Be Sexy all Day long.

You know being sexy shouldn't just start when you hit the bedroom. You should get your partner ready all day long. Yes, it is okay to tease them if your intentions are good. Kisses their neck, rub your hand across their butt, or just wink at them from across the living room. Let them know that tonight they are going to be one lucky person. If they respond a little to much on the attack side, tell them to slow down they will get what they want. They just have to be patient. Make this last all day and when you finally get them in the bedroom take your time there also. Slow it down to a crawl. Yes, you will be driving them wild but it will be so worth it for both of your when you get there.

You can put sex into anything you do you just have to think about it a little. Eating a hot dog can drive your man wild, playing with a woman's hair is a real turn on, walk out of the shower naked and surprise them or just tell them how sexy they look today. Let them catch you looking at them. This not only should get you feeling horny but it should also make your partner feel very special. You can find many ways to be sexy by going to the amazon sight on the sidebar and purchase some of the books I have marked.

Time to get your pictures organized.

Okay you are now a couple no matter how long you have been a couple you need to start putting your memories in order. By memories I mean pictures. If you have not purchased or own a camera do it today and start caring it with you no matter where you go. Take pictures when one of your sings karaoke, when you go on vacation, or at family functions or holidays. Then you need to find a good storage system for these pictures that allows you easy access to them at anytime. Today with digital pictures you can even store them on a form of media as long as you keep it safe. It may seem like a pain in the butt to organize the pictures after each event but believe me you will be glad you did ten years down the road. If you don't you will be finding pictures and wondering when and where they were taken. If nothing else at least but a date on them and a brief description of what was happening. Sometimes our memories will pull up all the details form the past but sometimes we need a little refresher. Document the special and not so special times of your relationship, it will be worth it when you can bore your grandchildren by showing them every step of your life.

A Hint of Role Play

In most couples it seems that one partner is a little hesitant to embark on role playing. For starters role playing can be fun and is a very healthy part of a relationship. It doesn't mean your partner wants someone else or that you are not good enough. It just means they want to spice things up a bit. If you are that partner that pulls back from role play a little, I want you to try and overcome your fear. Once you can get past it I am sure you will enjoy looking or acting a little different with your partner.

So here is my suggestion to those reluctant for role playing. Start out very small things like wearing a wig or trying to use a foreign accent, could be exciting. Maybe just go out and pick up a simple mask that just covers your eyes, you know like the Lone Ranger wore. There are endless little things that can make love making more exciting for both of you. At the very bottom of the scale you could just go out and get some sexy new underwear and surprise your lover, or some sexy stockings. Men you can change your facial hair or get a uniform shirt to surprise your partner. Get a new haircut, rent a car for the evening, or just wear something you would never wear. Doing something different will make your partner do a double take at you.

You can always move up if you start to get comfortable and you don't always have to include role play into your sex life. Heck we do it sometimes just for fun calling each other different names of speaking differently in public can be exciting also. One thing couples thing of when you say role play is that they have to have elaborate costumes and totally get into the role. Well you don't, you just have to find a level at which you are comfortable at and that is good enough. Heck something as simple as wearing different nail polish might drive your partner wild.

Now get out there and find something you are comfortable with and do it. Chances are you might enjoy it more then you think. Clink on the title of this post for some cute and fun costumes to spice things up.

Dreams go up on the Board

As a couple we have so many dreams and hopes that we are striving for. Sometimes we lose sight of these things and sometimes both of us are not on the same page. Why not make a dream board together. You can pick up the materials at your local discount store. A cork board big enough to house all your dreams and some thumb tacks are all you need. Maybe a view magazines to find pictures in or use the ones you already have at home. Now work together starting with the big stuff and figure out what the two of you are striving for. Find your dream house and tack it up. Get some images of jobs you would like have. Put up a map of where you want to live. Get fake money to show what you want to be earning. Post items such as vacations destinations, cars, boats, big screen televisions, or anything you would love to enjoy. Then at least once a week (Daily would be better) together look at your board. Constantly add things to it as they arise in your thoughts, and when you get one of the thing on your board take it down to make room for the next dream. If you are familar with the Law of Attraction this will help you bring to yourself what you want.

Pick out Your Song!

Everyone and every couple needs a theme song. So today pick out a song that they two of you will consider your song. It can be one from when you were dating or one you just heard today and you both enjoy. Find one that has lyrics that seem to fit your relationship or has some special meaning for the two of you. That's it now you have "YOUR" song. Now every time you hear it you will think of each other. Make sure you purchase your song on itunes or any other form of media so that you have it whenever the two of you are alone and wanting to be romantic. Don't be ashamed to tell people it's your song either, and tell them why it is important to you. Unless of coarse it might be Nine Inch Nails version of "I want to F*** you like an animal" then it might be kinda obvious.

Thank you very much....

You know in a relationship we sometimes start to take each other for granted. You know what I mean you expect your partner to do the things they always do. We forget how special it is when they get us a drink so we don't have to get up, or fix a problem for us just because we asked. We get comfortable and relaxed that are partners are always there for us because they are, always there (well most of the time anyway). Today I want you to make a list of everything your partner does that either helps you out or is just a nice thing to do. Get a little paper to care around with you and jot down when they open the door for you, or start your car on a cold morning. So many of the little things we forget, like getting us out a towel for our morning shower, or downloading a file for us on the computer. Even things like getting the kids dressed or getting them to sleep, while we do something else is a big plus.

Are you starting to see where I am going. We need to thank our partners for not only all of these things but for being the kind sweet person they are. Now I am sure there are times when they don't get something done you wanted them too. For the most part I am sure the good our weighs the bad in a big way. When we started seeing this person we were attracted to them and our passions were high, so how come this passion doesn't get hotter as we spend more time together? This person we love spending time with does so much for the both of us we should celebrate it every night.

I know it is a little bit tough to celebrate every night. Tonight however bring your list to bed and read if off to your partner. Tell them how these things made your day better and then thank them with a great big kiss. Look deep in their eyes when you thank them, so that they know how much you mean it. If you so desire you can thank them even more once the lights go out, I am sure they will be thankful for that!

Survey Results

Recently we conducted a survey on how often our viewers made love. We guessed pretty good on the outcome but were a little surprise at something. Sixty percent of The Couples Spot Viewers made love 2-3 times per week. This fit pretty well with the national percentage and I feel is a pretty good number to aim for in any relationship. Now what surprised me was that thirty percent of our viewers checked the "What is Sex" button. Meaning that they had sex less then once a month. This is a little disturbing, I can understand having months with dry spells but to constantly have this lack of sex in your life doesn't make much sense. Read some of our earlier posts on the advantages and health benefits of sex. We had a percentage of five for both of the once a week answer and the five or more times a week answer. We here at The Couples Spot feel these numbers are pretty accurate with the national percentages. We are concerned that maybe more people then we know need a boost in the sexual department within their relationships. So we will still be here giving as much advice as we can to hopefully get those "What is Sex" people back on the right track.

Play a game while not together

Here is a cute little thing to do if you can't be together. Maybe your at a conference or at work and you want to stay connected with your partner. Play a little game using your cell phones text messaging feature. The easiest way to do this is to text each other trivia questions. Grab some cards from your trivial pursuit game and take turns asking each other questions. This game can go on for hours and don't expect immediate responses. Type in your questions and when your partner gets a chance they will try to answer. If they guess right then it is their turn to type in the next question. If they get it wrong you have to reply with the correct answer and then they type the next question. Again this is a fun way to stay connected when you are apart. It doesn't tie you down or take much of your time. You just use short messages and leave it at that until you can check your phone again.

Any games with cards with questions on them will do. I mentioned trivia pursuit earlier, you could also use What Would you Do, or one of my favorites is "Loaded Questions" They even have similar game as iPhone applications that can give you several questions to ask. Your partner will feel great that you are thinking about them while you are apart. You can click on the title post to take you to the loaded questions web site to pick up one of their games. Make sure to tell them that The Couples Spot sent you. Make sure to check out the Adult Version of Loaded Questions shown above.

Porn Night!

Welcome to Saturday night. I want you to do everything you want to this night, go out and eat, go to a movie, or go out clubbing. When you get home however I want you to watch some good old fashioned porn together. Before you make love and download or slip an old porn movie in. Get one from the seventies before people learned to shave their genitals. Don't take it serious though laugh at the silly plots or make wagers on how the actors are going to get off. It will loosen you both up, for a great night of getting to know each other a little better. Maybe even try something silly from the movie and see if it is possible. Enjoy the great porn music and maybe even find a catch phrase they two of you can use to signal each other you would love to have sex. For example "Pizza delivery" might be a good one or "Plumbers here to check your pipes" Again make fun of these old porn movies and watch how cheesy they are. Then attack each other after you get your laughs in.

Tell each other how happy you are!

Today I want you to make a point of telling each other how happy you are in your relationship. Just start blurting things out to your partner and let them take a turn at returning the list. In the middle somewhere tell them things you would like to work on and again give them time to rebuttal. It is my feelings that you should do this at least every month. Make a date of it, on a Sunday afternoon or Tuesday night plan to watch a movie together afterwards or just set a cuddle the night away.

Any way you can build communication is a plus and doing it in a positive manner like this really helps a relationship. No matter how the conversation turns always end on a positive note. After speaking your last bit make sure to hug your partner.