Thank you very much....

You know in a relationship we sometimes start to take each other for granted. You know what I mean you expect your partner to do the things they always do. We forget how special it is when they get us a drink so we don't have to get up, or fix a problem for us just because we asked. We get comfortable and relaxed that are partners are always there for us because they are, always there (well most of the time anyway). Today I want you to make a list of everything your partner does that either helps you out or is just a nice thing to do. Get a little paper to care around with you and jot down when they open the door for you, or start your car on a cold morning. So many of the little things we forget, like getting us out a towel for our morning shower, or downloading a file for us on the computer. Even things like getting the kids dressed or getting them to sleep, while we do something else is a big plus.

Are you starting to see where I am going. We need to thank our partners for not only all of these things but for being the kind sweet person they are. Now I am sure there are times when they don't get something done you wanted them too. For the most part I am sure the good our weighs the bad in a big way. When we started seeing this person we were attracted to them and our passions were high, so how come this passion doesn't get hotter as we spend more time together? This person we love spending time with does so much for the both of us we should celebrate it every night.

I know it is a little bit tough to celebrate every night. Tonight however bring your list to bed and read if off to your partner. Tell them how these things made your day better and then thank them with a great big kiss. Look deep in their eyes when you thank them, so that they know how much you mean it. If you so desire you can thank them even more once the lights go out, I am sure they will be thankful for that!

Survey Results

Recently we conducted a survey on how often our viewers made love. We guessed pretty good on the outcome but were a little surprise at something. Sixty percent of The Couples Spot Viewers made love 2-3 times per week. This fit pretty well with the national percentage and I feel is a pretty good number to aim for in any relationship. Now what surprised me was that thirty percent of our viewers checked the "What is Sex" button. Meaning that they had sex less then once a month. This is a little disturbing, I can understand having months with dry spells but to constantly have this lack of sex in your life doesn't make much sense. Read some of our earlier posts on the advantages and health benefits of sex. We had a percentage of five for both of the once a week answer and the five or more times a week answer. We here at The Couples Spot feel these numbers are pretty accurate with the national percentages. We are concerned that maybe more people then we know need a boost in the sexual department within their relationships. So we will still be here giving as much advice as we can to hopefully get those "What is Sex" people back on the right track.

Play a game while not together

Here is a cute little thing to do if you can't be together. Maybe your at a conference or at work and you want to stay connected with your partner. Play a little game using your cell phones text messaging feature. The easiest way to do this is to text each other trivia questions. Grab some cards from your trivial pursuit game and take turns asking each other questions. This game can go on for hours and don't expect immediate responses. Type in your questions and when your partner gets a chance they will try to answer. If they guess right then it is their turn to type in the next question. If they get it wrong you have to reply with the correct answer and then they type the next question. Again this is a fun way to stay connected when you are apart. It doesn't tie you down or take much of your time. You just use short messages and leave it at that until you can check your phone again.

Any games with cards with questions on them will do. I mentioned trivia pursuit earlier, you could also use What Would you Do, or one of my favorites is "Loaded Questions" They even have similar game as iPhone applications that can give you several questions to ask. Your partner will feel great that you are thinking about them while you are apart. You can click on the title post to take you to the loaded questions web site to pick up one of their games. Make sure to tell them that The Couples Spot sent you. Make sure to check out the Adult Version of Loaded Questions shown above.

Porn Night!

Welcome to Saturday night. I want you to do everything you want to this night, go out and eat, go to a movie, or go out clubbing. When you get home however I want you to watch some good old fashioned porn together. Before you make love and download or slip an old porn movie in. Get one from the seventies before people learned to shave their genitals. Don't take it serious though laugh at the silly plots or make wagers on how the actors are going to get off. It will loosen you both up, for a great night of getting to know each other a little better. Maybe even try something silly from the movie and see if it is possible. Enjoy the great porn music and maybe even find a catch phrase they two of you can use to signal each other you would love to have sex. For example "Pizza delivery" might be a good one or "Plumbers here to check your pipes" Again make fun of these old porn movies and watch how cheesy they are. Then attack each other after you get your laughs in.

Tell each other how happy you are!

Today I want you to make a point of telling each other how happy you are in your relationship. Just start blurting things out to your partner and let them take a turn at returning the list. In the middle somewhere tell them things you would like to work on and again give them time to rebuttal. It is my feelings that you should do this at least every month. Make a date of it, on a Sunday afternoon or Tuesday night plan to watch a movie together afterwards or just set a cuddle the night away.

Any way you can build communication is a plus and doing it in a positive manner like this really helps a relationship. No matter how the conversation turns always end on a positive note. After speaking your last bit make sure to hug your partner.

You drive then I drive

If your like most couples one of your is the dominate driver. That is the person that drives most of the time you go places. It is natural and some people love to drive. Well the next time you go on a trip of even just a long drive. Make sure to bust up the driving time equally. This gives both of you change to relax and enjoy the scenery it also allows both of you to be the gopher and the conversation starter. We have a lot of great conversations driving places and most of the time they start by one of us reading about something and then discussing it. As partners we want to both be refreshed when we get to our destination so splitting the drive will allow both of us down time to sleep of just put the seat back and stretch out. We all have heard about jet lag but car lag can be just as bad.

So you can bust up the time as you like but I suggest stopping or pulling over every hour or two hours to switch drivers. Never let one person drive more than two hours at a time. They will get a stiff neck or just be a little more tense then if they would have not driven that much. Take breaks and stop to see odd things along the way. Get a copy of Weird America and find some of the topic in the book it will make your trip so much more enjoyable.

Split time at kids events.

As parents we are always struggling to find time for everything. This might seem a little crazy but I want you to take turns going to your children's events. Things such as baseball game where there are about a hundred (a little exaggeration) each summer, swim lessons, or any type practice your child could possible have. Here is the point I want to make with this, when you miss one of your child's events, have you partner give you the play by play of what happened. You get to see how he/she saw the event unfold and get their perspective on it. You can even get your child's perspective on what happened. This way you get communication started between not only your partner and you but your child as well. Don't let either one of them just say "it was okay" ask for details. Even if your child struck out everytime they got up, see if they nipped the ball or almost got hit by a pitch. Encourage them to elaborate on the event. This might help you later in life when you need to talk to them about more important things such as sex or drugs. Everywhere we turn people say we need better communication and what a better way to exercise your communication skill then this method.

Look through a sexy catalog together

Next time you get a Victoria's Secret catalog in the mail, or any other sexy clothing catalog. Take some time to look through it together. Show each other what you find sexy and things you wouldn't be caught dead in. This helps build understanding of what the other partner likes. So the next time you are out picking a gift you can match it with your partners style. Then maybe they will wear what you bring home instead of throwing in a drawer never to be seen again. If you do get something you don't want to wear be brave and tell you partner, ask it you can go together and exchange it for something you will wear. That is a win win situation. You get something you can use and your partner gets something sexy to see you in.

Post Number 100 - Get between their toes.

Ladies and Gentlemen I would like to thank you for following me enought to get my 100th Post.

In this post I am going to encourage you to work a little magic on your partner. I am sure you all read my earlier post on foot massages and reflexology. Well today I want you to expore this a little more and venture between you partners fingers and toes. Very seldom do we touch each otehr here. We mostly avoid these areas. Why? I don't know. Everyone I talk to says they are very erogenous land they effect other areas that you might not think they would. One reflexology reserch I read suggests that if you massage the area between the big toe and the one right beside it you will send triggers to the sexual organs and will encrease you orgasm. So tonight try this before you begin your love making retuial and help me celebrate my 100th episode.

Oh, but don't think about me while your getting in one, unless it helps you enjoy yourself then fire away.

Making Relationships Strong

I know you have probably heard every trick to making your relationship strong and solid. I am here to tell you the best way is to have a great sex life together. Research shows that couples that have a great sex life have a stronger and more profound life in general together. They are generally more healthy and able to do more things together. Most of them also list their partner as their best friend. People in general who have a great sex life are more confident, and efficient.

I hear so often how people are consumed by trying to have a better sex life that other parts of their life fall apart. So if you take the sex equation out of their problem list it frees up a lot more time to concentrate on other things. Plus why would anyone want to deprive their partner from feeling great. If you care about your partner at all then you should want to enjoy sex with them. Now problems do arise and I understand that but there are many different types of sex that can be enjoyed so I don't buy that excuse list.

So if you want your relationship to hit the pinnacle you need to make your sex life a priority. Not just for one of you for both of you. This goes both ways. Try it for three to six months and see watch and see how much it improves your relationship. I am sure you will find out it has positive results. You have to make the commitment your relationship needs it.