready for your Oral Exam!

Okay time for some intimacy improvement topics ( if you are embarrassed by sex take scroll down to the next post) I am a firm believer in education and I think many people could benefit a lot by reading books that improve you sex life. I want to focus today on oral sex. Oral sex has been around forever it just until recently became a topic you could discuss in public. Most people enjoy either giving it or receiving it, or in my case I enjoy both. Oral sex is not just something you jump into it takes practice and some trial and error to get just the right combination for a couple. This is where the education comes into play. There are several books written on oral sex techniques and I suggest picking up one. Actually I suggest picking up two one for him and one for her. Below I have pasted some pictures of a few I think are beneficial however please browse around there are several to choose from. (I chose She comes first, Tickle his pickle, The low down on going down, and Blow him away.)

Clicking on the title link will take you to Amazon.com where you will find a bunch of books on this subject.